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Canuckistanian

(42,290 posts)
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 02:21 AM Mar 2013

Christian school fires pregnant teacher for premarital sex. Then hires father.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/01/teri-james-pregnant-woman-fired-premarital-sex-christian-school_n_2790085.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000009

A former employee at a Christian college has enlisted the help of high-profile attorney Gloria Allred to sue a California school that allegedly fired her for engaging in premarital sex, NBC's "Today" reports. In a bizarre twist, the school reportedly went on to offer the pregnant woman's job to her then-fiance.


Apologies if this has been posted already, but this chaps my ass.
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Christian school fires pregnant teacher for premarital sex. Then hires father. (Original Post) Canuckistanian Mar 2013 OP
well maybe he was already married to someone else. eom arely staircase Mar 2013 #1
No! This was the same sexual act that caused the pregnancy Canuckistanian Mar 2013 #2
yeah, but he is married, she is not arely staircase Mar 2013 #4
No, it makes him a sinner in violation of his wedding vows jmowreader Mar 2013 #15
ok that made me lol this morning you get a Gold Star. Volaris Mar 2013 #29
If you read the article, the "father" is her husband, at the time, her fiance duffyduff Mar 2013 #36
By offering the father a job, knowing that he is the father (and has married the pregnant 1monster Mar 2013 #40
Yep ... 1StrongBlackMan Mar 2013 #59
That was sarcasm? IrishAyes Mar 2013 #53
thanks arely staircase Mar 2013 #58
That IS disgusting. CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2013 #3
Sad, isn't it, my dear Peggy. nt awoke_in_2003 Mar 2013 #16
Figures. silverweb Mar 2013 #5
The same moral "authority" for the one can be claimed for the other Demo_Chris Mar 2013 #13
And conveniently, God is the father, the son & the holy spirit. CrispyQ Mar 2013 #21
I agree completely Demo_Chris Mar 2013 #38
superb. n/t BlancheSplanchnik Mar 2013 #39
Wow great illustration. LiberalLovinLug Mar 2013 #50
The Puritans IrishAyes Mar 2013 #55
Sometimes I wonder if I regret having left my church. Initech Mar 2013 #6
Doesn't surprise me. Zoeisright Mar 2013 #7
We aren't all like that. dawg Mar 2013 #43
Most of the world IrishAyes Mar 2013 #56
Current students and alumni Downwinder Mar 2013 #8
oh FUCK no... Volaris Mar 2013 #30
Founded by Tim LaHaye, author of the end times Left Behind books. Initech Mar 2013 #45
Sounds like the fifties all over again. Girl gets called a slut and the guy gets a pat on the back. appleannie1 Mar 2013 #9
In some ways, the 50s never left. n/t LadyHawkAZ Mar 2013 #10
Sounds like the Bible story ohheckyeah Mar 2013 #11
It's worse: He got a job, and the "church" got to hustle in public. Eleanors38 Mar 2013 #31
To be fair... jberryhill Mar 2013 #12
That made me laugh, then cry. -nt CrispyQ Mar 2013 #22
You win. Brigid Mar 2013 #28
But wait, maybe she was being a concubine.. Permanut Mar 2013 #14
Yessir IrishAyes Mar 2013 #57
american christianity has some tenacious misogyny sigmasix Mar 2013 #17
No doubt that this is disparate treatment, it's so blatant it's crazy ck4829 Mar 2013 #18
The great irony of this is that the mother, who almost certainly is a regular church goer is going grantcart Mar 2013 #19
I hope she wins and bankrupts the school. Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #20
I had to check to see if it was my college's sister school. knitter4democracy Mar 2013 #23
Nutfuckery! lonestarnot Mar 2013 #24
There isn't much that can be said about this. gollygee Mar 2013 #25
Indeed. ananda Mar 2013 #26
Would anyone have been OK with this if... Bay Boy Mar 2013 #27
That's the problem here. Unequal treatment. duffyduff Mar 2013 #35
The whole point of this is that the school's saying "this is bad only if you're a woman." (nt) Posteritatis Mar 2013 #37
They can stop calling it a "Christian" school for starters. They are far from Christian. judesedit Mar 2013 #32
A Talibornagain school. HooptieWagon Mar 2013 #33
This is clearly sex discrimination and she should get a big settlement duffyduff Mar 2013 #34
Is this the school's logic? SwissTony Mar 2013 #41
Interesting gopiscrap Mar 2013 #42
Don't look now, Christian college, your hypocrisy is showing. City Lights Mar 2013 #44
Gawd's in the mix !! blkmusclmachine Mar 2013 #46
Might it have been a misguided back-door way to give the couple a salary? WinkyDink Mar 2013 #47
How Long Have These Life Style Contracts DallasNE Mar 2013 #48
So now she has a sex driscimination suit. The school had better settle, McCamy Taylor Mar 2013 #49
Other reports said the woman's husband turned the job down. n/t duffyduff Mar 2013 #51
Bunch of Effin Hypocrites benld74 Mar 2013 #52
Did he apply for the job? Smilo Mar 2013 #54
This is so weird... Quantess Mar 2013 #60

Canuckistanian

(42,290 posts)
2. No! This was the same sexual act that caused the pregnancy
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 02:27 AM
Mar 2013

But it was the WOMAN who was punished, not the man.

