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mentalsolstice

(4,459 posts)
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 12:17 AM Oct 2015

Your partner or spouse is away, how do you play?

My husband is away for 5 days on a bicycle ride. Other than taking care of 3 dogs and a cat, I'm pretty free. I have friends, however, I never mentioned it to them, as I wanted to be commitment free, or rather, I don't want to do anything that involves getting out of my pjs. Also because of meds I'm taking, I'm pretty tied to the house (drowsiness, so I don't like to drive). So I want to read, binge watch TV....I have Netflix streaming and Amazon Prime, and I'm open to reading suggestions.

What would you do with several days of blissful nothing?

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Your partner or spouse is away, how do you play? (Original Post) mentalsolstice Oct 2015 OP
I'd catch up on my sleep first! Suich Oct 2015 #1
No, I haven't. mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #14
Hang out on-line. Drink a lot. Aristus Oct 2015 #2
Have beverages taken care of mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #15
For me, it's the Xbox 1 jrandom421 Oct 2015 #3
Watch the wild birds from dawn to dusk. In_The_Wind Oct 2015 #4
Did you post this or did your cat do it? Sanity Claws Oct 2015 #26
I must confess In_The_Wind Oct 2015 #32
Love the "fishbowl" ! nt eppur_se_muova Oct 2015 #40
Well, the "clean" version? Behind the Aegis Oct 2015 #5
The "to do" list is already scrapped. mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #16
I'm husbandless for two days from tomorrow. betsuni Oct 2015 #6
Have fun! nt mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #17
I would try every flavor of Ben & Jerry's ice cream n/t OakCliffDem Oct 2015 #7
OMG! mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #18
Redecorate... 3catwoman3 Oct 2015 #8
Interesting... mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #19
It used to be that beer would be high on the itinerary for me. Tobin S. Oct 2015 #9
I'm 50 pages to the end of a book. mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #20
I've written a book. It's just not published. Tobin S. Oct 2015 #24
I'm a "batchelorette" this weekend. femmocrat Oct 2015 #10
Yeah, I'm in the same boat mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #21
I stop caring about what position the toilet seat is in taterguy Oct 2015 #11
Well, I did Google autofellatio last night. mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #23
Today I googled . . . taterguy Oct 2015 #25
My husband's the youngest of 7, with three older sisters riderinthestorm Oct 2015 #29
Anymore I sit to pee about 50% of the time awoke_in_2003 Oct 2015 #50
I'm gonna go with sleep... Phentex Oct 2015 #12
I have had breaks like that over the years (married 30 years) and I usually mnhtnbb Oct 2015 #13
We've been together 25 years. mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #22
Well... LWolf Oct 2015 #27
Eat like a horse while watching some pay-per-view that I am usually too cheap to buy. patricia92243 Oct 2015 #28
I'm like you, I turn into a sloth riderinthestorm Oct 2015 #30
I'm wifeless from today (Saturday) till Wednesday. SwissTony Oct 2015 #31
Not boring! I'm leaving my husband alone next week.... PassingFair Oct 2015 #34
I love Go. panader0 Oct 2015 #36
I've bought a cheap board (13 x 13 on one side, 9 x 9 on the other). SwissTony Oct 2015 #37
rented a space over a garage NJCher Oct 2015 #33
My husband and I are at a reunion... 3catwoman3 Oct 2015 #35
for binge watching i highly recommend restorefreedom Oct 2015 #38
We finished Longmire last week. mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #43
never heard of bloodline restorefreedom Oct 2015 #44
FUCKING JEALOUS HERE!!! mak3cats Oct 2015 #39
I lived alone for 10 years after college. mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #45
That's really not a good way to fuck... nt Xipe Totec Oct 2015 #46
"Swinging 'Til the Girls Come Home" (Lambert, Hendricks, and Ross) .... eppur_se_muova Oct 2015 #41
Unfortunately.... mentalsolstice Oct 2015 #47
Did that earlier this year Generic Brad Oct 2015 #42
My wife is often away GusBob Oct 2015 #48
There are people who don't like gyros? awoke_in_2003 Oct 2015 #51
I found out what hubby does when I'm away! Manifestor_of_Light Oct 2015 #49

mentalsolstice

(4,459 posts)
14. No, I haven't.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 10:26 AM
Oct 2015

It looks good, as I like foreign shows. I just finished Luther, and have one more Call the Midwife. I loved Rita, didn't want that to ever end. Thanks for the suggestion.

