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bravenak

(34,648 posts)
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:13 PM Jun 2014

Is anyone else being alert stalked and over noticed?

Last edited Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:59 AM - Edit history (1)

I am going to concentrate more of my time on outside activities in the community. With the election season coming up and the vote to get Libertarians the right to smoke a joint in public, i should be spending more of my time on community organizing and outreach efforts. Most of our Candidates in my state lean more conservative than i would like, but i suppose i should try to make an effort to feel more excited and knock on some doors.

I can see that me using the words white and old and men in a sentence together plus a negative has caused much anger and frustration among a certain faction. So, unfortunately this place may become a bit more of those three words i may not use together for a time.

I have never felt like my views were controversial in any way. These things i speak of in my journal are things known to people in my neighborhood and are spoken of in black publications all the time and in the hispanic publications that i read.
I think that some people are just not ready to hear things that make them uncomfortable with themselves. As a black person, i hear negative things everyday about the black community spoken from the mouths of white men on a constant basis. I would think that they in turn could handle a bit of critisism as they are so good at dishing it out.
But alas, no. They must alert stalk me for the crime of telling them things they would know if they took a bit a time to ask us? Things they would know if they just took an hour and read The Grio?
Yes America. White men have been oppressing black women for centuries. They are the black woman's burden. And i am standing up and i will arch my back, flex my arms, and shove them off my shoulders. You can't keep a good woman down, baby.

You say you fought for my rights? Then why do you want to deny me my voice? Why shut me up?
You say you have much to teach, i see alot of bitterness and a lack of a positive out look in some and a spark of hope and yes, change in others. I already know how to find the negative in any situation, i refuse to do that in life. If everytime someone said something negative, mean, racist or down right evil about black women i got outraged, i would NEVER stop screaming. I live that. That is being black in America. You are wrong, you are bad, and you better not sass, gal!

When i said that i can't hear any difference between an old liberal and an old republican, i was speaking of things of this nature. They also think that they are the ones being oppressed and discriminated against. By people who look like me.
<a href=".html" target="_blank"><img src="" border="0" alt=" photo imagejpg4_zps25901e4f.jpg"/></a>

There's your oppressor.


I am not trying to get anyone upset, so i posted this in AFRICAN AMERICAN.
(PLEASE DO NOT ALERT STALK ME)
THIS IS POSTED IN THE AFRICAN AMERICAN FORUM A SAFE HAVEN FOR POC AND THOSE WHO LOVE US.

BTW: For those who need to see it again.
bravenak (4,322 posts)
139. I am sorry for that truly.

I am sorry you are hurt by my words and i want you to know that i have never seen you post anything harmful or hurtful to me. We all suffer the sins of others in our nation.
The woman's burden. It's a shame really, white women just barely got the right to vote and own themselves and now we lump them in with their former oppressors. I do feel bad that i hurt you.
I just cannot think of another way to express what i see.


http://www.splcenter.org/home/2013/spring/the-year-in-hate-and-extremism

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Is anyone else being alert stalked and over noticed? (Original Post) bravenak Jun 2014 OP
I am here to tell you....don't take any shit off of them! VanillaRhapsody Jun 2014 #1
It is amusing and frustrating at the same time. bravenak Jun 2014 #3
A book? johnp3907 Jun 2014 #8
How much money you got? bravenak Jun 2014 #25
Gee, mine is only worth a quarter Warpy Jun 2014 #29
I have been sort of laughing about it with my mom all day. bravenak Jun 2014 #41
I don't blame him for everything either, but I am critical Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jun 2014 #210
And i hate the Keystone pipeline. bravenak Jun 2014 #211
Ding, Ding, Ding! We have a winner! Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jun 2014 #209
I think you get alert stalked Squinch Jun 2014 #2
It is really hard to stop. bravenak Jun 2014 #5
Don't stop. It's important. And even more important is that we get used to hearing Squinch Jun 2014 #94
I feel like i just did a sociological experiment on DU and we failed. bravenak Jun 2014 #95
Oy vey. I just read through the threads in question. Madfloridian is a good woman. Squinch Jun 2014 #98
Me, alert stalked? BainsBane Jun 2014 #4
Well shit! bravenak Jun 2014 #9
I always see it as a badge of honor...when they alert on bullshit posts....it means you VanillaRhapsody Jun 2014 #11
We're on the list together BainsBane Jun 2014 #12
Oh yeah, i just told 1SBM that he was on the list. bravenak Jun 2014 #19
"Cute" and Funny, bravenak~ Cha Jun 2014 #27
I kill me sometimes! bravenak Jun 2014 #48
I bet you do! Cha Jun 2014 #51
Yeah, and you're in good company: chervilant Jun 2014 #64
Yes. bravenak Jun 2014 #109
Hey BainsBane. sheshe2 Jun 2014 #18
Thanks. BainsBane Jun 2014 #23
some think if one doesn't say the N word it's not racist JI7 Jun 2014 #49
who is that lovely gal - is that you? Skittles Jun 2014 #6
I'm pretty sure putting someone on ignore doesn't disable their ability to alert on your posts. Electric Monk Jun 2014 #10
is there a DU system in place to alert on alert abusers? Skittles Jun 2014 #14
When a post is hidden you get a PM saying so, and that has an alert button bottom left corner Electric Monk Jun 2014 #16
LOL - SKIP INTRO GOT CAUGHT??? Skittles Jun 2014 #20
They didn't ban him for it, though, which I still find surprising. Just a warning. nt Electric Monk Jun 2014 #22
Complete lie. You were warned, not me. If you're going to dredge shit up Skip Intro Jun 2014 #149
"I like CjeekDgg" nt Electric Monk Jun 2014 #152
Like a three year old. n/t Skip Intro Jun 2014 #155
"I like Cjeekdgg" was exactly what you wrote CreekDog Jun 2014 #171
The admin advises others to ignore you. Not me, you. Skip Intro Jun 2014 #175
Nope, anyone can read the link and see that you're misrepresenting it CreekDog Jun 2014 #178
I hope they do click the link! Skip Intro Jun 2014 #181
Skip don't lie. You did self alert your own post in Meta. CreekDog Jun 2014 #170
Post the screencap, CD. You claimed to have it. Don't talk about it, Post it. Skip Intro Jun 2014 #180
No, I don't keep screencaps, unlike you, and second I witnessed the post CreekDog Jun 2014 #182
Of course you don't, you never did. Busted yet again. LOL! Skip Intro Jun 2014 #183
Promise? CreekDog Jun 2014 #184
If only people were as gullible as you wish they were, eh? Skip Intro Jun 2014 #185
Creek Dog's account is how I remember it BainsBane Jun 2014 #205
Hi, Skittles, this is Skip Intro. Skip Intro Jun 2014 #150
is that your explanation? Skittles Jun 2014 #151
Sad. Skip Intro Jun 2014 #153
how does this have ANYTHING to do with the self-stalking? Skittles Jun 2014 #154
Did you ask me about any of it? Skip Intro Jun 2014 #156
you're coming into a safe haven group for African Americans and harassing people? CreekDog Jun 2014 #169
. Skip Intro Jun 2014 #174
except it is 100% true that you self alerted your own OP in Meta about me CreekDog Jun 2014 #176
. Skip Intro Jun 2014 #177
so now you're finally admitting to self alerting your own OP and claiming it was your friend... CreekDog Jun 2014 #179
. Skip Intro Jun 2014 #187
You're here arguing with people who keep mentioning that 1.5 year old thread! CreekDog Jun 2014 #192
. Skip Intro Jun 2014 #196
When you alert on your own thread which do you get first, the Jury Results or Post Hidden PM? snooper2 Jun 2014 #212
Can we block him. bravenak Jun 2014 #204
Talk about a high jacked thread! ismnotwasm Jun 2014 #213
Blame me. bravenak Jun 2014 #214
Ha! JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #215
LOL. It's a safe haven group. CreekDog Jun 2014 #232
I'll ask Number23 when she stops by. bravenak Jun 2014 #233
Are you talking about "I like Cjeek drg" BainsBane Jun 2014 #70
Yes, it was the "I like Cjeek Dgg" incident you remember, where he pled drunk as his excuse. nt Electric Monk Jun 2014 #130
Yes, he said he was showing his friend how DU works CreekDog Jun 2014 #217
Skittles I wonder if you knew about this Alert? FreedRadical Jun 2014 #46
cowards Skittles Jun 2014 #58
Yes, that's me. I am the racist and ageist that was spoken of in that thread about older people. bravenak Jun 2014 #13
I guess I would have to read your context Skittles Jun 2014 #17
Well i meant in the context of society. bravenak Jun 2014 #24
in general, true Skittles Jun 2014 #31
I told her i was sorry i hurt her but i couldn't figure out a better way to express it. bravenak Jun 2014 #34
ooh Skittles Jun 2014 #36
you were clear in stating hopemountain Jun 2014 #69
I scared them. bravenak Jun 2014 #111
yup - SOME people scream about hopemountain Jun 2014 #134
+1 ... 1StrongBlackMan Jun 2014 #188
+100 heaven05 Jun 2014 #221
I've referenced age before BainsBane Jun 2014 #68
I explained what i meant over and over. bravenak Jun 2014 #83
I saw you gave a very nice apology to her BainsBane Jun 2014 #85
I am always as clear as i can be and willing to explain myself unless someone is just trolling me. bravenak Jun 2014 #86
You do realize the person you're talking to was the main one kicking and whooping it up in the Number23 Jun 2014 #72
Yes i do. bravenak Jun 2014 #82
Amazing isn't it? giftedgirl77 Jun 2014 #90
No your views are not controversial, bravenak. sheshe2 Jun 2014 #7
Thanks She. bravenak Jun 2014 #15
BTW... sheshe2 Jun 2014 #52
Thank you! bravenak Jun 2014 #53
You're young, gorgeous, sexy, smart and black. That kills 'em. freshwest Jun 2014 #67
You sound just like my sister. bravenak Jun 2014 #144
I use "old white men" in a negative context... sheshe2 Jun 2014 #146
I find that the haters aren't really talking about the person they're after but hating themselves. freshwest Jun 2014 #147
there is a lot of resentment against black people for supporting the President JI7 Jun 2014 #21
I noticed.nt bravenak Jun 2014 #26
total bs Skittles Jun 2014 #30
no, it's racism and many have revealed themselves even more on that other site JI7 Jun 2014 #32
well DEFINTELY give us examples Skittles Jun 2014 #35
yeah, someone posts a right wing cartoon and it gets hidden and they are seen as a martyr JI7 Jun 2014 #37
so one cartoon Skittles Jun 2014 #38
also the one that calls him a piece of shit JI7 Jun 2014 #39
so you are referring to a couple of DUers Skittles Jun 2014 #40
and the many who supported it JI7 Jun 2014 #45
there were different intepretations of that cartoon Skittles Jun 2014 #57
and when it was pointed out what it was about including the right winger who made it JI7 Jun 2014 #59
Skittles, it was not just the posts themselves. sheshe2 Jun 2014 #54
Absolutely correct, she. greatauntoftriplets Jun 2014 #126
a large segment of DUers think that posts like P.o.S. used care salesman, fuck off Obama Whisp Jun 2014 #141
But see ... 1StrongBlackMan Jun 2014 #189
You are the ONLY person in this entire forum that needs "examples" which shocks exactly Number23 Jun 2014 #73
Since you asked BainsBane Jun 2014 #75
i have said this before and i'm pretty sure the most racist, sexist, bigoted posters JI7 Jun 2014 #133
An interesting thought ... 1StrongBlackMan Jun 2014 #190
That's true. sheshe2 Jun 2014 #33
they are a bunch of racist zimmerman supporters JI7 Jun 2014 #43
Just check out Discussionist BainsBane Jun 2014 #71
What gripes me is that, according to some, Obama supporters need to stay out of GD. greatauntoftriplets Jun 2014 #128
You are right, greatauntoftriplets. sheshe2 Jun 2014 #136
I saw that and was happy to see Skinner's response. greatauntoftriplets Jun 2014 #137
I am not male, brer cat Jun 2014 #28
Thank you.nt bravenak Jun 2014 #47
I know I was a on jury last night for a post of yours that was alerted on.. it had one hide. Cha Jun 2014 #42
They alerted every post on that thread. bravenak Jun 2014 #44
To the "victims".. Cha Jun 2014 #50
I'm a middle- aged white female and I wasn't offended by your posts at all. octoberlib Jun 2014 #55
I think i scared some folks and they think i want them dead. bravenak Jun 2014 #61
Totally agree with you about conservatives. I can't abide them . octoberlib Jun 2014 #62
I never got the sense that you had a problem with old folk. MADem Jun 2014 #56
I think you are on to something. bravenak Jun 2014 #60
I am old, and you've always been very nice to me. I'm not conservative, either--though I MADem Jun 2014 #65
I was surprised and a bit saddened by your posts in that other thread Number23 Jun 2014 #74
Particularly since some of us who fall outside that demographic BainsBane Jun 2014 #76
Exactly. Black folks complain about our issues and no one gives a damn (unless it's about legalizing Number23 Jun 2014 #77
That thread has my blood boiling BainsBane Jun 2014 #78
This. You hit the nail again. kwassa Jun 2014 #168
I've also seen people say BainsBane Jun 2014 #79
To be honest, Jamaal510 Jun 2014 #166
+++ Whisp Jun 2014 #142
" ... subsequent head pats. " Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2014 #160
This ... 1StrongBlackMan Jun 2014 #191
I've spent my life being singled out for being a bit different from the norm. MADem Jun 2014 #148
Stand Strong blkmusclmachine Jun 2014 #63
Can't help it. bravenak Jun 2014 #84
nance greggs, and so many others DonCoquixote Jun 2014 #66
I'm just laying low and letting this die down for a while. bravenak Jun 2014 #87
then I offer you this while you lay low :) DonCoquixote Jun 2014 #157
How did i miss this post? bravenak Jun 2014 #161
at the rsk of thunderbolts DonCoquixote Jun 2014 #80
cheering on multiple websites BainsBane Jun 2014 #81
As somebody once told me.... Turbineguy Jun 2014 #88
It made me proud that everyone has such deep feeling for me. bravenak Jun 2014 #89
Calling out people on their hypocrisy tends to make giftedgirl77 Jun 2014 #91
I support you too. KitSileya Jun 2014 #92
I really was not speaking of anyone in partucular which is why this is so strange. bravenak Jun 2014 #93
I think you are right about the dynamic. KitSileya Jun 2014 #96
Ahhh, i see. bravenak Jun 2014 #97
I don't care what anyone else says about you! JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #99
Funny enough, i never noticed her until she showed up to tell me she alerted me and failed. bravenak Jun 2014 #100
Say it all over and over again JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #112
Just wanted to add.... Bobbie Jo Jun 2014 #230
Over on Discussionist BainsBane Jun 2014 #107
Of course they have JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #110
Pretty imposing mind on this one. Pictures of gentle sweetness mask the lion-ness in her heart. Ed Suspicious Jun 2014 #101
Me? bravenak Jun 2014 #102
Indeed. Ed Suspicious Jun 2014 #103
Post removed Post removed Jun 2014 #104
This is a safe haven group. bravenak Jun 2014 #105
Well played JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #114
I just don't bother to alert posts to me. bravenak Jun 2014 #115
God bless the jury JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #118
He is so funny! bravenak Jun 2014 #121
I alerted on you JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #113
I'm guessing most people don't know what that OP is about BainsBane Jun 2014 #106
I hope so. bravenak Jun 2014 #108
when I responded, that was exactly my intent steve2470 Jun 2014 #129
I'm trying to figure out why a post about white old men... SidDithers Jun 2014 #116
Me too. bravenak Jun 2014 #117
FYI ... The alerting is still happening maddezmom Jun 2014 #119
Yeah, not surprised... SidDithers Jun 2014 #120
I would love to know JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #124
I am going to go on the record and say I was juror #1 maddezmom Jun 2014 #125
Thank you. Baitball Blogger Jun 2014 #143
Wow. Number23 Jun 2014 #145
Why the hell is 'white old woman" derogatory etherealtruth Jun 2014 #186
it goes back to that right wing cartoon JI7 Jun 2014 #131
Old white woman checking in etherealtruth Jun 2014 #122
Thank you. bravenak Jun 2014 #123
That is exactly it! etherealtruth Jun 2014 #127
from what i have seen many seen to agree that Black people need to be careful and more sensitive JI7 Jun 2014 #132
BEYONCE!!!!! gollygee Jun 2014 #138
Exactly. bravenak Jun 2014 #139
I haven't been online much this weekend, so I'm really not sure what is going on. Sheldon Cooper Jun 2014 #135
It was good and terrible. bravenak Jun 2014 #140
Back in the days when I frequented Fortean Times MB intaglio Jun 2014 #158
Thank you. bravenak Jun 2014 #159
Add me JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #162
I see what happened now. bravenak Jun 2014 #163
Ding ding ding JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #164
That's even stupider than my hide about.... Number23 Jun 2014 #167
I love it! JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #172
This reminds me of that Jamaal510 Jun 2014 #165
I love that episode JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #173
some of us can help you with your jury blacklist CreekDog Jun 2014 #193
Thank you. bravenak Jun 2014 #194
we'll give you some suggestions CreekDog Jun 2014 #195
I noticed that any issue i find to be important is divisive. bravenak Jun 2014 #199
ok, there are people who will be hostile to you based on your posts about racism or feminism CreekDog Jun 2014 #197
You are right. bravenak Jun 2014 #198
I wonder ... 1StrongBlackMan Jun 2014 #235
Damn, I can't leave y'all alone for a minute! M0rpheus Jun 2014 #200
I will find the appropriate links for you. bravenak Jun 2014 #201
I saw this post yesterday, and I found it all... I think. M0rpheus Jun 2014 #202
Everything gets an alert now. bravenak Jun 2014 #203
That's you in the pic? Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jun 2014 #206
You thought i was a guy? bravenak Jun 2014 #207
Well, one of my pics Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jun 2014 #208
I trashed that thread the moment I saw it ismnotwasm Jun 2014 #216
I should have trashed them too. bravenak Jun 2014 #225
I remain astounded BainsBane Jun 2014 #218
You've said this very well bb JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #219
+1000 heaven05 Jun 2014 #222
I have been really trying to figure this out. bravenak Jun 2014 #223
I have been talking this over and i think you have it just right. bravenak Jun 2014 #236
I don't come here very often heaven05 Jun 2014 #220
I thought it was weird too. bravenak Jun 2014 #224
brave, I enjoy your posts gwheezie Jun 2014 #226
Thank you. bravenak Jun 2014 #227
You're welcome gwheezie Jun 2014 #229
JOE!!!!! bravenak Jun 2014 #228
I've dealt enough with that one BainsBane Jun 2014 #241
Leave? You better not be leaving randys1 Jun 2014 #243
LOL!! bravenak Jun 2014 #244
bravenak, don't leave steve2470 Jun 2014 #231
Thank you Steve. bravenak Jun 2014 #234
me! and by the same jerks as you. bettyellen Jun 2014 #237
I wonder if they know how bad they look?.nt bravenak Jun 2014 #238
No, they don't BainsBane Jun 2014 #240
They should meet up in real life. bravenak Jun 2014 #242
The person who called me a racist ageist wrote this today. bravenak Jun 2014 #239
 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
3. It is amusing and frustrating at the same time.
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:24 PM
Jun 2014

