on an Internet discussion board?

"Grow a pair"... yes it matters.

Too easy

posting...

eom.

Little Image and assume you are a old guy in a white Beard. I hope not!!!

but more important is that you are a Giants fan! Best record in the majors! Go Giants!

They are amazing aren't they... BY THE WAY, FOR THOSE WHO DON'T KNOW.... Buster Posey is guy. And, yes He accepts hugs.

I have the actual word "lady" in my screen name and have still been called a man at one point.

Worse, it was in a comment about" the way you think"!

Guess my brain must have grown a pair or sumptin'

Actually lead to any kind of discussion on DU, and most are meant as to be insulting. There will always be a few who don't like what you have to say, but to use your gender against you in a conversation is just wrong... and stupid.

"Men like you" or something like that

"I think you're really a man in real life but playing at being a woman on here to stir up shit".

My partner disagrees!

Some guys consider it a grave insult to be mistaken or called a woman because that degrades them in their eyes. Nothing worse for some to be called a girl or a gay. feh.

I don't consider being mistaken for a man an insult sort of for that reason, but I know it's not the really the same.

But everyone is entitled to have their own ideas on this and I understand.

My photo, though I am sure someone would not see it.

Apparently many still think my name is feminine, even though it is derived from a masculine name in Europe.

I got called Senora.

That, was a bit much.
Well, a bit much just because I've corrected them twice already.

When a person is known as "Pat". I am sure mistakes are made there as well.

However, when someone is corrected 2-4 times already, and still make the same mistake.
Then, I just have to wonder if they are just being deliberately obtuse or an a-hole.

of attention deficit disorder, some people keep making the same mistakes because their attention isn't fully focused. I have been on the phone with someone who kept calling me "Sir". Clearly they could hear my voice...yet it didn't click in their brain, they were too busy muliti-tasking or something.

Can't really complain much.
I like my name now. I used to hate it growing up.

My voice is usually soft, and some comments I get from it make me blush.
I don't see how some could confuse it with a woman's, even though it isn't that low.

"YU -eye"...but i told him its "YU- eee". There is a difference in Japanese pronunciation than in English. All you need do is go to a Benihana restaurant to hear the really bad pronunciations as people try and read the menu.

But then you made that pretty clear when we talk about an issue of trolls not long ago. Still there are plenty of clues if one only looked.

may just talk to the reply sometimes not even thinking in terms of gender. Like the guy who got his post hidden because he thought I was having a "Dick waving contest"...It was kind of insulting.. but he just assumed I was a guy... I don't know how to make it much more clearer that I am not, unless I change my name to BETTY or something.

I first thought you a male also. because of audio.
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Chat/discussion here is one of the few places gender neutral. If one chooses. The words stand by themselves.
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I try not to look at name much to determine gender. I am not looking for a date, nor on a known gender agenda.
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But I do occasionally, as gender may help me understand a viewpoint at times, help me see MY shortcomings also.
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We are all pixels here.

We are all pixels on this bus. (I think I just blended with what you said with Fire sign Theater.)

That I don't know the gender of pixels or the near same name ... I do not know the gender of pixies. I forget to look at ring fingers also when talking with people. I guess I am getting old.
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I vaguely remember something about we are just _____________ on a bus..... from somewhere. it takes a while to get old memories. lol : )

We are all Just BOZOs on a bus.

which we could use when we didn't explicitly know one way or the other.

Unfortunately, we're at the end of a looooong history of sexism, so "he" is frequently used as the default when gender is not known.

Personally, I tweak what I write to avoid using either pronoun until I know.

male usage and female usage of certain words. In Japanese they use that.. also in Spanish, maybe even French. English doesn't seem to have words that are exclusively used by male or female.

that's happened to me too.

Heck I'm not even Japanese - my husband is.
I love all things Japan and Japanese.

Hajimemashite!! Dozo Yoroshiku!! I suppose its possible people are not used to Asian names. Someone asked me to pronounce "Yui" for them. I did and they still got it wrong a week later. hah!

his first name and last name sounded similar to me and his Japanese co-workers called him by his last name, me his first name shortened. I was all confused. So many Toshi...somethings...

wakarimasen????