Aristus

(66,255 posts)
2. Hang out on-line. Drink a lot.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 12:39 AM
Oct 2015

Watch my favorite 'drunk' films: Blade Runner, Dark City, Apocalypse Now, Platoon, Army Of Darkness, Das Boot, etc.

Sanity Claws

(21,834 posts)
26. Did you post this or did your cat do it?
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 12:09 PM
Oct 2015

My cats could watch birds all day. I don't share the same level of interest.

In_The_Wind

(72,300 posts)
32. I must confess
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 01:16 PM
Oct 2015


it was me I have 3 feeders and a heated birdbath on the deck outside my dining room sliding glass doors. I find it very entertaining.



I also enjoy watching the fish swimming around in my small koi pond.



Behind the Aegis

(53,913 posts)
5. Well, the "clean" version?
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 02:38 AM
Oct 2015


Kidding. I will create a list of things I need to do in the house, then promptly do nothing. Never fails. I will take care of the four puppies of the Chihuahua Empire and our birds. I will likely watch some of our programs; others I like watching with him, but I ain't waiting for him to get home to watch my "Bones." My hubbie is leaving for 5 days soon.

Since you have Amazon Prime, may I suggest The Man from High Castle, which presents an alternative version of the US if the Nazis and Japanese had won WWII! The season doesn't start until November, but the first episode is available. I don't know what else to suggest because I don't know what floats your boat, but there are some good things on Netflix (lots of Ken Burns documentaries, which will take the whole 5 days! LOL!).

betsuni

(25,351 posts)
6. I'm husbandless for two days from tomorrow.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 07:03 AM
Oct 2015

It's supposed to rain and I'll stay home and be cozy. I'm expecting a rather large delivery of books, I hope it comes tomorrow. If not, I have a lot of ironing and sewing to do and want to find something online to watch while I do it, would like a couple of movies but don't have any ideas. My computer is old and cranky and I'm pretty much restricted to things on YouTube. I want something scary because Halloween is coming. I'll have to root around and find something.

mentalsolstice

(4,459 posts)
18. OMG!
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 10:36 AM
Oct 2015

Sweets aren't my thing, but the fridge is stocked with yummy leftovers. Last night I ate whole pack of sushi for dinner.

Tobin S.

(10,418 posts)
9. It used to be that beer would be high on the itinerary for me.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 08:31 AM
Oct 2015

But I'm trying to lose weight, so that would be out. I've got a few new books that I've been meaning to read and haven't had a chance so I would probably do that.

mentalsolstice

(4,459 posts)
20. I'm 50 pages to the end of a book.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 10:47 AM
Oct 2015

Then I'll go through the intense day-long struggle to choose a new one. I just finished "Wild" and I'm about to finish Bill Bryson's "A Walk in the Woods," so I'm hiked out and had enough with shitting in the woods. When are you going to write your book?

femmocrat

(28,394 posts)
10. I'm a "batchelorette" this weekend.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 08:54 AM
Oct 2015

Other than not cooking, everything else is pretty much the same (as in "dullsville&quot . I am caring for a couple of elderly dogs, so I can't get too adventurous! LOL

Enjoy your break!

mentalsolstice

(4,459 posts)
21. Yeah, I'm in the same boat
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 10:51 AM
Oct 2015

We have an elderly yellow lab, and two 3 year old pug slugs...and an ancient cat. Fortunately, the weather forecast is good, so getting them out won't be a problem.

taterguy

(29,582 posts)
11. I stop caring about what position the toilet seat is in
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 09:40 AM
Oct 2015

Other than that, there aren't many differences in my life, except for the obvious NSFW stuff.

mentalsolstice

(4,459 posts)
23. Well, I did Google autofellatio last night.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 11:34 AM
Oct 2015

It was mentioned in a tv show I was watching, and I was like "nooo way!"