Everytime this happens i tell them as it's happening what they are doing, and never do they see it for what it is.
Once again with the reverse rasism and the martyrdom. One day i will make this shit into a book.

Warpy

(111,135 posts)
29. Gee, mine is only worth a quarter
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:10 AM
Jun 2014

That's probably one of the reasons I don't seem to appear on too many of the usual suspects' radar.

Another is my careful use of the ignore feature. I haven't banned anyone from sitting on a jury but I've certainly evicted them from my screens.

As for the martyrdom, it's been noticed. I don't know what to tell you except a hearty laugh at it helps a lot.

White men have taken a beating but it hasn't come from women or black folks or hungry children or Mexicans or anybody else the noise machine is trying to blame. Their beating has come from other white guys and it's high time they get down off the cross and start figuring that out.

Then we can stop laughing.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
41. I have been sort of laughing about it with my mom all day.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:27 AM
Jun 2014

She's only 19 years older than me and cracks up on this. I'm like a mini her with no filter.
I can understand feeling oppressed and looking for the villain, but me? LOL!
I felt like i was on the set of O'Reilly with the wailing about reverse racism...
I suppose i will wait for the hides to drop off before i say anything that might make white people uncomfortable, heaven forbid i state the obvious and tell then that their problem is with rich old white dudes. I share their problem. I just don't bother to blame the president for e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g.

Erich Bloodaxe BSN

(14,733 posts)
210. I don't blame him for everything either, but I am critical
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 08:34 AM
Jun 2014

when I see him agreeing with the 'rich old white dudes'.

It's a pretty simple litmus test, really - if you're doing what Cheney or Bush would have done, or hiring on the same people they would have, you're doing something wrong.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
211. And i hate the Keystone pipeline.
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 08:41 AM
Jun 2014

But i know that Romney or McCain would have been so bad this would look like a fantasy utopia in comparison. I have a motto that nothing is good or bad unless compared to something else.

Erich Bloodaxe BSN

(14,733 posts)
209. Ding, Ding, Ding! We have a winner!
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 08:32 AM
Jun 2014
White men have taken a beating but it hasn't come from women or black folks or hungry children or Mexicans or anybody else the noise machine is trying to blame. Their beating has come from other white guys and it's high time they get down off the cross and start figuring that out.


This, this, a thousand times this. I look out at the country, and it utterly boggles me how many white people vote for policies that hurt themselves, simply because those policies hurt PoC worse.

Squinch

(50,911 posts)
2. I think you get alert stalked
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:18 PM
Jun 2014

because you are able to point out the attitudes they haven't faced in themselves, and you do it in a way that is pretty clear and unmistakable. It makes them nutty.

Don't stop!

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
5. It is really hard to stop.
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:30 PM
Jun 2014

I try so hard to say nothing, but i have a big ass mouth and read people too well. Maybe from living in the hood and in whiteyville helps me see too clearly. I just think it's worse if i never told them anything. Imagine walking around with a booger on your nose all day and your friend doesn't tell you. That's what it is. I tell them they have boogers and instead of getting a tissue and digging it out, they are embarassed and pissed that i said anything.

Squinch

(50,911 posts)
94. Don't stop. It's important. And even more important is that we get used to hearing
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 07:27 AM
Jun 2014

people say, "Yes, I know YOU think it's OK, but I'm the one being treated that way, and it's not OK with me, which means it is not OK."

Lots of people don't seem to get that.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
95. I feel like i just did a sociological experiment on DU and we failed.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 07:30 AM
Jun 2014

It was like a version of the blue eye brown eye experiment.

Squinch

(50,911 posts)
98. Oy vey. I just read through the threads in question. Madfloridian is a good woman.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 08:10 AM
Jun 2014

I hope this comes to a peaceful end.

And I still say that your clarity and succinctness in pointing out difficult truths is absolutely necessary here.

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
4. Me, alert stalked?
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:24 PM
Jun 2014

Over-noticed? Never.

Your views aren't controversial. You are, however, an African American woman and speak from that perspective. Some find that POV unacceptable.

My views aren't controversial either. I'm pretty middle of the road in terms of my views on gender and race. But the fact is there are a number of people who have ever had to listen to the POV of anyone other that people just like them. They see any suggestion that racism or sexism exists anywhere but within Republican circles as an outrage. We even have folks who defend MRAs, which the Southern Poverty Law Center keeps track of under its Hate Watch project, over feminists and insist it is feminists rather than MRAs that "make DU suck." People are comfortable talking about racism only if they can point the finger at the GOP and never have to examine their own role in the system. While there is no question that the GOP is far more racist and sexist in national policy, on a personal level the differences are not as great as we might hope.

You may not be radical, but you are cute.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
9. Well shit!
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:39 PM
Jun 2014

Duh!! HOF! I forgot about HOF. I made a positive post in HOF, now i am a screeching feminist.
I should add up my wrongs. Worst black racist on DU? Check! Screeching Feminist? Check! Ageist? Yep, that too. And the number one award winning Misandrist? Oh, hell yeah!

