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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI have a facebook stalker...
Seriously. One of my "friends" keeps posting things I find politically offensive on my facebook page just to get a reaction out of me. This has happened three times so far and here is what he left today:
XXX, I promise to stop bothering you politically now, and resolve to respect you and your opinions, but this painting is filled with truth, the evidence to support it, and is all of the proof you need to see what is really going on. Just wanted to share for two reasons, 1. To give you the opportunity to see the other side and 2. because I was curious to see how you've already been trained to rebuke it.
Since when is this an acceptable practice to do to someone?? Has anyone else had this happen to them?
Butterbean
(1,014 posts)southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)TeamPooka
(24,210 posts)Panasonic
(2,921 posts)they take stalking seriously.
And ask them what does Obama have to do with 9/11 (since it was not under his watch)
virgogal
(10,178 posts)from a friend eliminated just because they were constant and boring.
It's easy to do and solves the problem.
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)If you're "friends" on FB, then he probably thinks he can have a conversation with you. You can either block him or defriend him or just ignore him. It's up to you.
SaveAmerica
(5,342 posts)Blue Belle
(5,912 posts)Classy.
peacebird
(14,195 posts)kestrel91316
(51,666 posts)bluestate10
(10,942 posts)Take the damned options that you have to get rid of the asshole.
Robyn66
(1,675 posts)Its just not worth it with people who are so disrespectful. They are not really your friends anyway. BTW, what the hell is this picture supposed to signify anyway?
ohheckyeah
(9,314 posts)That's what I do.
barbtries
(28,774 posts)but you can block him and you can report his posts as spam and possibly even harassment.
Dash87
(3,220 posts)Sending you multiple obscene messages.
Then there's the other weirdos that randomly start stalking you and sending you many personal messages, despite never meeting you in their lives. Some of it was really depraved and scary.
I don't use Facebook anymore, but the ppl on there really creep me out.
Care Acutely
(1,370 posts)is not my friend.
Unfriend and block after you tell them as much, and tell them that you do hope they will enjoy Obama's second term with a little more optimism and little less fear and hate. GOODBYE.
EOTE
(13,409 posts)And you know what they say about pictures, they're worth a thousand words.
However, an appropriate rebuttal to the picture could be made to the picture by using only 3 words:
GO FUCK YOURSELF!
But if you'd like to actually address your "friend", why don't you ask your friend to actually give you something to rebut and use his "big boy words". Words can be far more easily refuted than pictures.
Ian David
(69,059 posts)Then, go down through THEIR Friends List, and block anyone who isn't a mutual friend.
Then, block any mutual "friends" who you think might be problematic.
And then, finally unfriend and block the bastard.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)How does one rebuke a pile of shit like that?
BarackTheVote
(938 posts)I found the artist's website at one point, but i can't remember his name. I'm a sucker for the classical style... it's just heartbreaking that someone with so much raw technical talent can use their art for such hateful ends ):
Blue Belle
(5,912 posts)And then I posted:
But if you really want to know what I think when I think about your post...
Iris
(15,649 posts)Raine
(30,540 posts)uppityperson
(115,677 posts)broiles
(1,367 posts)you don't need to subject yourself to this shit.
JHB
(37,157 posts)Ok, that question answers itself: as dumb as the stalker who posted it.
Iris
(15,649 posts)friend. I'd block the bastard.
patrice
(47,992 posts)Iris
(15,649 posts)RevStPatrick
(2,208 posts)A guy I went to grammar and high school with, 30/40 years ago.
I don't mind when he posts shit like that on my wall, as I and all my other friends totally destroy him, and he becomes an inarticulate blob of conservapoop. On the one hand, it is really quite amusing, on the other hand it is totally sad. Frankly, I don't know many wing-nuts in real life at all, so it's not something I have to deal with much.
I let it happen because it gives me an opportunity to refine my arguments. It gives me writing practice and allows me to clarify my own thinking. I have a vague fantasy that I will at some point cause the spark that changes this fellow's perspective, but I'm not invested in that notion.
Actually, what fascinates me the most about him is the idea that two people who grew up in the same time and the same place with the same interests and the same friends could have ended up so different. We casually keep in touch with a bunch of other high school friends, all of whom are politically somewhere in between us. Most of them don't want to be bothered by it and tell him to shut up. I'm the only one who invites it and doesn't blow him off when he spews. In some way, I feel that I owe him my honesty as we were children together and many other people in his life have written him off as a wing-nut-job.