When will this misogynist shit end?

arely staircase

(12,482 posts)
4. yeah, but he is married, she is not
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 02:37 AM
Mar 2013

making him a lovable rogue and her a dirty whore. now let's hope his wife stands by her man and the dirty wore lives a life of eternal shame.

sarcasm icon omitted due to my confidence in my fellow DUrs to recognize it.

jmowreader

(50,555 posts)
15. No, it makes him a sinner in violation of his wedding vows
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 04:27 AM
Mar 2013

Last I checked, every Christian wedding vow includes the words "forsaking all others." The only thing this guy forsook was a condom.

 

duffyduff

(3,251 posts)
36. If you read the article, the "father" is her husband, at the time, her fiance
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 01:32 PM
Mar 2013

She was sacked when she was pregnant by him and then the school offered HIM a job.

I think there was an assumption there that if she was pregnant, she shouldn't be in the labor force and therefore the "head of the household," meaning her husband, should have the job instead.

It's blatant sex discrimination. The school is using the "premarital sex" nonsense as a cover when it is really a sexist attitude that is being displayed.

1monster

(11,012 posts)
40. By offering the father a job, knowing that he is the father (and has married the pregnant
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 06:03 PM
Mar 2013

woman), they have mooted their own argument that she was fired for premaital sex. Because if she was "guilty" for the act, since he was part of the act, he also would have been "guilty" for having premarital sex with her.

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
59. Yep ...
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 10:43 PM
Mar 2013

The school could sucessfully defend the pregnancy discrimination claim by asserting that the pregnancy was only the evidence of pre-marital sex ... and some court might have/have gone for it.

But by hiring the fiancee, they have made a text-book case of gender discrimination, that no court (even in this hands off religious institutions environment) can ignore without upsetting 50 years of precedent.

silverweb

(16,402 posts)
5. Figures.
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 02:39 AM
Mar 2013

[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]I'm sure these same people have no problem with lashing a raped 14-year-old to death while letting her rapist go free, either. They justify my cynicism. With these hypocritical pigs, it's always the female's sin and always the female who is punished.

 

Demo_Chris

(6,234 posts)
13. The same moral "authority" for the one can be claimed for the other
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 03:31 AM
Mar 2013

Once you decide to allow stone age superstitions (and their modern interpreters) to dictate your moral code, reason is out the window and potentially anything goes. Once you accept that someone who violates your religious code deserves punishment, you are already riding the crazy train and anything goes. One person might believe that a woman deserves to be fired from her job, another might believe she deserves to be branded, another that she deserves to be tortured to death.

The moral justification for all of these remains the same. All are based upon the same moral premise: that the life and rights of the individual are irrelevant when compared to the dictates of god.

CrispyQ

(36,460 posts)
21. And conveniently, God is the father, the son & the holy spirit.
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 10:40 AM
Mar 2013

From a very early age, I understood that women were not a part of the holy trinity, that we are lesser than men, in the eyes of religion. Religion is a tool to control & dominate. The entire set of women is included in those to be dominated, but also are men who are not part of the tribe, and men of the tribe, deemed not worthy, due to physical/mental ailments.

It isn't about the dictates of God. It's about the dictates of men who are in power. I don't know how successful the patriarchy could be without religion.

However, the rest of what you state about religion, I totally concur. I believe that if we could topple the "We Fool You" tier, human society would evolve in a more positive direction.



IrishAyes

(6,151 posts)
55. The Puritans
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 12:49 AM
Mar 2013

... who I believe eventually morphed into Congregationalists, sometimes stripped non-compliant or dissident women to the waist; they tied them to a wagon and made them follow behind while being lashed. They really hated Shakers. Think the Republicans would behave any better if they ever got the upper hand? I don't.

Initech

(100,065 posts)
6. Sometimes I wonder if I regret having left my church.
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 02:39 AM
Mar 2013

Then I read shit like this - and it makes me glad I did.

dawg

(10,624 posts)
43. We aren't all like that.
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 06:51 PM
Mar 2013

Lot's of DU'ers are Christian, and most of us think this school's decision is just as stupid as you think it is.

When Christ confronted the men who were about to stone a woman to death for adultery, it was obvious they were about to fulfill their barbaric law against her while the man who committed the same offense was going to go free. Jesus shamed them into letting her go. Stoning her wasn't fair. It was cruel. And none of them had any right to judge another person like that.

Christians are supposed to have learned something from Jesus' example there. Many of them didn't learn. But some of us took it to heart.