Never ever say "Old white dudes are not the fucking victims!" That is racist, sexist, and misandrist.
I better not ever try to use a rofl smilie. Who knows what disaster may ensue.

And you are right, i make them feel uncomfortable.

You like my pic, huh? I look like a dork in every picture. I am standing in front of the map because i am showing all the areas where i oppress people.

 

VanillaRhapsody

(21,115 posts)
11. I always see it as a badge of honor...when they alert on bullshit posts....it means you
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:41 PM
Jun 2014

struck a nerve!

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
12. We're on the list together
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:43 PM
Jun 2014

Remember the list of people that need their heads sorted out, all African Americans and feminists?

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
19. Oh yeah, i just told 1SBM that he was on the list.
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:52 PM
Jun 2014

He was honored. We should get awards and a gift cards for the hard misandrying we do every day. It's hard to keep it up while looking this cool. I work at it in every spare moment.

Funny how the hated people are the ones with vaginas or dark skin or those who love us too much.
I did like going over there to reply to the list of the worst duers ever. I felt like i was on TMZ, girl, loving the fame. I will be Wearing Zebra print from now on to get into the role.

Cha

(296,800 posts)
27. "Cute" and Funny, bravenak~
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:04 AM
Jun 2014
"You like my pic, huh? I look like a dork in every picture. I am standing in front of the map because i am showing all the areas where i oppress people." and, just to live on the edge Lol

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
48. I kill me sometimes!
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:31 AM
Jun 2014

If people would chill out they would see how awesome i am and love me for life.

Cha

(296,800 posts)
51. I bet you do!
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:37 AM
Jun 2014

You have a good sense humor

"If people would chill out they would see how awesome i am and love me for life." And, they would totally stop alerting on you.

chervilant

(8,267 posts)
64. Yeah, and you're in good company:
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 01:37 AM
Jun 2014

Have you noticed that all the M$M eulogies for Maya fail to acknowledge that she was among the most influential feminist voices on the planet?

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
109. Yes.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 09:51 AM
Jun 2014

Feminist is a bad word now. My sister refuses to believe she is one because she hates labels.

sheshe2

(83,639 posts)
18. Hey BainsBane.
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:51 PM
Jun 2014
Me, alert stalked? Over-noticed? Never.


I am glad that little snafu is over. For now anyway. They need to realize that we are not sitting down and we are not shutting up!

Good to see you!

JI7

(89,239 posts)
49. some think if one doesn't say the N word it's not racist
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:32 AM
Jun 2014

or if one is pro choice they can't be sexist.

as we have seen with many issues it's often those who deny institutional bigotry that are the problem.

on gay rights while the westboro trash was very offensive and ignorant the real problem standing in the way of getting rights were those who would say things like "i don't hate anyone i just don't agree with their lifestyle or think anyone should have special rights".

Skittles

(153,111 posts)
6. who is that lovely gal - is that you?
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:35 PM
Jun 2014

look, on any internet board you're gonna find the crazies - try to identify them and put them on IGNORE - they're pathetic critters who don't have lives, who try to boost their egos by tearing others down......F*** THEM

 

Electric Monk

(13,869 posts)
10. I'm pretty sure putting someone on ignore doesn't disable their ability to alert on your posts.
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:39 PM
Jun 2014

All it does is hide what they post from your ability to view it while logged in.

Skittles

(153,111 posts)
14. is there a DU system in place to alert on alert abusers?
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:44 PM
Jun 2014

I don't know because I do not alert, nor do I serve on juries

 

Electric Monk

(13,869 posts)
16. When a post is hidden you get a PM saying so, and that has an alert button bottom left corner
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:48 PM
Jun 2014

just like every other PM you get, and I'm pretty sure those alerts go straight to the admins instead of a jury.

I don't think any jury hides have ever been overturned by the admins, though. They can, however, see who each alert was sent by. That's how they caught Skip Intro self alert stalking and trying to play the victim, for example.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
149. Complete lie. You were warned, not me. If you're going to dredge shit up
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 02:19 AM
Jun 2014

be honest about it.

Prominent admin member told you specifically to quit using his name in the sick "witch hunts" you were conducting at the time.

You're trying to re-write history, but the facts are not on your side.

That happens when you lie.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
171. "I like Cjeekdgg" was exactly what you wrote
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 08:29 PM
Jun 2014

you foolishly thought alerts were anonymous, but you alerted for the hosts, not a jury, and in your alert statement (about your own OP in Meta) you said, among other things, "I like Cjeekdgg".

Pretending to be drunk.

This is why when you post, people respond to you like that, because so many people saw what you did.

Like a three year old? Yes you were.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
178. Nope, anyone can read the link and see that you're misrepresenting it
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 08:58 PM
Jun 2014

and i will point out a climate change denier as long as I am allowed to do so here on DU.

and that poster is blocked from the E/E group for doing that, not by me, by other hosts there before me.

so what I said was the truth, which a moment ago you claimed to stand for.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
181. I hope they do click the link!
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 09:03 PM
Jun 2014

I hope they read Average Joe's post as well as the reply in which you were called uncool and ingore-worthy.

Is that thread about me? Nope. It's about YOU.

Again, if you don't want to be called out on being stalkish and personal attacking, stop being stalkish and personal attacking.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
170. Skip don't lie. You did self alert your own post in Meta.
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 08:18 PM
Jun 2014

In the alert message, which you sent as an SOP alert rather than for a jury --you pretended to sound like someone who was defending me, even though that Meta post OP you posted outright attacked me, personally.

But for some foolish reason, you thought you could keep the post from being hidden by posting an alert that looked like a poor attempt to defend me in hopes that would make a jury not hide it.

Later in the thread, when you were confronted, you claimed you were showing your "friend" DU and *he* alerted on the post and you had nothing to do with it.

Right.

Don't worry, someone has a screencap of that thread, so don't be too confident that you can lie about what you did and didn't do in that thread.

That was when I learned that arguing with you, I wasn't just arguing with someone I disagreed with, I was arguing with someone who would lie to try to win the argument.

And that's when I lost respect for any of your posts because I know that if you felt you had to lie, then you knew if you told the truth, you would not be convincing.

Which means you know your positions are bankrupt. And they are.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
180. Post the screencap, CD. You claimed to have it. Don't talk about it, Post it.
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 09:01 PM
Jun 2014

You won't, because you can't, because you're lying, which will come as a shock to no one.

The thread was 100% accurate. You're just pissed and STILL not over being called out.

"Waaaahhhh, somebody called me out in a thread a year and a half ago and I'm still mad."



As I said in another post, if you don't want to be called out on being stalkish and attacking others, don't be stalkish and attack others.

Simple, yes?

Btw...

The admin advises others to ignore you. Not me, you.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/12595593

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
182. No, I don't keep screencaps, unlike you, and second I witnessed the post
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 09:05 PM
Jun 2014

I don't need to prove it with a screencap.

Others also witnessed the post, so what I say you posted is confirmed by others here.

It happened, what we say you posted, *you posted*, because you did, hundreds here saw what you posted and saw the self alert you did on your own OP.

Which was a truly cowardly thing.

And now you're in this group, the first time here, even though your posts are openly hostile to African American posts about racism in the USA.

In fact, you've posted many times that the "race card" or a claim of racism should not be said, those times in reference to racism against black people.

However, you're quick to call something you see as racist towards white, "racist".

And you're here in this group, as if you belong in a safe haven group for African Americans, while holding those points of view and that posting history.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
183. Of course you don't, you never did. Busted yet again. LOL!
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 09:07 PM
Jun 2014

You talk shit, get called on it, and then run and hide or spew forth more tired bullshit to cover it.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
185. If only people were as gullible as you wish they were, eh?
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 09:13 PM
Jun 2014

How easy life would be for you then!

Btw, did your pastime/obsession of running around the board calling people racist get an official slapdown? I seem to have read something along those lines. +100 to the admin if so!

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
150. Hi, Skittles, this is Skip Intro.
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 02:21 AM
Jun 2014

You recently sent me a pm telling me we were cool and that you got me mixed up with NYC_SKP. I can post the whole thing if you'd like.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
153. Sad.
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 02:32 AM
Jun 2014

I really did like you.

I remember you being one of the first to talk to me here at length.

We had a conversation about you never having posted a thread-starting OP. Which I couldn't believe because you had such meaningful things to say. Remember?

Now you're with the hyenas. Attack attack attack. Fuck facts. Fuck reality. Just attack anyone who doesn't say or do exactly as you wish. Or join on with the few remaining Meta-zombies in one of their hits. Like a member of worn high-school clique. Well, hopefully you'll resurrect yourself from that gutter.

In the meantime I'll remember you as you used to be.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
156. Did you ask me about any of it?
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 02:48 AM
Jun 2014

No, you joined right in on the attack with a very few Meta-holics, and started throwing your own attacks.

The thread in question called out a particular poster for his well-documented stalking and attacking of other posters. Plenty of others besides me.

The DUer you're assisting, Electric Monk, was told directly by S*****r to not use his name in EM's sick "witch hunt" posts.

But the truth of that thread, and of what I'm saying here, is wasted on them, because they're not interested in reality. They're interested in some childish school-yard smears. And you seem suddenly to be right in the middle of it. Maybe you always were.

Hate appears to control this board now, and instead of lamenting the turn for the worse you embrace it.

Not worried about it. Unlike some here, I'd rather know the truth. And now I do.

Later.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
169. you're coming into a safe haven group for African Americans and harassing people?
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 08:12 PM
Jun 2014

that's how you get blocked, and deservedly so.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
174. .
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 08:48 PM
Jun 2014

Not that I or anyone else needs to explain anything to you, I will point out the following

1 - I'm not harassing anyone, that's your game.

2 - What am I supposedly blocked from?

3 - If you can't handle the truth, don't read my posts.

I was responding to a sub-thread where EM is spreading lies about myself. Now I know you don't believe in self-defense, and I know you will take the tiniest thing to go drama on, and I know at some point you'll be calling me racist for simply being White and breathing. But reality doesn't really care, CreekDog, and frankly, neither do I.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
176. except it is 100% true that you self alerted your own OP in Meta about me
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 08:53 PM
Jun 2014

then claimed it was your friend who sent the alert in from your account, you were just "showing him DU" by demonstrating how one alerts on posts.



and I am white. Being white doesn't make one racist, being racist does.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
177. .
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 08:56 PM
Jun 2014

The admin advises others to ignore you. Not me, you.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/12595593



Btw, the thread about you that you still aren't over going on two years was 100% accurate, and the link above parallels it very well.

Don't want to be called out on stalking and personal attacks?

Stop stalking other DUers and attacking them.


CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
179. so now you're finally admitting to self alerting your own OP and claiming it was your friend...
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 09:00 PM
Jun 2014

...your friend who sent the alert in under your name.

and if that OP is true, then I take it you're brave enough to post the thread here in its entirety and as proof that you aren't lying.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
187. .
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 09:19 PM
Jun 2014

You seem to be the only one interested in a year and a half old thread. You might want to focus on getting over it. I've already stated that what I wrote in that thread, which was about you and your stalking and personal attacks (just as Average Joe wrote in ATA at this link: http://www.democraticunderground.com/12595593 where the admin reply was to call you uncool and suggest you were ignore-worthy), was accurate. I called you out, as others have done, and you're still sore about it.

My advice to you: if you don't want to be called out for stalkerish behavior and personal attacks, stop engaging in stalkerish behavior and personal attacks.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
192. You're here arguing with people who keep mentioning that 1.5 year old thread!
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 10:30 PM
Jun 2014

and you're saying nobody is interested in it? you're fighting with several people here who brought it up here before you arrived in this thread.



how stupid do you think we are?

might not want to answer that, if your posts on DU are an indication of how you feel about this group.

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
196. .
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 11:51 PM
Jun 2014

You and your little games.

It's a sad situation.

I don't think you're stupid. Not sure what causes you to chase people around the board and attack them repeatedly. But I don't think it's stupidity.

At any rate, if you keep doing it, you're likely to keep being called out on it. If you keep spouting bullshit, you're likely to keep being called out on that too.

 

snooper2

(30,151 posts)
212. When you alert on your own thread which do you get first, the Jury Results or Post Hidden PM?
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 10:12 AM
Jun 2014

Or do they come in with the same timestamp?