But that's just me.
Your mileage may vary...
ksoze
(2,068 posts)You can keep him as a friend and simply block his post from being seen by you. After November, you can quietly unblock his posts and see how he is with Obama for four more years. All of this can be done without him aware that you have elected to not see his posts, but it is not him controlling the situation it is you.
patrice
(47,992 posts)sources for ignorance, bigotry and bias.
nolabear
(41,938 posts)You will never change this person's pov and you're just being abused. 4. Unfriend.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)F. Kafka
(70 posts)Just a thought.
RandiFan1290
(6,224 posts)They needed to come here to post the picture first.
Indpndnt
(2,391 posts)Create a folder under Friends on the left of your newsfeed and make him the sole person whose posts go into that folder. This way, you have the choice whether or not to open that folder. It'll light up red with the number of new posts in there, so you'll get a heads-up.
Personally, I'd unfriend him.
discopants
(535 posts)(courtesy of Wonkette)
LTR
(13,227 posts)I sort my friends into certain groups, such as high school, college, local, etc. I also have one called 'penalty box' for possible troublemakers. You can set privileges for these groups.
I have many FB friends who are hardcore Republicans. I respect their opinions as they respect mine. I don't want everyone to believe everything I believe. One of the great things about this country is that we can agree to disagree.
That said, no way in hell would I ever tolerate anyone posting that shit on my wall. Anyone who shows that level of disrespect goes right to defriend status. It's all about respect.
patrice
(47,992 posts)the sake of disagreement.
If neither party in the agreement to disagree actually knows authentically precisely what it is that they have agreed to disagree about, where's the respect in that?
Where's the respect in "respecting" something that cannot STAND for itself against a few challenging questions? or for analysis of any kind? Questions and analysis directed toward understanding a point-of-view so well that you in fact KNOW why it is that you disagree with it, instead of just sticking generic talking-point labels on it, from your favorite file of same, and mistaking buzzz words for content and taking advantage of that ruse as grounds to "agree to disagree".
I think we have for too long let others do our thinking for us and, because we don't know how to disagree respectfully, or don't want to, we run from one another rather than risk that kind of vulnerability in our own thinking. This is how the media does what it does to this country.
Blue Belle
(5,912 posts)is I have no one. Absolutely no one that will stick up for me even though this jackass is doing this to me. None of my "friends" will say anything. That's how it always is. I should know better than to think I would have anyone have my back.
Mz Pip
(27,433 posts)And kick his ass. Honey Mz Pip don't give a shit.
Blue Belle
(5,912 posts)Thanks.
Marrah_G
(28,581 posts)You are allowing this. It is very easy to stop this person from bothering you. Block the person. Don't just unfriend, use the block function and this person will vanish from your facebook world. I'm sure no one sticking up for you because they expect you to simply block the person.
cags
(1,914 posts)Marrah_G
(28,581 posts)Clearly they are a jerk who thinks very little of you as a person.
octothorpe
(962 posts)unless the person is following you around to other people's pages (or other sites) to give you hassles. Just unfriend and block the person if they are bothering you. That's why those features exist on sites like that.
Mr Dixon
(1,185 posts)alcibiades_mystery
(36,437 posts)Done.
Amaril
(1,267 posts)Newsflash, hon -- 9/11 happened under Bush's watch - not Obama's - so you've got yourself an epic FAIL right out of the gate........and when something is such a blatant fail at first freaking glance, I simply won't waste time trying to decipher all the coded (racist, homophobic, xenophobic, misogynistic - I'm sure they're all there plus more) messages contained in it.
Now, tell me -- does membership in that "other side" of which you speak automatically come with the "boorish behavior" option, or did you have to pay extra for that feature?
Oh, and one last thing before I unfriend you..................it really is quite adorable that you believe YOUR -- after all, who the fetch are you, anyway? -- opinion of my beliefs, morals, ideals and principles might actually mean something to me. Sorry, schmoopy, you just aren't as special as you seem to think you are.
Unfriend and move on. Life is way too short to spend even a moment of it being aggravated by an asshat like that.
Here -- you look like you could use one of these: