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Control-Z

(15,682 posts)
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 10:50 PM Mar 2016

My daughter is only 22.

Today something like her fifth friend, since high school, (I've lost count) has died from cancer. Lukemia, several with brain tumors, Lymphoma...

My daughter feels so lost and frightened. I feel the same. I don't know how to comfort her. How to make her feel safe. It sucks so bad. These precious kids dying before they've ever even lived. Their families and friends so hurt and suffering.

It makes me wonder about possible toxins in the area. The nuclear power plant at the beach? Something in the water? I don't know. I don't know.

Just so sad. I'm really sorry. I needed to vent a little.

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My daughter is only 22. (Original Post) Control-Z Mar 2016 OP
YIKES, where do you live? Odin2005 Mar 2016 #1
So Orange County, Ca. n/t Control-Z Mar 2016 #5
Anywhere near San Onofre? pfitz59 Mar 2016 #25
Climate change and the sixth global mass-extinction event is happening now SoLeftIAmRight Mar 2016 #2
This is what I fear. Control-Z Mar 2016 #6
So sorry for your loss. IdaBriggs Mar 2016 #3
Thank you, Ida. n/t Control-Z Mar 2016 #8
My oldest daughter and my youngest son both lost best friends in high school. Binkie The Clown Mar 2016 #4
It is so hard on them. Control-Z Mar 2016 #10
That is really hard when they loose friends at that age. Jim Beard Mar 2016 #7
There was a cluster of breast cancer cases Control-Z Mar 2016 #12
My oldest same age, benld74 Mar 2016 #9
We've talked. Control-Z Mar 2016 #13
She talks, but more to mom than me,, benld74 Mar 2016 #20
Give your daughter a hug from me, and please know I'm hugging you as well. Solly Mack Mar 2016 #11
Thank you, Solly. Control-Z Mar 2016 #14
I am so sorry for your daughter's loss. leftofcool Mar 2016 #15
That seems more than a coincidence. I would read up on stories like Toms River, N.J., Love Canal Hoppy Mar 2016 #16
Of course you have to vent-- this is terrifying... TreasonousBastard Mar 2016 #17
Holy crap, holy crap, holy crap,....... a kennedy Mar 2016 #18
A statistical analysis needs to be done. Are_grits_groceries Mar 2016 #19
This breaks my heart... ScreamingMeemie Mar 2016 #21
Smartphone radiation? ecstatic Mar 2016 #23
try to get info on others who were from that area JI7 Mar 2016 #22
Control-Z, all my sympathies to your daughter... countryjake Mar 2016 #24
 

SoLeftIAmRight

(4,883 posts)
2. Climate change and the sixth global mass-extinction event is happening now
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 10:56 PM
Mar 2016

we are destroying the environment - filling it with poisons

Some people have this as their number one priority

Binkie The Clown

(7,911 posts)
4. My oldest daughter and my youngest son both lost best friends in high school.
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:05 PM
Mar 2016

It can be hard for kids that age.

Control-Z

(15,682 posts)
10. It is so hard on them.
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:14 PM
Mar 2016

My son lost his best friend in high school. Too much tragedy and sadness for these kids.

 

Jim Beard

(2,535 posts)
7. That is really hard when they loose friends at that age.
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:10 PM
Mar 2016

I do believe there are things in areas that cause these diseases. One of my high school friends parents died of liver cancer. Both of them but it was not a problem in the area.

My suspicions were they lived in a concrete block house all their adult life. Another friend blamed it on the excessive amount of sandwich meat.

Neither adult child has had any problems.

I definitely believe it is environmental.

Control-Z

(15,682 posts)
12. There was a cluster of breast cancer cases
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:20 PM
Mar 2016

in this same area when my kids were in primary school. It seems like they couldn't be coincidental.

benld74

(9,901 posts)
9. My oldest same age,
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:13 PM
Mar 2016

She has known more that have fied although not from disease than either my wife or myself since graduating HS.
Car wrecks, shootings, the latest developed leukemia.
Difficult talking to one that age but one must do it now unfortunately.
Peace

Control-Z

(15,682 posts)
13. We've talked.
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:25 PM
Mar 2016

I've done my best to calm her. We'll take it a day at a time. I just don't want her to hold her feelings in.

How's your daughter doing?

benld74

(9,901 posts)
20. She talks, but more to mom than me,,
Sun Mar 20, 2016, 04:56 PM
Mar 2016

mom can express herself more while speaking. I just give the b&w of things. She does talk though which is good. Each has their own means of coping with things.