 

riderinthestorm

(23,272 posts)
29. My husband's the youngest of 7, with three older sisters
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 12:53 PM
Oct 2015

Who basically raised him so he was trained to sit for all his business in the bathroom.

Sooo happy we never have that "discussion "



Phentex

(16,330 posts)
12. I'm gonna go with sleep...
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 10:06 AM
Oct 2015

I would just nap whenever and go to bed early and sleep late and then nap again. Heaven!

mnhtnbb

(31,366 posts)
13. I have had breaks like that over the years (married 30 years) and I usually
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 10:12 AM
Oct 2015

hunker down at home, alone. No cooking, sleep when I want to, watch old movies
all night on TV if I want to, putter in the yard, take the dog for long walks, go out
with my camera and take photos any time of day...maybe even go window shopping
or to a movie my husband wouldn't want to see.


Enjoy your days of blissful nothing!

mentalsolstice

(4,459 posts)
22. We've been together 25 years.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 10:59 AM
Oct 2015

I used to be the traveller for work and family. Now that he's retired and I'm on SSDI, we usually travel together. However, now once or twice a year he'll leave me for a motorcycle trip or bike ride with friends. He's in Indianapolis for the Hilly Hundred, and then they're going to ride a couple of bourbon trails in KY.

LWolf

(46,179 posts)
27. Well...
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 12:11 PM
Oct 2015

back when I was married, I found out. My spouse took a job that took him out of the country for 3-5 weeks at a time.

I discovered that I loved the freedom of alone time, and hoarded it like a dragon on a bed of treasure.

Now that I'm no longer married, I get to stretch out on my treasure whenever I get to be at home.

SwissTony

(2,560 posts)
31. I'm wifeless from today (Saturday) till Wednesday.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 01:04 PM
Oct 2015

I'm going to learn how to play Go. It's a board game, very easy to play, very difficult to play well.

I've also got a book on mathematical physics I'll get into.

I know, I'm boring.

PassingFair

(22,434 posts)
34. Not boring! I'm leaving my husband alone next week....
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 01:30 PM
Oct 2015

I hope he comports himself as well as you do!

panader0

(25,816 posts)
36. I love Go.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 02:18 PM
Oct 2015

And a much easier game played on the same board: Five Stone.
I could beat all of my friends.

SwissTony

(2,560 posts)
37. I've bought a cheap board (13 x 13 on one side, 9 x 9 on the other).
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 02:40 PM
Oct 2015

I used to play competition chess and one night i was invited to play a game of Go against some guy who was giving a demonstration in the chess club. I did OK for quite a while (I got the maximum handicap) and then made a dumb move and got crushed. But the game fascinated me. The rules are so simple, but the complexity just washes you away. The trouble at that time was i didn't know anyone who had even heard of the game and you basically had to import the board and stones from Japan - I'm talking about Australia early 1970s here. Now you can play online and I've ordered the stuff from a local store (Amsterdam). I've also downloaded a free beginner's Go program.

So, I'll start there and see how it goes.

I'd never heard of Five Stone, but i'll give it a look.

Thanks

NJCher

(35,606 posts)
33. rented a space over a garage
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 01:28 PM
Oct 2015

Our admin for our department had a husband who never traveled on his job, and she needed some alone time, so she went to Cape May, NJ, and rented a room over someone's garage! It was a forerunner of what's now known as a she-shed.