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
214. Blame me.
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 10:34 AM
Jun 2014

I egged him on before i knew what i like cjeek dgg meant. Big mistake. He followed the link here and boom! I figure he'd make a couple of posts and stop but never that. I mean i like Creek Dog too but damn, he really likes him.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
232. LOL. It's a safe haven group.
Wed Jun 11, 2014, 07:24 AM
Jun 2014

if a host wants to block him i think they have the power to do so.

that is a decision of the hosts of this group, not me.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
233. I'll ask Number23 when she stops by.
Wed Jun 11, 2014, 10:37 AM
Jun 2014

I feel bad for linking here but i had no idea what i like cjeek dgg was all about when i did. Boy that was funny to read about.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
217. Yes, he said he was showing his friend how DU works
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 01:01 PM
Jun 2014


wait, it gets better...

he showed him how to alert, using his own account, then his friend sent the alert in.

FreedRadical

(518 posts)
46. Skittles I wonder if you knew about this Alert?
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:30 AM
Jun 2014

On Sat Jun 7, 2014, 07:07 PM an alert was sent on the following post:

let's be honest here - is this the Tiger Beat club again?
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5062829

REASON FOR ALERT

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.

ALERTER'S COMMENTS

Nasty personal attack on a group of DUers. Tiger Beat and "fuck them" is unnecessary and does nothing for the discourse here

You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Sat Jun 7, 2014, 07:15 PM, and the Jury voted 3-4 to LEAVE IT.

Juror #1 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #2 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation:

Over the top insult.

Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Really?
Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: Skittles' "tough guy" shtick is getting old.
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: There's a Tiger Beat group?
Juror #7 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given

Thank you very much for participating in our Jury system, and we hope you will be able to participate again in the future.

I had the pleasure of being the deciding vote to leave it.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
13. Yes, that's me. I am the racist and ageist that was spoken of in that thread about older people.
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:43 PM
Jun 2014

I am also the sexist. There is an anti me thread that i rec'd for exposure. I stated that white men are not the victims and much more evil things like what is listed in my journal. Many people are so angry and i am not sorry.

Skittles

(153,111 posts)
17. I guess I would have to read your context
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:50 PM
Jun 2014

white men certainly seem to play the victim card the more privilege they lose, but they can still be victims.....for example, white men are a big chunk of the 99% and we gals are right in there with them in that fight, and being a white man doesn't protect them from losing everything in the event of a medical disaster

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
24. Well i meant in the context of society.
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:58 PM
Jun 2014

I said old white men are the ones who legislate my womb, pass restrictive laws to try to stop me from voting, and are the classic oppressor of African Americans and women. I did not say 'not all old white men!' I also said they were the ones standing in the way of progress and that demographics being what they are, the nation will continue getting progressivly liberal since the new majority will be women, minorities, lgbt's and younger voters who skew more liberal as a whole.

Skittles

(153,111 posts)
31. in general, true
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:14 AM
Jun 2014

just remember a lot of us older folk and yes, white folk, have fought the good fight for a long time.....try to express yourself in a way that does not alienate those who have ALWAYS been liberal

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
34. I told her i was sorry i hurt her but i couldn't figure out a better way to express it.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:16 AM
Jun 2014

No answer, and a thread about me. Maybe somebody just wanted to be offended?

Skittles

(153,111 posts)
36. ooh
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:19 AM
Jun 2014

that's not good - that's passive-aggressive bs.......I don't care for that kind of shit myself

hopemountain

(3,919 posts)
69. you were clear in stating
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 02:49 AM
Jun 2014

"old white men". not sure why she was so offended by your statement. everything you say is true. you are not alone in facing these accusations. indeed, every woman of color who sees what you and i see and stands up for herself is labeled and sometimes, even worse. they just cannot stand a woman of color who is also educated and articulate when demanding respect - to which they believe only they are entitled.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
111. I scared them.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:00 AM
Jun 2014

It's scary to learn that people see the world in a radically different way than you. I feel no nostalgia because the past was terrible for people who looked like me. I feel nothing for the founding fathers. They would buy and sell me like a piece of wood. Manifest Destiny makes my blood boil, and i think Lincoln was a white supremacist. Teddy Roosevelt was not much better. FDR refused lynching legislation. Jimmy Carter was aight. Not great on race issues, but nothing like Reagan. My worldview does not show their heroes in a good light. I always think,how would i be treated during that time when people wax nostalgic. The answer is always, worse than today. So i want to go forward not back.

hopemountain

(3,919 posts)
134. yup - SOME people scream about
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 06:14 PM
Jun 2014

sharia law descending upon america. but racism & misogyny in our country runs deep and is just as hideous.

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
188. +1 ...
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 09:45 PM
Jun 2014

And don't stop there ... the great civil rights heroes, JFK and LBJ, weren't all that ... JFK, as a Senator, voted against Civil Rights legislation ... twice, and LBJ's pushing of the CRA of 1964 was more a recognition of the 125,000 WWII and the 600,000 Korean War veterans that (mistakenly, IMO) saw the death of President Kennedy, as the last, best peaceful chance at getting the rights that the US government trained them to fight for others, but were being denied here at home ... then with the assassination of Dr. King, LBJ recognized that had he NOT worked to pass the CRA, there would violence.

But that is not the liberal history that we must know ... pointing out all of the above is seen as "divisive" because ... well ... the liberal "heroes" weren't/aren't our heroes. (In the words of Public Enemy, "The face of my heroes don't appear on a stamp!&quot

I always think, how would i be treated during that time when people wax nostalgic. The answer is always, worse than today. So i want to go forward not back.


And there's where the great "old white man" rub appears ... as DUer Frazzled pointed out (http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5060816), things are so bad now because this is the 1st time since the great depression that white men look around and see that they are really suffering, as a class ... in previous economic times, the only ones that were holding down good paying (working class) jobs were white men; now they see that they are not immunized to the suffering that they previously didn't have to think about. So of course they wish to go back to the "good old days."

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
68. I've referenced age before
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 02:39 AM
Jun 2014

but I think the issue is not age per se but retrograde thinking, the idea that the rest of us need to conform to their worldview (formed in part by their race, class, and gender) to be accepted or to even have our speech be seen as legitimate. Some of the most reactionary posters are younger, and some older posters are very open-minded. DU, however, does have an older, whiter demographic than the population at large, so that is going to influence the views and "community standards" of the site.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
83. I explained what i meant over and over.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 05:56 AM
Jun 2014

They did not care that it was factual. Older white men lean more conservative that the population as a whole. DU leans older and male. The party supports the president. The party is majority women, minorities, younger voters and lgbt. That was my explanation for why DU is less supportive. The people who are his biggest supporters are not here in force. They showed why that is in that thread. I told them why and they don't believe me. They can't ever say nobody told them.

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
85. I saw you gave a very nice apology to her
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 06:01 AM
Jun 2014

and explained what you meant. That should have been sufficient.

Everyone knows what the demographic breakdown in voting is, despite the efforts by one of your responders to redefine "old" as 45-64.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
86. I am always as clear as i can be and willing to explain myself unless someone is just trolling me.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 06:11 AM
Jun 2014

I am enjoying reading all of the nasty stuff about me on that thread and will make sure to give a wide berth to anyone who expresses and interest in never hearing from me again. I usually do not send out nasty messages and will not be running around looking for people to attack for saying something hurtful. Once they finish with the Wicked Witch Bravenak thread, I hope it is done and finished with. I still feel famous. I never realized i could make people feel such deep feeling for me and i am quite sure they are all in love with me. I am pretty dope. And quite fit for a lazy ass. And i did this new thing with my hair with my deep wave iron. I can see why they love me.

Number23

(24,544 posts)
72. You do realize the person you're talking to was the main one kicking and whooping it up in the
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 04:05 AM
Jun 2014

thread ABOUT you? The Tiger Beat comments are about you and other Obama supporters, you realize?

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
82. Yes i do.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 05:51 AM
Jun 2014

And i think that she will look back at the thread later or read my journal and realize what was going on. The offending posts were alerted on and passed the jury. That's why they kept alerting me. It pissed her off that a juror agreed with my sentiments and does not seem to know that this is common knowledge.

 

giftedgirl77

(4,713 posts)
90. Amazing isn't it?
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 06:58 AM
Jun 2014

Even after someone posts links to her bs here she still carries on. B. is waaaayyyy better than me, I might have gotten a hide on that crap.

sheshe2

(83,639 posts)
7. No your views are not controversial, bravenak.
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:36 PM
Jun 2014

You speak from your experience and from your heart.



Keep on keeping on woman.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
15. Thanks She.
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:46 PM
Jun 2014

I knew it wasn't controversial and i said so. But it is controversial here. I did get pissed and said fucking and FU too, but shit, they were coming at me like gangbusters. 1 black woman, 20 white people, and i am the oppressor and the racist and they are my victims. Where they hell do these people get all these crosses to martyr themselves on? Is DU running a lumberyard now?

sheshe2

(83,639 posts)
52. BTW...
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:45 AM
Jun 2014

I love your pic and you look sassy! Your daughters pic is a young you and I will bet she is just as sassy as you are. The apple never falls far from the tree!

You go woman.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
53. Thank you!
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:51 AM
Jun 2014

Yeah they are just like me. Crazy ladies.
I wanted people to see the face of their abuser (me) so they could focus their anger at me and get a good look at the 'Real Racist' and 'Real Sexist'.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
67. You're young, gorgeous, sexy, smart and black. That kills 'em.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 02:33 AM
Jun 2014

I remember asking an older coworker why this one older woman just screeched and screamed at me every chance she got in an office job I had one time at my company.

I was there because I'd been injured on my regular job and was hated for having made more money working with men in the outside jobs. I was puzzled and tried to be nice to her but it didn't work.

He said to me, that she hated me because I was what she had never been, smart, beautiful, gusty and at that time, young. She had an easier go of it at work and all of that, but the sight of me drove her crazy. I was known as the kindest, most loving person there, but his words put things in perspective for me and I just tuned her out from then on.

I agree with you on working more elsewhere than here, as I'm doing the same. This place is steadily turning into trollville and liberation underground. The only reason I don't see much of the dust-ups is my ignore list. I still find people to talk to and I'll miss your posts when I run across them.

And the truth should never be controversial, your words are not flamebait. Yes, we have a serious effort to run people off.

Drop back in as you please, bravenak. You're always going to be welcome here, in HOF or the BOG if you visit.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
144. You sound just like my sister.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 08:57 PM
Jun 2014

She has that problem at work and usually calls me up at lunchtime to write a list of comebacks for the week. She can rotate the same ones and they apply no doubt about it.
Thank you for this post. I felt bad that so many are swarming me and insulting me and i have never spoken to most of these people. Hurtful. They never defend me when racists posts are made about me but rush to denigrate me because i used white old and men in a negative light. I still consider old white men ( NOT ALL MEN) to be the woman's burden.

sheshe2

(83,639 posts)
146. I use "old white men" in a negative context...
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:33 PM
Jun 2014

because the "old White men" in the GOP and Teaparty want to destroy all women. They want us as chattel and incubators and we are so very handy when they need to let out their frustrations in life. A slap here verbal and physical abuse there.


They want to take away our healthcare.

They want to limit our access to birth control.

They want to redefine rape.

They want to take away a woman's right to chose.

They want to pay a woman less for the same job a man does.

They not only support it, they run on that platform.


We are not a person to them, we are property.


Sadly we have some that believe that right here.

I won't be quiet either bravenak.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
147. I find that the haters aren't really talking about the person they're after but hating themselves.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:57 PM
Jun 2014

Some boys pelted me with rocks for interfering with their sport of stoning an animal to death outside my elementary school. After that, they began stalking me and calling me names outside the classroom.

That became a daily event, and although I wasn't frightened. I was one those who had to be pulled inside during lightning storms, too, so that may give an indication as to just how crazy I may be! I'd already developed my own way of not letting peer pressure get to me, but I was puzzled. I asked my dad what the names meant and for advice on what to say in return. I didn't have a retort, as what they were saying to me wasn't logical.

He didn't go into the meanings but told me to tell them:

'Who are you talking to?'


IOW, I'm not that, so you can't be talking to me. They quit after that, which may be surprising, but they'd already seen I didn't give a shit about their opinion.

I eventually got respect from the boys later, by punching one guy for an out of the blue attack on on a girl I was walking next to and talking with, just for grins. The boy had knocked her and her bike over and laughed. She sure wasn't expecting it, none of us did, and started crying. And it truly pissed me off.

My punch knocked him on his ass and he started crying and ran home. The other boys gathered around and said he was the school bully and they were glad someone stopped him. I didn't care about their praise or anything. You just don't DO that to anyone, right?

Of course that's fifty years ago, I'd probably be arrested today. But kids worked crap out that way, even though 'conflict resolution' which is what they teach the kids now, at least where I live, is a lot better way of living, really. It starts up in elementary school, and it would have probably prevented the bully from acting out at all. How many wounds could be prevented that way?

I've found simply not letting others define me worked at my jobs with the little nasty games some play. I liked working with men better, as they were upfront with their feelings of hate based on race and gender.

But the women in other jobs played their passive aggressive games, knowing just where to put the knife right between the ribs to get to the heart, oh yeah, they were hilarious. Of course not all the women were that way but some folks get the pack mentality and anything goes.

Guys would blurt out what they thought, and so I let them have it with both barrels and told them in excruciating detail how wrong they were. I proved I could do the work as good or better than most, had a good work ethic and was not afraid of anything.

After the initial skirmishes, they backed me to the hilt against male chauvinists that joined the crew later, to the point of telling them they preferred working with me. If they had a problem about working with me, they gave them hell, and were rather creative in the punishments they dished out.

One time a guy begged them to stop and they prepped to give me a public apology for dissing me badly one time, and I said, I didn't want an apology, as he wouldn't be sincere, so just go on and kiss and make up.

I'm glad you have your sister's back and she has comebacks. As long as she is doing the right thing, the universe (or whatever one wants to say) is on her side. Her conscience will be clear and she'll be strong.

Oh, and I replied in my own way to you, launching off a post by redqueen on your OP:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025065109#post141

That is a good OP, and my little list ignored those who likely made negative remarks, so I thought the thread suceeded.

JI7

(89,239 posts)
21. there is a lot of resentment against black people for supporting the President
Sat Jun 7, 2014, 11:54 PM
Jun 2014

and some others but mainly black people.

Skittles

(153,111 posts)
30. total bs
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:10 AM
Jun 2014

it's resentment against anyone who thinks the president can do NO WRONG - DUers thought the conservatives who NEVER stopped supporting Dubya were pathetic and they DETEST seeing that kind of irrational swooning on a progressive board

why does this need to be said over and over and over? YOU ALREADY KNOW.

JI7

(89,239 posts)
37. yeah, someone posts a right wing cartoon and it gets hidden and they are seen as a martyr
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:22 AM
Jun 2014

the op posts about race issues and is attacked and accused of victimizing white people .

JI7

(89,239 posts)
39. also the one that calls him a piece of shit
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:25 AM
Jun 2014

the one who regular attacks and thinks racist watermelon/fried chicken jokes are funny.

and the fact that the top was attacked unlike the others.

Skittles

(153,111 posts)
40. so you are referring to a couple of DUers
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:26 AM
Jun 2014

and not, say, a huge segment of DUers, to support your sweeping accusation?

Skittles

(153,111 posts)
57. there were different intepretations of that cartoon
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 01:04 AM
Jun 2014

many did NOT see it as racist - but you already know that

this is tiresome......you can go back to your bubble now

JI7

(89,239 posts)
59. and when it was pointed out what it was about including the right winger who made it
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 01:10 AM
Jun 2014

people refused to just admit to a mistake and instead make the person out to be some martyr and attack others.

sheshe2

(83,639 posts)
54. Skittles, it was not just the posts themselves.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:52 AM
Jun 2014

They were fully kicked and recommended. Fully supported. It was sadly not just about a few posts.

greatauntoftriplets

(175,729 posts)
126. Absolutely correct, she.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 11:58 AM
Jun 2014

And re that cartoon, Scott Stantis is a neoconservative, a Republican wet dream. Yet how many recommendations did that and the POS used-car salesman thing get? Rhetorical question, of course.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
141. a large segment of DUers think that posts like P.o.S. used care salesman, fuck off Obama
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 08:39 PM
Jun 2014

was worthy of recs and cheers and orgasmic pissing of pants in delight.

I suppose you don't count That, do you?

JI7

(89,239 posts)
133. i have said this before and i'm pretty sure the most racist, sexist, bigoted posters
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 06:11 PM
Jun 2014

on that site are regulars on DU.

regulars who screech about being the most liberal , progressive and other shit.

i would actually say it's a defensive thing the way right wingers always claim to not be racist .

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
190. An interesting thought ...
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 10:05 PM
Jun 2014

what is the admins created the Dis to identify the fake, racist, liberal/progressive poser on DU?

Naaahhhh! Wishful thinking.

sheshe2

(83,639 posts)
33. That's true.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:16 AM
Jun 2014

And that is why the BOG was born. I wasn't here when it was formed, yet it is a safe haven for people to go and celebrate our President. Here on DU we need a safe haven. How sad is that.

They detest the BOG. Read last night that on discussionist we are called BOGscum. WOW!

Thanks for your post JI7.

JI7

(89,239 posts)
43. they are a bunch of racist zimmerman supporters
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:27 AM
Jun 2014

says a lot that people would have no problem with that while they think those who support the president or post about women's issues are a problem.

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
71. Just check out Discussionist
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 03:18 AM
Jun 2014

and see posts by people who say they came from DU. There people are free to be exactly who they are, and it isn't pretty.

greatauntoftriplets

(175,729 posts)
128. What gripes me is that, according to some, Obama supporters need to stay out of GD.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:00 PM
Jun 2014

The "BOG' has become a term of opprobrium even here, let alone at Discussionist.

sheshe2

(83,639 posts)
136. You are right, greatauntoftriplets.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 06:53 PM
Jun 2014

There were several posts to ATA a while ago about that very subject. They wanted our threads not to appear in GD, so our comments didn't hurt their sensibilities.

Cause they didn't know they were posting in the BOG, They said that even though we were then posting..

****************This is posted in the Barack Obama Group.**********************

Skinner's comments were a flat out NO! If I can find them, I will send you the links!

greatauntoftriplets

(175,729 posts)
137. I saw that and was happy to see Skinner's response.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 07:02 PM
Jun 2014

As I recall, Skinner told them to trash the group.

I took the excuse with a grain of salt.

brer cat

(24,523 posts)
28. I am not male,
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:04 AM
Jun 2014

but I am an old white woman. I fully support you, bravenak. You say what needs to be said. Don't let anyone take your voice away.

Cha

(296,800 posts)
42. I know I was a on jury last night for a post of yours that was alerted on.. it had one hide.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:27 AM
Jun 2014

My response was "Geeze".. Leave Alone. Ridiculous.

Carry on, bravenak

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
44. They alerted every post on that thread.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:29 AM
Jun 2014

Color me shocked. I guess they are victims and i was wrong.

octoberlib

(14,971 posts)
55. I'm a middle- aged white female and I wasn't offended by your posts at all.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:58 AM
Jun 2014

I totally get what you were saying. I also served as a juror on one of your alerted on posts and voted to leave. I really think they're taking all this out of context. I for one am excited about your vision of the future and hope I'm around to see it.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
61. I think i scared some folks and they think i want them dead.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 01:18 AM
Jun 2014

Even though i said the opposite. I want everyone who was waiting for us to be here to help carry the torch to stick around long enough to see some justice. It is going to take a while to have enough voting liberals to effect the change we want, but i still think we are going to rip wall street to shreds and take back what we all lost and then some. I want it to be seen by the ones who started it even if we gotta charge up their scooters and build ramps so they can put some torches to that shit themselves. We all need each other, but i admit i am a hater of conservatives. On both sides. I think they are standing in the way. In all of our ways.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
56. I never got the sense that you had a problem with old folk.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 01:00 AM
Jun 2014

I always thought you had a justifiable annoyance with people who felt like the world owed them a living just because of their status, wealth, position or place in society, you know, like they didn't have to do the work--the "Do you know WHO I AM?" types. I don't perceive you as an ageist--I don't think I am wrong.

I know we all prefer to transmit, hell, I do too, but I try real hard lately to not just read the posts but also click the links. I'm also trying to avoid people who are goaders and baiters, and plenty of us have our share of those.

I know I've had a few people chasing my ass (got my first hide ever the other day!) but there are a lot of people who hit me and miss, too. Can't please everyone, I guess.

I think sometimes ALERT isn't used for "offensive" stuff, it's used to shut people up. There's a deliberate misinterpretation, a throw of the dice, and boom--jury hide. No. 23 was getting a lot of unfair hides lately. Nothing we can do about this kind of thing except avoid people and maybe tell them you don't want to respond because it won't be a productive discussion. If they persist, say "You win--not getting into it with you." That might annoy worse than getting into a fight, who knows?

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
60. I think you are on to something.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 01:12 AM
Jun 2014

I may need to choose my battles and not respond to people who are just trying to goad me. The two hides i got were after i got frustrated with a powerful pisser who wax trying to get me to say something they could hide since the stuff that really angered them passed the jury. Next time, if they want me off the thread so bad i'll just post gifs and cat pictures. With awesome captions.

I don't have a problem with old people, i gravitate towards them since they have seen so much stuff i missed out on. I just think that older people are more conservative as a group and as time goes on society will get more liberal. I did apologize to MadFloridian about hurting her and let her know that i could not find another way to express what i was saying. So she wrote a thread about me and i rec'd it and promised not to troll it. I really do not see what is so wrong about how i tried to handle it. I am hurt that she refused my apology and decided to do a call out thread on me instead.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
65. I am old, and you've always been very nice to me. I'm not conservative, either--though I
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 01:41 AM
Jun 2014

sometimes get goaded with that label (but not by you, at least not that I recall!). I am a social programs/safety net FREAK, actually, and I'm in the "Rising Tide Lifts All Boats" club.

I hang out with (well, help out with rides and things of that nature) a lot of really old people...they are conservative about odd things, but their conservatism has more to do with APPEARANCES than actions. They're of the "Go ahead and do that, it doesn't bother MEEEEE... but don't broadcast it to the neighborhood" mindset. They're wrapping their heads around their grandchildren making different choices about how they live their lives, and "different" looking families, and "uh oh why won't they go to my church," but what's funny about these people is that once they realize that they aren't the only ones living in this new reality, and no one bats an eye, they stop worrying, they "get over it" and then get all happy and proud. THEY don't give a shit--they're just worried about what that busybody "over there" might think.

I hope they'll be the last generation that has to go through all that agita, because it's a waste of frigging time. There will probably always be the "fashion divide" and the "music divide," but beyond that we all need to get along. My old pals, they're reliable "D" voters, of course--never miss an election, either.

I am late to the whole "party" here with these "old people" threads. I don't like ageism, but I don't think you've got a problem with people based on age--I never have.

Sometimes very young people can act like old farts too--look at any of the idiots under thirty who are dumb enough to call themselves Republicans!

Number23

(24,544 posts)
74. I was surprised and a bit saddened by your posts in that other thread
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 04:16 AM
Jun 2014

You are one of a small handful here that I think "gets" where those of us with melanin are coming from.

But I realize that entire OP was just one big "OMG!! MY OXE HAS BEEN GORED and I will be AVENGED!!1" whine fest of epic idiocy that will do exactly what it's designed to do -- draw people in and get them to pat the OP on the head and make her feel better even if she is ridiculously and deliberately mischaracterizing what has happened. The OP knows as well as everyone else does here that DU skews OVERWHELMINGLY white and older. So post an OP about how you as an older white person got "your feelings hurt" by some black whippersnapper and the hankies and warm hugs abound even if what you're saying does nothing but show a stunning lack of honesty and awareness. It's the ultimate manipulation.

Lots of folks have been revealing themselves around here lately. And most of it has been completely unintentional.

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
76. Particularly since some of us who fall outside that demographic
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 04:28 AM
Jun 2014

and ideological perspective are attacked with some frequency and few care about our feelings.

Number23

(24,544 posts)
77. Exactly. Black folks complain about our issues and no one gives a damn (unless it's about legalizing
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 04:38 AM
Jun 2014

MJ). Feminists speak out and no one cares. We've got Asians getting their posts hidden and non-Americans catch shit regularly and all everyone wants to talk about is how the "rights" of certain posters to post right wing crap has been taken from them.

An older person hears that some old white men are blocking progress (which is a fact so irrefutable that I cannot honestly believe that any moderately intelligent and informed person would try to deny it) and concludes that someone is criticizing all old people in order to create an epic whine fest and receive the subsequent head pats.

The phrase about gored oxes has never been so perfectly displayed. Never mind the truth in bravenak's posts, never mind that everything she's said has been said by black folks a million times over. The ONLY thing that matters is that as an older person, that person felt attacked, TRUTH. BE. DAMNED. And the fact that this person made it clear that they didn't even know the AA forum here EXISTED just really made me lol.

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
78. That thread has my blood boiling
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 04:58 AM
Jun 2014

now that I looked at it. There is the predicable, "some people are here to divide." "Women who claim to speak for all women" excuse, which is a complete lie. There is a strong Positivist perspective by posters who simply cannot imagine, who refuse to imagine, that anyone who thinks differently from themselves can possibly have anything worthwhile to say. Our very existence on this site is illegitimate, to "troll" and "divide." When you or Bravenak speak about racism, you are "causing division" by showing their is another set of experiences which they consider entirely insignificant. If feminists post about violence against women, that is seen as trivial and an effort to "divide and malign" perfectly good DUers, people who have showed exactly what they are over on Discussionist. Positivism was a late- nineteenth early-twentieth century philosophy based on empiricism, with no understanding of the extent to which class, race, and gender influenced their notion of "absolute truth." Although discredited as a philosophy, it continues to frame the ways in which people understanding knowledge and the world around them. For example, one member who has posted a number of threads decrying the use of the term white privilege insisted posts discussing privilege were flamebait, whereas his were not since they took the opposite point of view. I find that kind of inability to hold in one's mind the idea that another POV can legitimately exist to show an astounding level of cognitive dissonance. For such people, there is literally no space between the self and truth. Their views represent truth, while another point of view is not only false, it is "flamebait." The idea that one's views are influenced by life experiences should not be a terribly complicated idea, yet they steadfastly refuse to entertain it.



kwassa

(23,340 posts)
168. This. You hit the nail again.
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 07:42 PM
Jun 2014
When you or Bravenak speak about racism, you are "causing division" by showing their is another set of experiences which they consider entirely insignificant.


edit to add: and that, in and of itself, is racist.

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
79. I've also seen people say
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 05:03 AM
Jun 2014

They had no idea that the DU was whiter than the population at large. How can you not figure something like that out? The fact is they don't even think about it. And it would be one thing to have simply never thought about it, but to openly express hostility to the fact people of color voice their views and target them by name---that should not be happening on a site that claims to be liberal.

The reason I think age is a factor (though not determinative) in these issues is because anyone who has attended college in the past quarter century will have had some exposure to thinking about race, class, and gender.

Jamaal510

(10,893 posts)
166. To be honest,
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 03:54 PM
Jun 2014

"I've also seen people say they had no idea that the DU was whiter than the population at large.

I wasn't aware of the demographic make-up on here. I knew that most of the racial/ethnic sub-forums around here are pretty dead, but I still wasn't sure about it because I haven't seen any polls or surveys here that give any indications regarding what it looks like on DU.

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
191. This ...
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 10:21 PM
Jun 2014
An older person hears that some old white men are blocking progress (which is a fact so irrefutable that I cannot honestly believe that any moderately intelligent and informed person would try to deny it) and concludes that someone is criticizing all old people in order to create an epic whine fest and receive the subsequent head pats.


Is what I had been saying ... trying to say ... in the white privilege threads: maintaining/not fighting against the racial/gender status quo IS blocking progress.

It has not been well met.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
148. I've spent my life being singled out for being a bit different from the norm.
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 12:06 AM
Jun 2014

No matter where I go, I don't quite fit the mold--close, but no cigar!

So, I get it. I get the looks, I get the suspicion, I get the whole "You're not one of us" thing going on. I have a thick skin as a consequence and I've learned to figure out that family and friends are the best support system going. Also, ya can't make people love ya, but ya CAN make them not discriminate against ya!

I just wish that those of us here under this BIG frigging tent would have some tolerance for those who gather in the corners of the tent that they do not frequent. I hate these kinds of internal snipings, these ALERT FIRST and ask questions later games. I say give people a chance to explain themselves. Do you hate old people? Do you hate white people? Two questions and the answer is "No of COURSE not," and we're done. Save the alerts for the real jerks, covert trolls, and complete assholes, not simple differences of opinion that can be hashed out with a conversation.

I wish we'd celebrate our similarities as readily as we snipe about our differences. It sure would make life easier.

DonCoquixote

(13,616 posts)
66. nance greggs, and so many others
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 02:01 AM
Jun 2014

and now you, drien off this site by the fact that those "reagan democrats" use the jury system to kneecap rivals, knowing full well they will not be tries as harshly. I was one of the first to endorse the Jury system, as I thought it would stop people from saying "waah, yoos guys bribed da moddss!" But, as Barack Obama found out, the conservatives in both parties do not care about fairness, and the fact you try to show courtesy and use facts is useless, if anything, it angers them even MORE. They have made up their minds what they want, they are the heroes, we are the enemies, and if Jehovah himself were to appear before them and say "you are wrong" they would try to hang him!

I can understand walking away for a bit,especially as it seems you have a chance to do impact. However, please keep in mind, the consvervative of all stripes are worming their way into everything; if they know they can exhuast us out of the way, they will win and use that to hurt us. They are like a pack of rats; one on one, they are easily killed vermin, but they swarm. Do not leave this world to the vermin.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
87. I'm just laying low and letting this die down for a while.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 06:21 AM
Jun 2014

We have a vote in August and midterms coming up. I do spend alot more time here than i usually do these days, so it's no wonder folks are getting pissy at me. I have a way with words that infuriate people and i have never understood why. My mom says i have no filter and she did it on purpose. My granmother was abused and beaten down, married at 12 and she wanted me to be strong and keep my head up and always think that i am just as important as everyone else. And to remind them that i'm here. Notice me. Listen to me. Most people love me in person even if i piss them off and it's weird to have people not like me. It's happened a few times before and it was usually for silly reasons like jealousy or i didn't like them first, or because i'm weird. Not like this. This is bad for my ego because it just makes me think i was right.

DonCoquixote

(13,616 posts)
157. then I offer you this while you lay low :)
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 05:06 AM
Jun 2014


and my apolgies if you dislike the music, it just seemed a perfect fit.

DonCoquixote

(13,616 posts)
80. at the rsk of thunderbolts
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 05:29 AM
Jun 2014

talk to seabeyond. She has had a posse of people hating on her and cheering her bans for years.

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
81. cheering on multiple websites
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 05:39 AM
Jun 2014

I've see people advocating for her banning from DU on at least four different websites.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
89. It made me proud that everyone has such deep feeling for me.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 06:36 AM
Jun 2014

If i can inspire that in a good way one day..... It would be nice?
I really do not feel like a victim. I was just musing my musings.

 

giftedgirl77

(4,713 posts)
91. Calling out people on their hypocrisy tends to make
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 07:04 AM
Jun 2014

them uncomfortable. I saw that entire thread & your weren't wrong at all & you handled yourself beautifully.

KitSileya

(4,035 posts)
92. I support you too.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 07:04 AM
Jun 2014

You are an important voice here on DU, as I have said before.

Who do they think have the power to have made our society the way it is? Do they think that young people, women of color, other minorities are the ones who are making sure society is backsliding on sexism, racism, classism? Undoubtedly from their many, many positions of power - the Senate, the House, the lobby firms, the Fortune 500 companies are just brimming with people belonging to a minority group. The Koch brothers have so many black sisters, right? And the House is chock full of black men and women.

No, it is their generation that for good or bad has held the reigns of society lately, and while they themselves have worked against it, they need to realize that we are going the wrong way. We are not progressing, we are regressing. Their way isn't working, and it is time to start listening to younger voices, minority voices, because after all, the young ones will live in this society for 50, 60, 70 years more, while they have 15-20 years left.

In essence, they are putting forth the 'Not All Men' defense. Not all the Boomers, perhaps, but if they are not part of the problem, we are not talking about them, and if they descend into a pity party about how it hurts them to hear that their generation is f&/%ing up society right now, they *are* part of the problem.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
93. I really was not speaking of anyone in partucular which is why this is so strange.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 07:19 AM
Jun 2014

Someone called me immature, i called them old, c'est la vie. What can i say except that i am an arousing person. I honestly had never conversed with that poster before she came in and accused me of talking about her when referring to old white men. She is not a man. So really i have no clue as to why the anger. I never said all old white men and i never included women at all. She lumped herself in with the men and i tried to tell her i was sorry she was hurt and i explained that i was not speaking of her at all and had never seen any posts from her that were of note to me. She posted that thread either as a response or just wanted to be my victim. I play the villian for my husbands ex all the time so i understand what is going on.

I think sometimes people need to hear uncomfortable truths. I get plenty of them on a daily basis as i get stupider by the day. I know less and less it seem even though i'm learning more and more. I guess some folks know it all already amd i have nothing to offer them. I do wish they could ignore me if i upset them so bad. I really was just trying to support SheShe's thread because i had been missing them lately and wanted to say my piece and hang out. I should have posted gifs or Jr High photos of me.

KitSileya

(4,035 posts)
96. I think you are right about the dynamic.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 07:40 AM
Jun 2014

And perhaps it hit a bit too close to home, considering the poster was a republican until the GOP destroyed the Florida school system. A bit of survivor's guilt, as it were?

I am just waiting for my hides - in my posts these days, I have stopped censoring myself into being all polite. I am not the type to swear, in writing or in person, so that may protect me some, but I just am getting too angry to stop telling uncomfortable truths.

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
99. I don't care what anyone else says about you!
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 08:55 AM
Jun 2014

I think you are filled with awesome sauce! Oooh boy have I missed a lot these past few days! That poster was one of my favorites - I had wondered where she went. Then she comes back full force without understanding the landscape of DU since she's been gone and BAM! Kaboom!

I hope she reads the subthreads so she can come to a clear understanding about average gelfite LiberThuglucan IndieTeaPublucans who didn't get their pony and resent the fuck out of us. There are some folks running around here with massive chips on their shoulders and they are taking it out on those quite solid in the base.

Let's not leave out the LGBT community either. I've seen those men and women getting their voices squashed around here too. And the reality is - they understand us. The older gay white male that lived through the 70's - he "gets it".

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
100. Funny enough, i never noticed her until she showed up to tell me she alerted me and failed.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 09:08 AM
Jun 2014

I never even included women in the group i was discussing, so it had nothing to do with her demographic. I was just stating that the support for the president on DU is limited because the groups that support him most heavily are not here in force. Therefore that is why we see the lack of support here while the party as a whole support him. His heaviest support comes from women, youth, minorities and LGBT. I was using the NBC exit polls i found online when writing up my post. And i also observed that a poster said that pro Obama posts on't get as many rec's. I never called her stupid or lazy or anything at all. And i let her know that i had never seen any posts of note from her and was not talking about her and was sorry i hurt her feelings. I do not feel like i deserved a thread trashing me when i had already attempted to explain and she never even replied to my apology, she instead wrote a thread trashing me and saying i called her stupid, old and lazy. That never happened. This did.
bravenak (4,322 posts)
139. I am sorry for that truly.

I am sorry you are hurt by my words and i want you to know that i have never seen you post anything harmful or hurtful to me. We all suffer the sins of others in our nation.
The woman's burden. It's a shame really, white women just barely got the right to vote and own themselves and now we lump them in with their former oppressors. I do feel bad that i hurt you.
I just cannot think of another way to express what i see.



I have no idea why that could not be the end of it and why i deserve to have a thread saying i said mean things i never said with all those people jumping in and joining the attack based off if the idea that i had actually said those things. I will make sure to avoid that poster in the future, i can't deal with people who refuse to speak with me and work things out rather than thrash me and make me out to be a racist for stating my opinion on how the country will change for the better based on demographics. Rachel Maddow spent a nice segment discussing this once and it is not new or radical.


