It takes a big man to do what they both did. It would be too easy to avoid that meeting.

I hope they are successful as it will be a large mountain to climb.

I find it remarkable that they could both make this move so soon, within the first week or so afterwards, but perhaps that speaks to their focus.

Within hours, the Amish community actively reached out to the shooter's family, comforting them. The one picture that stands out in my mind is of an Amish man holding the shooter's sobbing father in his arms, consoling him. I would like to think that I'm capable of the strength it must have taken to do what the Amish did, but I honestly don't know.

I was simply stunned, especially given how much time it can take someone to work through the sorrow, bitterness, and anger over a death from, say, illness or accident as opposed to a premeditated act.

I read an interview with Adam Lanza dad in the New Yorker and the pain he feels is so visceral. His regret for the divorce and other things is clearly a burden that he will carry for a long time.

to me it felt right that he did that - I guess it let me know that regardless of mistakes that boy's father may have made, he did care

Martinez initiated, he would have had to do so clearly. Much admiration to him and his family.