Japanese is so much easier to pronounce out vs say Chinese.

Nice to meet you Yuiyoshida-san - love the profile pic - is that you?

In Japan, last names are used first. Also in other Asian countries. Like my friend LinChunying, her last name is Lin, and her first name is Chunying, but I never call her that. I always call her Lin Chan. (Chan being the equivalent of Miss but less formal.) When I signed up on DU , I used my first name first, in the American/Western tradition. In other places I have used YoshidaYui which is the Japanese way of having my name. Japanese is very much pronounced like Spanish or the vowels are pronounced like Spanish. Chinese maybe because of the use of tones.

I thought it wouldn't matter much to me but I like my correct gender used, too. And when I find out that I have made the wrong assumption about the sex of a poster I have to reconcile the tumblers in my brain and re - envision my imaginary cyber friend.


If you think about it we do have a grand experiment here. We really all could be gender neutral and who would know. We have the total opportunity to be a blend of its but we want to be what we are assigned more than not. Interesting to ponder.

Gender neutral ... especially if someone throws out a comment like " WHY don't you grow a pair". TO a guy, that is insulting and to a woman that is very insulting. I mean everyone knows what they are talking about.. I just prefer to be me...and have stuff that reflects who I am at the moment. Its true I hang out in the baseball group and read the latest stuff or post my own... but I enjoy it as much as the guys do. My mom says I am a tomboy... its Dad's fault for dragging me to ball games!!

Being authentic is the safest route. Just be who you are and it doesn't involve trying to remember to keep faking it. I never have been a good liar in real life and haven't developed much Internet deception in the last 8 years. Catfishing would be an example of mad skills in deception. Can you imagine?

that would be fun. Just stick a TUNA on your line, and you will pull in a lot... meowing all the way home.

Runs off looking for a fishing pole. And tuna.

By the way there is an actual documentary, ''Catfish' movie that follows a young man who thinks he has found true love on the internet. His roommates film the journey as he goes in search of his lady love. It was very well done and emotionally engaging. People can be majorly cruel and heartless with purposeful deception ploys.

The perpetrator wasn't as creepy as you would have thought. Mostly a sad and lonely creature who wasn't thinking how much pain they might inflict on the victim. As I said 'thoughtless'.

I seriously recommend it. See it with friends.

And you are most welcome.

I don't find grow a pair the least bit offensive or insulting.

Just saying.

Will try to remember in the future you are female though.

Hope they make it 3 championships in 3 years. I am sick of all the praise that went towards the Dodgers this year and last, it would be great to stick it to them again.

and Jinx them. The moment you do... bam... right into the trash can.. shhhh...lets wait till after the all star break!!!

so I didn't include much in it. But then most assumed I was male for some reason. It didn't bother me so much but I did notice that people were nicer to me after I changed it.

I guess I'll have to stick to English and Profanity (the universal language).

I spent a year in Japan as a young marine and loved it. In fact, it was the only part of being a marine that I loved.

Having an English only drives way those potential voters who might vote Democratic because they know the Republicans don't want them in their ranks.

Not to mention downright stupid.

I didn't do it, Yui-chan! But I apologize (as to a friend) anyway.

And that exhausts just about all the Japanese I remember from my laughable attempt over 2 1/2 semesters to learn the language at UH over 40 years ago -- only one other haole in the class besides me.

Both of my Parents were born in Hawaii. They are second or third generation Japanese living there. I often asked them if we had any islanders in the family. My father shrugged, could be. I think it would be awesome to find out I was like 1/15th Hawaiian and the rest Japanese. But I guess I will never know, unless I do some research by going there. Wow, how cool would that be?

... but since I landed in Santa Barbara I can't complain. My roots are deep here now.