IrishAyes

(6,151 posts)
56. Most of the world
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 12:57 AM
Mar 2013

... only thinks of the bad witnesses, it seems. That's understandable, but really incompatible with a rational assessment. People shouldn't blame the song when half the choir's offkey.

ohheckyeah

(9,314 posts)
11. Sounds like the Bible story
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 03:20 AM
Mar 2013

of the woman being stoned because she was caught in the act. Jesus intervened saying "he who is without sin caste the first stone". Where was the man she was caught with? Why wasn't he being stoned?

Things haven't change all that much.

Permanut

(5,602 posts)
14. But wait, maybe she was being a concubine..
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 04:12 AM
Mar 2013

2 Samuel 5:13

And David took more concubines and wives from Jerusalem, after he came from Hebron, and more sons and daughters were born to David.

Sarcasm aside, I hope she recovers enough from the school that they have to shut down. Assholes.

sigmasix

(794 posts)
17. american christianity has some tenacious misogyny
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 05:27 AM
Mar 2013

The mainstream Christian churches and organizations will be some of the last bastions of this sort of sexism. The word isn't ugly enough to fully describe what this is. Pure and simple hatred for women is what it stems from. I don't know if it is a massive reaction-formation over mommy issues or what, but everyone that isn't media-labotomized should be able to recognize the hypocrisy of the school's position and actions.
Like I said; "everyone that isn't media-labotomized"-why do we still treat fox "news" fans as if they are adults?

grantcart

(53,061 posts)
19. The great irony of this is that the mother, who almost certainly is a regular church goer is going
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 08:24 AM
Mar 2013

to hire Allred and tie them all up into months of litigation and millions in damages.

It may change their opinion on the Morning After pill by the time this is over.

knitter4democracy

(14,350 posts)
23. I had to check to see if it was my college's sister school.
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 10:51 AM
Mar 2013

I went to a Nazarene college, and this is the kind of crap they pulled all the time. Trust me, it's sicker than you think.

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
25. There isn't much that can be said about this.
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 11:04 AM
Mar 2013

It shows the problem isn't premarital sex but specifically women and sex.

Bay Boy

(1,689 posts)
27. Would anyone have been OK with this if...
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 11:25 AM
Mar 2013

...if they fired her and refused to hire the baby-daddy? Or if the inseminator had worked there at the time and he had been fired along with her?

 

duffyduff

(3,251 posts)
35. That's the problem here. Unequal treatment.
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 01:15 PM
Mar 2013

If both had been fired, the school would be on better legal ground, but it treated her differently than the father.

 

duffyduff

(3,251 posts)
34. This is clearly sex discrimination and she should get a big settlement
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 01:14 PM
Mar 2013

if not her job back.

This is unequal treatment based on the sex of the individual regardless of this being a so-called "religious" school.

SwissTony

(2,560 posts)
41. Is this the school's logic?
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 06:27 PM
Mar 2013

Young lady signed a contract agreeing not to have pre-marital sex (who the fuck could come up with such a contract???). She did, got pregnant and got fired.

She and her fiance then got married. He then signed a contract agreeing not to have pre-marital sex. But since he was now married, this didn't apply. The fact that he had pre-marital sex before the contract is not relevant as he had not signed such a contract.

I suspect the school might use such an argument if there's ever a case in court.

Let me stress that I feel the school's decisions absolutely f'ing suck. It's absolutely disgusting and hypocritical.

To say nothing of being completely sexist.

Edited because i can't spell 'Is"

gopiscrap

(23,757 posts)
42. Interesting
Sat Mar 2, 2013, 06:36 PM
Mar 2013

My wife when she was young taught for a Catholic School in Tacoma, Washington (one that was militantly anti abortion) she got pregnant with our first child and the principal of the school cornered her and told her that "she had no right to get pregnant" so it came to pass that the issue was about spending the extra money for a sub....hypocritical fuckers!!!

DallasNE

(7,402 posts)
48. How Long Have These Life Style Contracts
Sun Mar 3, 2013, 12:01 AM
Mar 2013

Been in every day use? Are they administered to their own Clergy? Is the identical clause in all contracts or only the women? Inside the Church is one thing but inside medical centers and schools many of the employees are not even of the same faith and don't these then violate the First Amendment rights of those being asked to sign them. I guess since the government has been allowed to go inside the bedroom of Americans the Church now also thinks it can go inside the bedroom of Americans.

McCamy Taylor

(19,240 posts)
49. So now she has a sex driscimination suit. The school had better settle,
Sun Mar 3, 2013, 04:13 AM
Mar 2013

because if this is true, they will lose in court. Did he apply for her job on purpose, so that she would have a better court case?

Smilo

(1,944 posts)
54. Did he apply for the job?
Mon Mar 4, 2013, 12:41 AM
Mar 2013

If so why? Knowing that your fiancee/wife had been treated so abysmally, why would the fiance/husband go to work for them?



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