Hope yours gets better as well

Solly Mack

(90,758 posts)
11. Give your daughter a hug from me, and please know I'm hugging you as well.
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:15 PM
Mar 2016

That is very scary and very tragic.



Control-Z

(15,682 posts)
14. Thank you, Solly.
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:30 PM
Mar 2016

She's always worried more than she should. I don't want her to end up like me. It can rip the joy right out of life, worrying all the time.

Your hug helps. I'll squeeze her extra tight when she gets home. Thank you.

leftofcool

(19,460 posts)
15. I am so sorry for your daughter's loss.
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:52 PM
Mar 2016

I am going to go with the nuclear power plant as the cause. The best thing to do for your daughter is love and comfort.

 

Hoppy

(3,595 posts)
16. That seems more than a coincidence. I would read up on stories like Toms River, N.J., Love Canal
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:53 PM
Mar 2016

to learn how the toxic chemicals were identified. Best of luck.

TreasonousBastard

(43,049 posts)
17. Of course you have to vent-- this is terrifying...
Sat Mar 19, 2016, 11:55 PM
Mar 2016

it is entirely possible that this is just random, but you can't hope for that. You are terrified not so much by the deaths but by there being no identifiable reason for them. Nothing you can defend against. Nothing you can blame or escape from. Nothing to fight.

We are in a relatively safe age, where we have dealt with infections, animal attacks, starvation, highway robbery and most of the things that killed and maimed us in the past. But now this unknown cluster of disease from an unknown source, if there is a source.

That safety that we have grown to appreciate is blown to hell, and there is nothing we can do but hope the disease skips us and share the sorrow of those it hits.

And fight on for clean air and water. And pure food. Maybe they are causing the problems, and maybe not, but clean air and water and pure food are good things in themselves, and we deserve them. Everybody deserves them.



Are_grits_groceries

(17,111 posts)
19. A statistical analysis needs to be done.
Sun Mar 20, 2016, 01:57 AM
Mar 2016

The CDC or some state health organization could do an analysis. They enter data about the cancers, the people affected and a boatload of other info. This helps them determine if there is a significant cancer cluster there. That can lead to more research as to why.

It's hard to tell if there is a case for a problem that needs to be studied. In any size population, there will be an expected number of cases of any disease. I know you have heard about lots of cancer deaths and that is scary. A study gathers facts about all the cases and tries to nail down the probability of an anomaly.

Of course, this isn't 100% fooloproof, but it does tell people whether the occurrences are just random or probably due to some factor. Here's a link to a paper from the CDC. You can glean some info about this from it.
http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/pdf/rr/rr6208.pdf

I would seriously look into this for your area. It may begin to help explain these cases if there is enough info for them to start with. It would be the first step anyway if research were to be done.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
21. This breaks my heart...
Sun Mar 20, 2016, 05:00 PM
Mar 2016

...and I always wonder if it is something in our food doing this to kids. My daughter (25) has had 3 friends from school (middle and high) diagnosed with brain tumors. To put it in perspective, she went to a small, parochial school with a graduating class of 32.

Hugs for your daughter and you.

JI7

(89,239 posts)
22. try to get info on others who were from that area
Sun Mar 20, 2016, 05:04 PM
Mar 2016

Have there been others that she didn't know but have gotten cancer ?

countryjake

(8,554 posts)
24. Control-Z, all my sympathies to your daughter...
Mon Mar 21, 2016, 02:42 AM
Mar 2016

and hugs to you for being there for her. It's so very hard to demonstrate the bright things in life, counting blessings, and positive-thinking to young people around that age...crushing blows and sadness can be especially devastating. Not long after my girl finished college (years ago, now), we lost one of her cousins to cancer; he was only a little older than she and it was a tragic ordeal that I was afraid she'd never recover from. What brought her out of it was investigating "why", just as the questions you've posed in wondering about toxins in your area.

My daughter now has been an activist to clean up the Environment and save our Planet during these past two decades, largely due to the things she discovered on her own after our family suffered that loss (and my constant prodding, too, of course). If you or your girl want to investigate more about what may be harming the youth of your area, here is a good site to start out at, that's been created by Erin Brockovich. That Orange Co spot on the map is practically blotted out by the pins:

http://www.communityhealthbook.com/



Again, I'm so sorry that such sadness has hit your family...vent all you like, that's a good thing.

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