We could always tell when she had visited the she-shed over the weekend, 'cuz she'd be a great mood on Monday.


Cher

3catwoman3

(23,932 posts)
35. My husband and I are at a reunion...
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 01:51 PM
Oct 2015

...of his last military flying squadron right now - the 89th at Andrews AFB. Lots of retired pilots,, navigators, crew chiefs, etc. Pretty much every woman I know who is married to a man who has traveled for his career looks forward so some time on her own, and worries that she will not have enough of it after her flyboy retires.

restorefreedom

(12,655 posts)
38. for binge watching i highly recommend
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 04:57 PM
Oct 2015

longmire on netflix..i am not a westerny tv person and i love it

also heartland (netflix) is awesome...if you like horses and gorgeous scenery

i love the mindy project but it is hulu, although amazon prime may carry it

as for reading, i love browing recipes and have been reading some spirituality stuff...about different world religions, esp the lesser populated ones...jainism, paganism, etc.

ally macbeal (netflix) is also fun for a binge watch

whatever you do, enjoy!

mentalsolstice

(4,459 posts)
43. We finished Longmire last week.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 08:59 PM
Oct 2015

I'll check into Heartland. I binged several hours today on Walking Dead. I like dystopian stories, but wasn't sure I'd like zombies. So far, I'm happy to see what's next.

Have you tried Bloodline on Netflix? It's a slow burn, takes place in the FL Keys. I'm from Ft. Lauderdale and knew people exactly like the characters on the show.

restorefreedom

(12,655 posts)
44. never heard of bloodline
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 09:04 PM
Oct 2015

will have to check it out. falling skies was great, but it is probably only dvd since it just finished. i am trying to get caught up on the librarians before next season starts

i also sometimes go back and watch episodes of charmed on netflix


mak3cats

(1,573 posts)
39. FUCKING JEALOUS HERE!!!
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 06:15 PM
Oct 2015

I lived alone for most of my adult life (by choice) when I met my SO. I wouldn't give him up on a bet, but he's one of those people who has a hard time amusing himself. I fondly remember those days when I had no one to please but myself, and my time was all my own.

Enjoy, even if I hate you! (Just kidding. Sorta.)

mentalsolstice

(4,459 posts)
45. I lived alone for 10 years after college.
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 09:23 PM
Oct 2015

I never had a problem keeping myself entertained. Maybe it was because I was a partial only child (my cousin lived with us at times, when she did we had to share a twin bed, toys, clothes, etc.). However, I was always happy to immerse myself in a book, a movie, or a puzzle.

eppur_se_muova

(36,246 posts)
41. "Swinging 'Til the Girls Come Home" (Lambert, Hendricks, and Ross) ....
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 08:00 PM
Oct 2015

If you're not really into jazz, it might help to get high first. You still won't know what's going on when the "bass" solos start, but you won't care.

Generic Brad

(14,272 posts)
42. Did that earlier this year
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 08:12 PM
Oct 2015

My wife was out of the country for two weeks. I streamed TV shows on Netflix she would never watch and I listen to music by artists she refuses to listen to. You are on the right track.

GusBob

(7,286 posts)
48. My wife is often away
Sat Oct 10, 2015, 10:56 PM
Oct 2015

PJs saves on laundry

Take out junk food that she doesn't like ( gyros, cheesesteak subs, pizza) saves on dishes

Stay home and read which I love to do saves on money

Catch up on chores oil change vehicles, clean garage etc

Also use the quiet time to call relatives, get up to date with family out of state.

 

Manifestor_of_Light

(21,046 posts)
49. I found out what hubby does when I'm away!
Sun Oct 11, 2015, 12:03 AM
Oct 2015

eats smoked oysters in the house.

I am allergic to shellfish and cannot stand the smell of smoked oysters. They make me gag. So if I am home he goes outside to eat them. I made a fast overnight trip to the big city this week and he told me that's what he did.

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