Edit: It was totally someone else who said i called her names and i got them mixed up. Eh! So many of them it was hard to keep them straight after a while.

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
112. Say it all over and over again
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:02 AM
Jun 2014
I had a touch of insomnia last night and read through both threads twice. You never said anything derogatory about age or race. You just pointed out some obvious truths.

Bobbie Jo

(14,341 posts)
230. Just wanted to add....
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 08:25 PM
Jun 2014

it's not you, bravenak. This person is prone to exaggeration when it comes to perceived "personal affronts." I've seen this dynamic repeated over and over and over again.

I learned this lesson very early on, and although I haven't resorted to "ignore," I just stay out of those threads (don't even read them anymore) because it ends up resembling a personal echo chamber, with nothing less than complete agreement allowed lest it be taken personally.

I know people like this IRL, I give them a wide berth and don't engage unless absolutely necessary.

So....live, learn, and focus your energy elsewhere. Like I said, it's not you at all.

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
110. Of course they have
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 09:59 AM
Jun 2014

There are massive chip on the shoulder Professional Victims running around the Internet these days - you noticed that? As I said on that HOF thread - that's weak. The cry baby - it kills me!

Response to bravenak (Original post)

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
105. This is a safe haven group.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 09:26 AM
Jun 2014

There is no need to come in and be nasty. I did not post it in GD for this very reason and i put a disclaimer to make sure you knew. Have a wonderful day and i hope you decide to rethink how you approach your interactions in safe havens.

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
114. Well played
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:09 AM
Jun 2014
If that post does not get a hide then I want that poster banned from this group. There was no reason to do that other than to get you to react and get a third hide.

It was so transparent and glaring.
 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
115. I just don't bother to alert posts to me.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:20 AM
Jun 2014

I think i will be having to navigate the waters more deftly from now on. I let it happen last time because i got mad and gave in to my need to respond to every thing. From now on i will only respond to people who are not trying to goad me.

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
118. God bless the jury
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:54 AM
Jun 2014

All but one voted to hide it. That said - the Gio is sitting in The Italian Bakery this morning and they are watching MSNBC (bunch of Italian men from the old country watching Melissa! ) and he sent me text saying - First Lady Obama - you all just go on being your black woman selves!

I love my husband!

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
121. He is so funny!
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 11:01 AM
Jun 2014

I also thank the jury. They were pretty good yesterday, but you know how it is sometimes. You can't see the whole picture just from an alert.

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
113. I alerted on you
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:07 AM
Jun 2014

This was not necessary and was posted to disrupt. You are being disruptive in the AA Group and I'm quite proud of the way Bravenak responded. It appears that someone is trying to get her a third hide so she gets a vacation. That's unacceptable. Who put you up to this? Did you not even read the OP?

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
106. I'm guessing most people don't know what that OP is about
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 09:29 AM
Jun 2014

and are just recommending the basic idea that one shouldn't discriminate against old people. At least I'm hoping that's the case.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
108. I hope so.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 09:36 AM
Jun 2014

I really feel like i should just let them have it all to themselves since i am not wanted here.
Funny how nobody has ever apologized to me for anything they have said. I just assumed that if i did she would know that it was not about her and it would make her feel better. I guess i will never ever apologize again. It just makes them madder and then you get a pile on.
I have been called a racist over and over and over for saying that older white men are not the victims in our society and that the ones who write bad law and oppress minorities are mostly older white men. I googled it again. Yep. I am still correct.

steve2470

(37,457 posts)
129. when I responded, that was exactly my intent
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 01:10 PM
Jun 2014

Unless there is something extreme and/or trollish going on, I never get into member versus member tiffs. Bravenak is a good poster and so is madfloridian. I think most of us agree on the broad overall goals of the Democratic Party (anti-racist, anti-sexist, etc), yet we differ on the specifics. The huge shortcoming of the message board format (and indeed, most of the internet) is that communication is hampered by its very nature (lack of non-verbals and lack of quick explanations of intent and goodwill).

SidDithers

(44,228 posts)
116. I'm trying to figure out why a post about white old men...
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:28 AM
Jun 2014

has got a white old woman so pissed off.

I thought it was a good post.

Sid

maddezmom

(135,060 posts)
119. FYI ... The alerting is still happening
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:56 AM
Jun 2014

AUTOMATED MESSAGE: Results of your Jury Service

On Sun Jun 8, 2014, 09:35 AM an alert was sent on the following post:

I'm trying to figure out why a post about white old men...
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1187&pid=7438

REASON FOR ALERT

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.

ALERTER'S COMMENTS

This whole thread is a massive callout of madfloridian and her OP in GD http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025062434

Calling her a 'white old woman' is nasty especially as madfloridian has been upset about attacks on older DUers.

You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Sun Jun 8, 2014, 09:54 AM, and the Jury voted 2-5 to LEAVE IT.

Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Absurd alert. Madflo started her own callout thread in GD. Seems she wanted the attention even after an apology was given.
Juror #2 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #4 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #5 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #7 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given

Thank you very much for participating in our Jury system, and we hope you will be able to participate again in the future.

SidDithers

(44,228 posts)
120. Yeah, not surprised...
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 11:00 AM
Jun 2014

I assume that most everything that I post gets alerted these days. I know there are other posters, some in this thread, who are also wearing a permanent target on their back too.

Thanks for posting the results.

Sid

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
124. I would love to know
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 11:41 AM
Jun 2014

Who alerted on this thread? I wonder if they have the brass to "out themselves". When I alert - which is extemely rare . . . I tell the poster WHY I alerted and fess up.

At least I'm honest.

maddezmom

(135,060 posts)
125. I am going to go on the record and say I was juror #1
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 11:45 AM
Jun 2014

As for the alerter, I have no idea but doubt they will fess up.

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
186. Why the hell is 'white old woman" derogatory
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 09:16 PM
Jun 2014

My ancestors herald from northwestern Europe (making me VERY white); I am 52 (old and I earned every year) and I am a woman (and I LOVE being a woman) .... therefore, I am an old white woman ... what kind of idiot has a problem with that?

JI7

(89,239 posts)
131. it goes back to that right wing cartoon
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 05:56 PM
Jun 2014

and how the poster got a hide over it and people thought it was the worst thing to happen to someone.


etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
122. Old white woman checking in
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 11:30 AM
Jun 2014

I love your posts. They are often thought provoking, intelligent .... very often a breath of fresh air, here.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
123. Thank you.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 11:37 AM
Jun 2014

I am glad you did not think you were included in the 'old men' group. Not ALL old men!
I figured that these were things that are common knowledge. How will they ever know what young black women think if i don't tell them? I think they have the right to know.

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
127. That is exactly it!
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 12:00 PM
Jun 2014

It never has occurred to me that (when these threads come up) that anyone is talking about me personally.

My children are PoC (not AA) ... I can remember my youngest (now 18) telling me (when he was ~6) "You don't know." All I could tell him at the time was "You're right, honey" (I do have to say that when it happens to your kids, it is personal).

don't let the ignorant silence you .... ever!

JI7

(89,239 posts)
132. from what i have seen many seen to agree that Black people need to be careful and more sensitive
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 06:00 PM
Jun 2014

to others when they have a problem with racism .

after all serena williams and oprah have more money than many white guys.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
139. Exactly.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 08:11 PM
Jun 2014

I am going to bookmark this day in DU hell and remember to link back to it as needed. This was eye opening. Same thing happened in ninth grade soicial studied when i told the all white class that they all benefitted from slavery and jim crow by it allowing them the freedom to be nondescript.

Sheldon Cooper

(3,724 posts)
135. I haven't been online much this weekend, so I'm really not sure what is going on.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 06:29 PM
Jun 2014

But you are an awesome, strong, and very much-needed voice on this website. I hope you stick around, and the people chasing you can go straight to you-know-where.

PS - I'm a middle-aged white woman if that matters.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
140. It was good and terrible.
Sun Jun 8, 2014, 08:20 PM
Jun 2014

Someone got mad because i said it's old white dudes standind in the way of our progress as a nation. I was not speaking of democrats at all. Somebody decided i was talking about her and alerted. It failed. She told me. I apologized for hurting her feeling and went on to try to explain my position. Everyone got enraged and decided i was talking about them. I was taling about conservatives the whole time. I said as the population gets older and whiter the people get more conservative as a group and vote more republican. Again, that has nothing to do with democrats, i even gave an example of the type of democrat who goes along with them, like Bart Stupak. Nothing to do with them. I also said that youth, women, lgbt's, and minorities skew heavily liberal and being the base of his support, the fact that DU skews heavily male, white and older explains the lack of support he recieves here. Pissed off the whole world by saying that.
I apologized for hurting her feelings and she followed up with a Bravenak is a eveil witch thread and never responded. That was the response.

intaglio

(8,170 posts)
158. Back in the days when I frequented Fortean Times MB
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 07:13 AM
Jun 2014

There was rumoured to be a "PM" Gang (which, of course, did not exist) who stalked others and alerted posts to the Mods (at least one of whom might have been in this gang) to get them hidden. It was said they co-ordinated their activities via the FT's private message or PM system.

There is a strong suspicion that similar activities occur here though I suspect reddit or linkedin may be the coordinating mechanism. If a post is hidden check the time it is hidden. If it has been up several hours and the ban happens are after midnight then there is a chance of a loaded jury.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
159. Thank you.
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 07:23 AM
Jun 2014

Some nice people sent me the results of some of the alerts and i got a few that failed sent to me and two that passed and was told about another one. I think it may be over with and i am sure it was not one person following me around.
The hidden posts were profane so i can't complain that they were hidden, i was pissed by then from recieving the failed alerts in my email. I knew i was getting goaded by then and jumped in head first.
I had never had someone tell me they alerted and get so mad at me that the jury agreed with me. That's why i rarely alert and never for posts to me. I get mad when it fails.

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
162. Add me
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 02:08 PM
Jun 2014

Pointed out that someone had started another thread in a thread by Kurska to gin stuff up -

And got a hide.

I said no names. Just pointed out that folks were stirring the pot.

So I point out to the OP of that thread that someone was stirring the pot - not naming names and the jury hid me.


You are going to get a three word message from me on Facebook because if I say those words here - they'll hide this one too.

But there - I can call names all I like! DU tos doesn't apply outside of DU - so I hope any jury will be respectful of my 1st Amendment rights outside of DU.


ETA - here it is! http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5070029

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
163. I see what happened now.
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 02:13 PM
Jun 2014

I try to tell them they over notice everything we say and take it the most negative way they can. They want us to toe the line and only worry about Roosevelt and trying to get back to that time. It will nevet happen because we do nit want to go backwards. That time in history was horrible for us.

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
164. Ding ding ding
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 02:16 PM
Jun 2014

You just got it -

And they want us to forget they were young white men when they voted for Reagan and by their votes ruined America. Because a vote for Reagan was a vote against black people everywhere.

I learned that on Chappelle from his "I know Black People" game show skit when the question was "Why didn't black people like Ronald Reagan?"

Number23

(24,544 posts)
167. That's even stupider than my hide about....
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 07:21 PM
Jun 2014

FLYING MONKEYS!!!



Yes, I now know that my decision to haul ass around here was a good one.

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
172. I love it!
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 08:32 PM
Jun 2014

I think we should make them make us go. We can't have any disruptive negros around here.

And then upthread on that thread people are still responding! *smh* They are STILL missing the Republican part!

If I can't say White Male Republucans have been out to get me since I was 3 - and I hate thm back - at DU? Then WTF!

They even want us to play nicey nice kissy face with a bunch of bigots like Paul Ryan? You have GOT TO be fucking kidding me! I'm not doing it. I'm not kissing Paul Ryan's ass because he's a white guy! Piss on him and anyone who expects me to think highly or write kindly of him.


Not gonna do it so reach out to admin and get me the boot!

