Be grateful for her blessing you with her time. Cats need to help lots of people sometimes.

She is probably already helping the person who adopted her.

Hold your kitty and love her and she will make you happy inside. I am glad you are here.

Thank you for your kind response. The shelter has an intensive vetting process for adopters, so I am sure she is with good people (person?) who are happy to have her. I just hope she is safe and happy and settling in to her new forever home. I just need to stop obsessing about it. I will pay more attention to my wonderful cat I have now, Tiddles

I know how hard it can be. Maybe Tiddles can help! Talk to Tiddles (I just love saying that name, ok, typing it...), I am sure she loves you!

Be well and know you are loved.

And kind words

You are also a very loving person. Sometimes that hurts, but it is worth the pain.

I am struggling mightily to get through each day, and I wonder if that has something to do with how I feel. I felt that having another cat would be impetus to get up and get through another day at work, ie, to have enough money to take care of them. My boyfriend loves cats, too, and pays for all our current cat's medical care.

I do! My mother is alone in Covid lockdown and loves the vids I share with her, mostly coming from DUer catbyte’s posts.

Hang in, it’s a wild ride but you’ll get through it.

I also like Tiny But Fierce..
Sharing this here is making me feel better.

I have pets, too, am also an animal lover from way back. And I think it's normal to get easily attached and to feel that no one could give a pet the care that you could, especially one with issues or special needs. And now that the cat you've become attached to is no longer accessible to you, you're going to wonder and worry. I think that's perfectly natural.

I also follow dogs and cats in need in shelters online and I also worry and find it makes me anxious. I know I can only do so much, but that doesn't help my anxiety. I hadn't thought of it before, but I'm also OCD, so that may be a part of it. And the anxiety about what's going on in this country - and the world - right now certainly doesn't help.

Welcome back to DU, this place is a haven for so many of us right now. I've also been here for quite a few years, but was shut out after this site experienced an election day hack back in 2016 like so many were and EarlG helped me access my original account. If you'd like help with that, I'm sure he could help you as well. Hang in there and welcome back! You're in the right place...

Glad to be back. It has been so long since I was on DU. The last 3.5 years have been such a nightmare, and I remember here when George Bush 2 was in power and how we all discussed that all the time. And now Trump. And all that that entails. It's just brought me back here to my DU family. I need strength, hope, and encouragement and I knew I would find it here again. My mental-health issues have gotten worse the older I have gotten. So happy to see this mental-health support gathering here.

I was here during the lead up to the Iraq war, was here on the night that started, and then through the 2004 election, and we thought that things couldn't possibly get worse back then!

But that's the thing about DU, we're among kindred spirits and someone is always here 24/7. And we're all going through an unprecedented period of stress and anxiety right now, so having DU and knowing we're not alone can make all the difference.

As I said, you can ask the admins (EarlG helped me) for help in accessing your original account if you want to. And you're right, DU is a community, a family, and we're so glad that you found us again. You're in the right place.

Then when DU2 came about, I was XanaDUer, so I stuck a 2 onto that now.
I'm happy to see so many familiar usernames still here. I saw the In Memorium link. Those we've lost, sadly

Over the years so many have come and gone, but so many come back, just like you have. There really is no other place like DU where we can always find the latest most accurate news and others here who will identify and understand on issues both political and personal.

And we have lost so many, too, over the years, but it does help that we can acknowledge what they gave us and remember them.

On Du1 I was UndergroundPanther.
Couldn't get in after the hack and lost the original account I had,and switched from Verizon. Than I lost my home. I couldn't get my old account back. But I made the name almost the same Anyways great to see you are still here.

DUers are awesome.

Glad you were able to get back in. Nice to see you again.
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And then that dream did not come true. It’s OK to feel bad.
But when you do get your second kiddle you will know it was meant to be.😽😽😽

I did imagine it. Tiddles will have to be an only child, and I knew this, so should not have even entertained the idea of adopting, but just did it. I think OCD, depression and anxiety issues caused this, though I do love cats!

to a sense of loss for your fur baby. We here at DU welcome any and all thoughts, fears, sadness, anger ... we welcome you back. I hope that each day that passes, good memories will help ease your sorrow.

The cat issue, oddly, was the tipping point to re-create an account. I knew I could come onto DU and talk about my feelings, and have a positive experience. So happy this group exists, it's great

I’m not as long time as some here, only since 2012.

15 years ago, our 2 sons and I drove from the greater Chicago area to Chattanooga to adopt a cat we saw on PetFinder. He reminded us of a much beloved cat who had died way too young as the result of an unknown cardiac problem. Part ragdoll, with beautiful blue eyes. This cat was pretty much a doppelgänger.

The woman fostering him had 80 (!) cats in her house. She had another ragdoll kitten, quite tiny and full of personality. Her name was Milkshake. I soooooo wanted to take her, too. So many times, in the years since, I have thought about her and regretted no giving into that impulse.

I think what you are feeling is totally understandable.

It comforts me that she got a home, but there's a tiny hole I my heart

A bit sad. I’m glad you are here, fellow cat lover!

Glad to be here again

Loving animals can be hard...I had a cat I was very fond of years ago and he was attacked by either a male cat or a dog. My cats are all outdoor cats - I am in India right now.
He died in a couple of days but it haunted me for a long time.
I wasn't sure whether to share that unpleasant story or not. I do not know if it helps but I suppose my point was that at least your kitty will be happy.

I too drifted away from DU in the Obama years when things seemed less dire. I have liked being back.

I understand how you feel. I am a cat person too..
Feel better soon. Being here will help. It is a good online community. I almost have no other web presence but I like coming here.

Knowing people understand makes it easier.