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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsNew "natural parenting" trend: Furniture-Free
Like getting rid of all your furniture. I've had a few friends talk about doing this.
This parenting stuff is annoying because you get so much conflicting advice. Eat dinner with your family around a kitchen table, we keep hearing. My family eats dinner around the kitchen table. Now there's this new move to not have a kitchen table. It's like the goalposts for "good parent" keep moving so that no one can ever get there.
http://slowmama.com/parenting-children/parenting-against-the-grain-going-furniture-free/
So take us on a tour through your home so we can get an idea of what going furniture-free actually looks like. Do you still sleep in beds? Have a sofa? Where do you sit for meals?
No sofa. We have a low table, similar to the traditional Japanese style, where you can sit on the floor although, full disclosure, we rarely use it. We just eat on the floor off a platter, similar to a Middle Eastern style of dining. Only we dont have any cool rugs; we just put our food on a towel.
We do have mattresses on the floor but dont use pillows. Both my husband and I prefer the floor, and we noticed our kids sleep better on the ground as well, so weve just started phasing the beds out. Theyre still in our house, but we just make bedrolls every night instead. Probably the most unique feature of our house is our indoor monkey bars. Built by my husband (no, there are no blueprints, in case youre wondering!), this contraption covers a wall of our living room and is dynamic in form. We add rings, ladders, and ropes to keep it constantly different, and we can change the height of the bars. In the same way many families center their life around traditional food and eating, our family is centered around movement.
TwilightGardener
(46,416 posts)Does resting your head on a pillow and eating your food up off the floor away from the dogs warp children in some way?
1000words
(7,051 posts)Mosby
(16,299 posts)And eating off the floor is unsanitary.
dixiegrrrrl
(60,010 posts)they use a towel, or a blanket.
remember when people used to go on picnics and eat off a picnic blanket????
I have been a guest at dinners served by friends from India, sitting on the floor, eating from many containers of food all arranged on a a blanket.
One handed, even..no tinsels.
My personal preference is to have a table, for my morning coffee and books.
but I can see the appeal in floor level dinners..certainly makes cleaning up crumbs and spills a lot easier, just scoop up the blanket, shake it outside and wash it.
and aren't babies at floor level for several years?
Mosby
(16,299 posts)it's not allowed in restaurants by any health dept. in the country afaik and that says something. The Indian and Moroccan etc places that serve food traditionally use low tables.
Also, eating hunched over makes it's more likely you will get a lot of trapped air in your stomach during the meal. I'm pretty tall and I have that problem sometimes with low counter tops with bar stools. It's weird that she doesn't acknowledge the bad posture one must use to "eat off the floor".
Codeine
(25,586 posts)is in no way unsanitary.
Codeine
(25,586 posts)These are the same brand of whitey-dread-wearing imbeciles who want to have their babies in the fucking ocean with dolphins as midwives while Coldplay songs echo across the water and a Genuine Mayan Shaman burns a bundle of sage.
customerserviceguy
(25,183 posts)someone else's opinions on how to be "the good parent", then maybe you'll always be a failure at it. Decide on something and go with that, and don't worry about what the trendsters say.
dem in texas
(2,674 posts)There are very important lessons for the child that they will need for life and raising children this way will cause them to miss out things they need to know. How sit at a table and eat a meal. Respect for the property of others. How to conduct yourself when you go to someone else's house. How to sit quietly in chair and not jump around and run around the room. How will they behave when they go to school? I see kids all time that are totally out of control, running around and hollering in restaurants, pulling things off the shelf in stores, leaving them there, in both cases, the children are ignored by the parents. Several years back, I took a night class from a local university, it was held in an exclusive private school. The halls were a mess, wadded paper and empty soda pop cans thrown on the floor, sweater and jackets laying around, paper and books dumped everywhere. There was a cleaning crew, picking up the trash that was thrown in the halls and putting the clothes and books in the lockers. I thought to myself then, now I have seen it all. How could they let the young children leave such messes. All cases, these kids are missing some important life lessons.