Jamaal510

(10,893 posts)
165. This reminds me of that
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 03:38 PM
Jun 2014

"I can see that me using the words white and old and men in a sentence together plus a negative has caused much anger and frustration among a certain faction."

one South Park episode "With Apologies to Jessie Jackson", where at the end it eventually became illegal for people to say the n-word and the word "guy" within 6 words of each other. The legislators were afraid that the term "nigger guy" would be used to refer to all whites, so they outlawed it.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
193. some of us can help you with your jury blacklist
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 11:08 PM
Jun 2014

if you're being hidden because you dare call something racist or for pointing out racial or gender inequality, fill up that jury blacklist and that should help a bit.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
195. we'll give you some suggestions
Mon Jun 9, 2014, 11:22 PM
Jun 2014

i can give you a few and i'm sure others can too.

sadly, some are about as obvious as you can be around here.

i think you have two groups to worry about: the anti feminists and those who concern troll racism posts.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
199. I noticed that any issue i find to be important is divisive.
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 12:53 AM
Jun 2014

Really surprised to learn that i am somehow the biggest bigot on DU.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
197. ok, there are people who will be hostile to you based on your posts about racism or feminism
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 12:37 AM
Jun 2014

or the related.

there is no reason to let their bias be allowed to affect your posts' jury outcomes.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
198. You are right.
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 12:52 AM
Jun 2014

I will attend to the matter. Might have to buy a star to get more out of it. Maybe next month, i feel moody now.

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
235. I wonder ...
Wed Jun 11, 2014, 02:16 PM
Jun 2014

If someone put on their jury blacklist, would they automatically be on mine? That would seem fair.

M0rpheus

(885 posts)
200. Damn, I can't leave y'all alone for a minute!
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 03:31 AM
Jun 2014

I've been off the internet for a minute (ok, like 2 and a half - three weeks) taking care of Real Life™ and I came back to this.


is going on in this place?

These are issues worth discussing on a "liberal" board. I swear I don't see what everyone is so mad at you about.
Maybe we should just talk about cheese...


On second thought, Huey is right. Keep on doing what you're doing. I'll bring the gifs and get in where I fit in, now that I'm back.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
201. I will find the appropriate links for you.
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 03:33 AM
Jun 2014

I put my relevant posts in my journal for everyone to see. Someone got pissed that i said old whit men are holding us back as a nation. Ta da! I am the oppressor.

M0rpheus

(885 posts)
202. I saw this post yesterday, and I found it all... I think.
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 03:37 AM
Jun 2014

I wanted to see what this was all about before I commented.

It's so stupidly bad here at the moment, that posting a Coates article gets you an alert?
I say again... ?

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
203. Everything gets an alert now.
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 03:44 AM
Jun 2014

And it's my fault for saying upsetting things. I figured it would happen when i let them in on the 'secret black plan'.

Erich Bloodaxe BSN

(14,733 posts)
206. That's you in the pic?
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 08:01 AM
Jun 2014

I gotta say, mentally, I'd matched you up closer to your avatar. Had you pegged as a younger male black, older than his years. I really wish they let us upload our own avatar pics, I just don't really feel any of the provided ones speaking to me.

At any rate, I've probably got your back any time I'm on a jury. You'd have to really go off the deep end for me to vote to hide one of your posts, and you're too smart for that.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
207. You thought i was a guy?
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 08:16 AM
Jun 2014

Thats funny! Yeah thats me, i'm on the bottom of my posts too with my husband. Thank you for having my back, i think will be done with soon. I think if we buy stars we can upload avatar pics but i never did, i just put a link to my photobucket in my line at the bottom so i could be seen. I wish everyone did so i could see you all.

Erich Bloodaxe BSN

(14,733 posts)
208. Well, one of my pics
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 08:27 AM
Jun 2014

is still my avatar back on Daily Kos. An older pic, though.

That's from a decade or two back, when there wasn't nearly as much grey, and when I wasn't trying for a job where they like you with a lot less hair. So no beard, ditch about a foot of hair in the back, turn the moustache white, and frost the rest, and it's me

DK has had and continues to have many of the same race issues as DU, but over there, hiding is by 'faction' - the people constantly hiding each other aren't doing so by skin tone, but by position on the political spectrum. Centrists vs lefties. Things never really cool down any more, but they'll be getting worse again as we gear up for 2016. What I find sort of amusing is that many of the people who swore up and down they'd never vote for Hillary after the racist tactics employed during her 2008 primary run will now be out there boosting her because she's the 'viable candidate'.

I'm not a 'team blue' guy. I'm a socialist, and I want results, not particular politicians. So I vote mostly blue, but I'm not going to be dragged in by faux populism.

ismnotwasm

(41,965 posts)
216. I trashed that thread the moment I saw it
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 10:44 AM
Jun 2014

Why? Because while I don't believe it was her intent, "old" and ageism doesn't trump black and racism, and I was afraid that's what was the thread was going to turn into. A false dichotomy.

And immediately, a thread pops up from a known misogynist talking about how much he respects "older members"-- trashed that one too.

I should have waited. I hope you continue to speak up.

BainsBane

(53,012 posts)
218. I remain astounded
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 02:18 PM
Jun 2014

how people can present themselves as so persecuted over a single post and show absolutely no concern for the kind of discrimination and hostility others, especially people of color, face on a daily basis. It now appears that they seem to believe prosperous white people are the most persecuted on the planet. They remind me of Mitt Romney. The level of self-absorbed tone-deafness is startling.

I just saw one who spends most of her time bashing the Democratic party talking about how "Democrats" are persecuted on this site and that "liberals" are being run off by the likes of you. Evidently liberal no longer includes anyone who doesn't harbor resentment that anyone who isn't exactly like them in age, race, class, and political outlook is allowed to participate on this site. In other words, the majority of the population of this country.

I even saw someone accuse you of wishing people dead. I went back and read the post to see if I had missed anything. I had not. I pointed out that she had mischaracterized your post, and she changed the subject to your hidden posts. I'm starting to wonder if your age point might not have some truth to it. That person was outraged at the suggestion that the demographic make-up of the country is changing across generations as people die. It seemed to me that she felt offended at the suggestion that she wasn't immortal and would eventually die like every other human being before her. Perhaps what we are witnessing is the "me" generation of Baby Boomers who refuse to come to terms with the fact they aren't more important than very other generation before and since and that even they are mortal.

JustAnotherGen

(31,780 posts)
219. You've said this very well bb
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 02:22 PM
Jun 2014

Evidently liberal no longer includes anyone who doesn't harbor resentment toward that anyone who isn't exactly like them in age, race, class, and political outlook is allowed to participate on this site. In other words, the majority of the population of this country.


 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
223. I have been really trying to figure this out.
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 03:12 PM
Jun 2014

I am asking people i would never talk to what they think because i find it so amazing. You are right in everything you just said.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
236. I have been talking this over and i think you have it just right.
Wed Jun 11, 2014, 02:32 PM
Jun 2014

There is a difference between people of my generation and people of theirs and i am not talking about manners. It is on outlook and how we see the world. I grew up in the multicultural world where black culture wasn't some secret hidden world where black people had a secret thing going on, everybody was a part of it and we do have alot of merging where the lines are more blurred. When i talk to my white friends about white people they automatically know that i'm not talking about them and they don't see themselves as a part of white culture. To them 'white culture' is the past and they are glad about that because it's suffocating to them and i guess they feel more a part of hip hop culture. I thought i was getting to old for hip hop culture but when i look at the people that represent it, i realize that they are my age, i am the future i speak of i'm just a pat of the first wave.
Where we look forward and feel excited and inspired, they look to the past for inspiration. We do that too. We look back to the women rights movements of the early 20th century and the mid to late twentieth centuries and and use what they did to build on. I know it looks like womens rights are slipping backwards and i don't see it the same way they do. I see pathetic attempts by old conservatives, of both parties trying to cling on to the past and influence the future. There has always been those among us who will fight to take our society and move us back in time. It is the last gasp of conservatism and white supremacy, but they have not been able to infect their children and grandchildren with their backwards conservative thinking. Their grandchildren are my age, my peers and they do not want to live in that world either.

I see conservatism as a sort of resurgence of the confederacy and as a movement full of people who will not be here in twenty years, forcing their religious beliefs and patriarchal insanity on the rest of us for very much longer. I feel like there is nothing wrong in my pointing out that my children will be equal partners and on equal footing with their great grand children.

 

heaven05

(18,124 posts)
220. I don't come here very often
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 02:23 PM
Jun 2014

so now I see the controversy. I find myself behind the curve sometimes You go girl! Yeah, some get all huffed up if accused of something they refuse to accept in them selves, that they can be culturally racist sometimes. You told the truth, the article told the truth and never sheath that sword. It helps cut through the hypocrisy and BS. Keep doing what you're doing.

gwheezie

(3,580 posts)
226. brave, I enjoy your posts
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 03:49 PM
Jun 2014

I'm new here, I don't know the various factions etc so I'm taking everyone I read at their word.

I think it's very important for liberals with a variety of experiences get to express themselves on a site that has democratic in the name.

I am an old white woman, most of my daily living experiences are within the black community. My family is multiracial, we have identified 3 races and several ethnic groups at weddings and funerals. Until recently, this country was run by white men and they are having a fit. They had a few good ideas but many of their other ideas didn't work out so well for minority groups and women. I can see it, I've seen it all my life. I don't think it's anti anyone to point this out, the results of white men running the country is not some residual injustices that are being corrected but a mindset that is hellbent on maintaining the status quo that continues to poison the well.

My early hero when I was coming of age was Shirley Chisholm, there's a quote somewhere where she says she faced more obstacles being a woman than being black when she got to congress. I took her at her word, but to me both groups have suffered and been held back and had to fight for any kind of equality, and yes white men have joined the fight. The fight continues, we should find a way to be together and not get our backs up if someone from another ethnic/racial/religious/gender/orientation etc group expresses their own experience.




 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
227. Thank you.
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 04:09 PM
Jun 2014

I agree with everything you wrote here. We should be for free expression of ideas, i may not be artful at times but i have great enthusiasm and I am trying to help identify issues before they get too serious. Many feel like their votes are taken for granted and we want our issues heard and our votes earned. Maybe after midterms my ideas will be more appreciated and we can try this again.

I can understand that hearing me say twenty year from now things are going to be very different and minorities will become a majority and the country will be more liberal may sound like i'm waiting for it and some may not be here to see it can be scary. But i'll be old by then and will miss out on some things the youth will be doing, and i still feel excited about it. I have been hearing it was coming since i was in elementary school and the projected dates keep getting closer and closer.
We had very few youth here and few minorities but the party has many and they are the future not us. We are here to make things right for them because i always think my children are more important than i am. I never want them to bow down, watch their tone, or shut up to prevent upsetting the establishment. I teach them to fight for what you want, speak out, apologize if you hurt some one, and try to keep moving towards the goal. Let nothing stand in your way and learn to find a way around obstacles.

We are a mixed family with many races and we know how hard it is to navigate this world with color. I think those who have the privilege to not suffer discrimination should be magnanimous to those who do and not find reasons to attack them but bring them into the fold and accept them for who they are without trying to mold them to suit their needs.

gwheezie

(3,580 posts)
229. You're welcome
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 05:20 PM
Jun 2014

I raised my daughter so that she would get to know many people, all kinds of people. She and her husband are raising my grandson the same way. And I don't mean having a token friend but break bread, go to each others churches, homes, schools,babysit each others kids, go to the weddings, funerals, events of each others lives become so familiar that you are no longer among different people. Don't be afraid to be the only "fill in the blank" person in a group of people who don't look like you. Avoid the sameness of your life. Especially if you are white. I figured she would be part of a world where hatred and fear of others would not be a positive trait to have, since the world is turning brown. I think it's moving in the right direction, I might not see it myself but I believe in my heart that it will happen.

steve2470

(37,457 posts)
231. bravenak, don't leave
Tue Jun 10, 2014, 11:14 PM
Jun 2014

Maybe I'm clueless, but I think the vast majority of posters get it. I really do.

Do what you need to do for your own well-being, but don't let the clueless force you to leave. Best wishes to you.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
234. Thank you Steve.
Wed Jun 11, 2014, 10:40 AM
Jun 2014

My mom did warn me not to tell the whole truth because it will scare people. They know it, but hearing the same thing they know to be true from me is scary because they fear it and i am waiting for it.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
239. The person who called me a racist ageist wrote this today.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:07 AM
Jun 2014
Response to dilby (Reply #4)Fri Jun 20, 2014, 09:40 PM
madfloridian (80,743 posts)
6. Judgment.

The ability to realize that she held elderly lives in her hands. Age does matter in some cases.
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