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Cattledog

(5,911 posts)
Tue Jan 22, 2019, 07:50 PM Jan 2019

What Catholic-School Alums Think of the MAGA Teens

‘I have been on the receiving end of that stare.’

[The Covington incident] all felt very familiar — the disrespect to elders, to indigenous people. There was a field trip my class took once, and on the way back an indigenous woman approached the bus to sell her handicrafts and some of my classmates taunted her with questions and double entendres.

It all felt very familiar. I am familiar with that bullying smirk. I have been on the receiving end of that stare. As an overweight and effeminate not-yet-out gay teen in the late ’90s and early ’00s I was bullied on a daily basis. That “I’m not doing anything, I’m just staring at you, so you can’t tell on me” look is forever burned on my brain, that entitled smirk. Being in a Catholic school that teaches that homosexuality is a sin only made them more entitled to believe they were in the right. It was a huge part of the environment; a macho, misogynistic, classist, athletic culture was not only the norm but sometimes even encouraged.


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What Catholic-School Alums Think of the MAGA Teens (Original Post) Cattledog Jan 2019 OP
KICK! Cha Jan 2019 #1
People talk about being afraid of AA men Bettie Jan 2019 #2
This EffieBlack Jan 2019 #3
Kick this one. Kingofalldems Jan 2019 #4
He's got it perfectly gratuitous Jan 2019 #5
Yes. It's the "What are you gonna do about it" look lunatica Jan 2019 #6
And the smirk so easily becomes the laughter that Dr. Ford is haunted by. May they all fierywoman Jan 2019 #7
Thanks for that reminder of her experience lunatica Jan 2019 #9
I was on the receiving end of that stare -- from public school boys. pnwmom Jan 2019 #8
I was too, from another girl lunatica Jan 2019 #10
Oh, I love this story. fierywoman Jan 2019 #11
LOL! lunatica Jan 2019 #12

Bettie

(16,079 posts)
2. People talk about being afraid of AA men
Tue Jan 22, 2019, 08:47 PM
Jan 2019

frankly, in my experience, the ones who are truly dangerous are young white males from wealthy families because they know that they can get away with pretty much any behavior short of public murder...and then, they'll probably still get away with it.

gratuitous

(82,849 posts)
5. He's got it perfectly
Tue Jan 22, 2019, 09:10 PM
Jan 2019

The smiling smirk is the shield of invincibility: "You can't tell on me, and I will bide my time until I can serve you right."

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
6. Yes. It's the "What are you gonna do about it" look
Tue Jan 22, 2019, 09:51 PM
Jan 2019

knowing full well the person being bullied can’t do anything about it.

fierywoman

(7,673 posts)
7. And the smirk so easily becomes the laughter that Dr. Ford is haunted by. May they all
Tue Jan 22, 2019, 09:55 PM
Jan 2019

rot in hell, all of the fucking bastards.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
9. Thanks for that reminder of her experience
Tue Jan 22, 2019, 10:06 PM
Jan 2019

It was what stayed with her for decades. The laughter at her expense.

How painful!

pnwmom

(108,960 posts)
8. I was on the receiving end of that stare -- from public school boys.
Tue Jan 22, 2019, 10:04 PM
Jan 2019

It's just your basic smug, entitled, challenging, bullying stare, from teenage boys who could be attending any school.

And the adult chaperones of that school trip were wrong not to intervene.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
10. I was too, from another girl
Tue Jan 22, 2019, 10:29 PM
Jan 2019

She was trying to stare me down, making faces at me and being egged on by her laughing and jeering friends. She had been bullying me for days. She thrust her face at me trying to make me take a step back. To everyone’s surprise, including mine a slapped her hard. Everyone shut up suddenly and I could see her face and theirs looking roundeyed in shock. Then one jerk, a boy, started to threaten me saying, “If you ever do that again...” . I was so furious that I said, “Or what!?” And looked him right in the eye. He literally mumbled something and sat down averting his eyes. Everyone else did the same.

It was typical bullying crap with a cheerleading gang chanting their support of the bully.

But after that what happened was unexpected. I had just decided I would have to fight them from then on. What happened was the cheerleaders just switched their support and loyalty from her to me. It was like an animal troupe choosing the stronger leader to follow. They actually didn’t care that I never bullied anyone.

Another thing that happened which kind of makes sense is the students who were normally bullied stuck by me too. When they were with me they knew they were safe. It was just some unwritten weird rule.

Human nature is very little evolved in some aspects. I am glad to remember that I was actually a decent person about it.

fierywoman

(7,673 posts)
11. Oh, I love this story.
Tue Jan 22, 2019, 11:06 PM
Jan 2019

I slapped a few men on the metro in Mexico City at various times, and as I did I would yell PINCHE PENDEJO CABRON!!! And all the women in aprons would burst into giggles. The men would melt away.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
12. LOL!
Tue Jan 22, 2019, 11:23 PM
Jan 2019

I had a friend that would just call them IMBECIL. They just withered right in front of your eyes and slouched away.

Ahh! Memories!

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