Anyway, it wouldn't take too much research to find your ancestors over only a century or so, since record-keeping was/is pretty good. Start with the oldest members of the family who are still alive and write to them about their own memories. I did that when I was only 14, after coming across a copy of family begats at my grandma's, copied from someone's Bible. That went back to the 1600s. I started writing to my great-aunts and great-uncles to see what else I could find out. (Years after that my mom went into genealogy in a big way and wrote 4 books, but that wasn't me.) All you want is the time from when your family's first Issei arrived in Hawai'i, and you are probably Yonsei, only 4th generation, or maybe Gosei. Very likely your oldest relatives remember obaasan and ojiisan and where they came from in Japan, as well as their names. (See, all the Japanese I do know is related to having lived in Hawai'i; not grammatical, but words in common usage there.)

However, since what you are interested in is out-marriage, cancel that whole paragraph above. Just start with your parents' cousins and see who is related to whom and work back from there. Hawai'i is justifiably famous for its rate of intermarriage -- chances of remaining all of one ethnicity after a century or more is not unheard-of, but still...

You might be one little part-Hawai'ian flower after all. Or part-Danish, like my former neighbors (they were Japanese-Hawai'ian-Danish and used the Danish last name. When some long-lost 3rd cousins from Denmark looked them up because they were going to visit Hawai'i, weren't they surprised!)

My parents moved to San Francisco. I was born here. They sold their house, I don't remember where it was .. Honolulu maybe. I always wanted to go there and visit but I can't afford it. I wonder though, everyone says San Francisco rents are super high, I bet Hawaii is higher? I don't know..I know NYC is high. My gf lives there, she finally moved to New Jersey. She likes it a lot better.

If you don't have relatives to stay with, you could try one of those cheap package deals that includes air fare and hotel room, and go with a friend (they count on 2 per room). That's how my husband and I finally took the kids when they were about 10 y.o.

Anyway, if you think you might want to go, visit DU's Hawai'i forum -- you'll recognize many of the names.

cha! Yeh I may do that... some time soon.

How are they doing? Are you up for playing the winning~est team in Major league Baseball? I love how they are doing. It should be fun all around! (crack!~~~~~~~~~O Tell it goodbye!!)

All injured players back except for Harper. Michael Morse is really missed here.

Once they get off their road trip. June 6th we play the Mets for three games and then four games with the Nationals at home! Awesome.

DU'ers would often agree to meet up at anti-war/anti-Bush demonstrations in DC. It was always interesting to meet the "real" person behind the DU persona.

One of the most surprising things that happened to me at those meetings:

I'm a man, but there were quite a few DU'ers I met who were quite surprised I wasn't a woman.

I'm not sure why that would be, except that I was raised mostly by my mother and grandmothers and perhaps that influence has shaped the way I communicate. Again

Anyway,

Thanks for the thread, Yui.

Peace to you, yuiyoshida.

"PISU!!"

curious, what does PISU mean?

and guys have their photos taken... they put up two fingers and say PISU!!! ITs kinda like saying peace, but its not. Japanese are very adaptive and will take a thing and make it their own... sometimes with little explanation. Could google it.. and see. I think I did that once, but I don't remember what it meant. Its like saying CHEESE before the camera , I guess.

to google it but all I got was last names.

PISU back at you.

You are totally a dude!!!

A dudette I would be!!! SEE??

find a nice picture of a young woman on the internet and post it as "evidence".

BUSTED!

(Just kidding, of course. I *do* believe you.)

Hey Dawg...join in on this post:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5053361

Go A's!

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How you doing across the bay!!! waves frantically at across the bay! DID you know the Coliseum can be seen across the bay from AT&T Park? I believe I have seen it lit up at night!!!

here that I am a male as well. You get interesting responses sometimes because of that.

Not sure why others are so ignorant.

LEMME AT THEM!!!

A Skittles Hug instead?

I CANNOT IMAGINE WHY!

for all those really well Known DUers who have been here for a long time, with their bios.. I think I would nominate you for the DU hall of fame!

It cracks me up when people call me a male, because then I know they have no basic higher education whatsoever, not to recognize a classic Greek goddess' name....

most people assume i'm a male unless i have made posts that imply otherwise. i also never correct anyone unless there is reason to because of the issue being discussed.

Thanks for letting me know, buddy.



Cheers, mate!

"Yuki", on the other hand, can go either way