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Episcopal priest and activist from Pasadena, Calif.
Posted: 06/03/2014 6:03 pm EDT Updated: 06/03/2014 6:59 pm EDT
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It's June again. Gay Pride Month. Time for parades and for festivals, for rainbow flags and dance tents. And this year we're not only celebrating Pride; we're also celebrating the first anniversary of the landmark Supreme Court decisions on DOMA and Prop 8 that paved the way for marriage equality in 19 states (plus the District of Columbia) with Utah, Oklahoma, Virginia, Michigan, Idaho, Arkansas, and Texas all waiting appellate court decisions after lower courts ruled for equality.
And we are not just celebrating; we are recommitting to continuing the struggle until liberty and justice for all really means "all." Everywhere.
So here's the 2014 version of my annual Pride Month FAQs about God, Jesus, the Bible and Gay People -- offered in hopes that together we truly can be the change we want to see in the world, and in rebuttal to the rabid rhetoric of the anti-gay religious right. They do not speak for me. And they do not speak for my church.
1. Is being gay a sin?
No. Sins are acts that separate us from God and keep us from loving our neighbors as ourselves. Being gay is not a sin. Bullying is a sin. Being hateful to other people is a sin. Putting yourself in the place of God to judge others is a sin. Being gay is not.
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pinto
(106,886 posts)7. How do I respond when politicians condemn my sexuality, citing their belief in the Bible?
Remind them that the First Amendment protects them in believing whatever they want to about what God does or does not bless, but it also prohibits them from using those beliefs to decide who the Constitution protects or doesn't protect. Tell them to stop confusing their theology with our democracy. And then campaign for and donate to their opponent in the next election cycle.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Isn't she doing exactly that? Using her beliefs to decide who the Constitution protects?
cbayer
(146,218 posts)Last edited Wed Jun 4, 2014, 11:29 AM - Edit history (1)
No.
She doesn't "know" this any more than Fred Phelps "knew" it was a sin. She has her own personal interpretations of the bible and her own personal moral reasoning which say that being gay isn't a sin, but she is in no position to declare she knows precisely what her god thinks.
stone space
(6,498 posts)They don't carry quite the same weight for me.
If they do for you, then...well...that's you.
Generally, if I make a statement of belief, and somebody replies with "Well, Fred Phelps disagrees", I take that as a compliment, and an argument in my favor.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)That's not exactly the point, however.
stone space
(6,498 posts)trotsky
(49,533 posts)But again, not the point.
stone space
(6,498 posts)trotsky
(49,533 posts)But it wasn't my point.
stone space
(6,498 posts)...with Fred Phelps's beliefs.
Now, I wouldn't have made the comparison in the first place, but being presented with the comparison, the choice seems pretty obvious to me.
And to whoever made up that New Commandment meme, I would guess.
Really, it's not that difficult. It's just not.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)But again, that wasn't my point.
rug
(82,333 posts)Donald Ian Rankin
(13,598 posts)rug
(82,333 posts)Donald Ian Rankin
(13,598 posts)rug
(82,333 posts)Not that your answer was uninteresting.
Donald Ian Rankin
(13,598 posts)You expect me to wait for your permission to speak?
rug
(82,333 posts)Alittleliberal
(528 posts)It's a message board if you don't want a response from anyone who reads it don't post it.
stone space
(6,498 posts)Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)Isn't that something that you have railed against in your short term here?
stone space
(6,498 posts)What I see here is Rev. Russell affirming her own Christian beliefs in a very positive manner.
This is religion at its best, and that I applaud, just as I applaud atheism at its best.
And I as an atheist welcome her suggestion to "pray away the homophobia".
Those of a more fundamentalist or homophobic bent may differ.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)that religious beliefs that you agree with deserve your applause but those you don't agree with deserve your scorn.
stone space
(6,498 posts)Is it surprising that I would prefer progressive and militant Christianity to fundamentalist Christianity?
I've been very much opposed to and have fought against homophobia for a long, long time, now.
Do you realty expect me to change those beliefs now in my old age?
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)And in case you didn't see where I was going with this, why is it OK for you to put scorn on some religions but not OK for me to do so on the RCC? Many in here have indicated that I and others are "militant atheists" because of our anti-catholic stances when we talk about the RCC.
What many in here don't see is that me pointing out problems in religions that some in here are members of is no different than what you and others are doing in this thread. It is just another example of "what I believe in is sacred but what others believe in that I don't is just bullocks."
stone space
(6,498 posts)In my experience here at DU, you are among those who seek to force militant atheists like myself into the closet, and who attempt to deny our very existence.
I will not be pushed into the closet, by you or anybody else.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)I have no desire to push you into a closet.
So is this distraction from the discussion at hand about the double standard in the way religion is treated here on purpose or are you just that easily distracted?
So what about your non-belief in a god are especially militant about?
stone space
(6,498 posts)...my arrival here at DU.
This was before being banned from A&A for refusing to hide in the closet as an openly militant atheist.
Since some of that post is indeed relevant to the issue of this thread, I'll copy my comment here:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/123022173#post62
The fact that I don't believe in God is a relatively unimportant and minor one, in my view, although it is the one that you have been focusing most of your attention on in your questioning of me.
Some of my atheist beliefs would include my support for civil rights, such as the right to marry. (At one time, our own marriage would have been illegal, even here in Iowa.)
The year after Bowers v Hardwick (1986), I joined with 480 others (including many Christians as well as other atheists) in a nonviolent direct action sitting on the steps of the US Supreme Court and refusing to move, demanding that Bowers be overturned as an expression of my atheist beliefs in support of civil rights. We were released from jail 48 hours later, and 17 years after that, the US Supreme Court did finally overturn Bowers in Lawrence v Texas (2003).
My atheist pacifism would be another. I'm an abolitionist when it comes to things like land mines, cluster bombs and nuclear weapons. (And many other things.) I also support the repeal of the 2nd Amendment.
My atheism includes, somewhat ironically given our previous discussion here in this thread, a rather literal interpretation of the biblical prophesy in Isaiah 2:4, which might put me as a Pacifist Atheist in closer company with Pacifist Christians from the Plowshares Movement than to Cluster Bomb Atheists like Christopher Hitchens, I suppose.
and they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruning hooks: nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more
The list of my deeply held atheist beliefs could go on, but that's a start, I suppose.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)1. Posting insensitive terms to describe atheists, and doubling down once told to stop.
2. Digging up old threads from blocked members, and arguing yet again for the use of a word considered insensitive by other A&A members.
3. Taking complaints about our group to the Religion group.
4. Making A&A suck by opening old wounds and cutting new ones.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/123022742
But you keep telling yourself it is because you are so damn awesome. Maybe your goats will believe you.
stone space
(6,498 posts)I refused to be forced into the closet, so I stopped posting there.
When A&A opens it's doors to openly militant atheists, then and only then will I be willing to post there again.
But I will not post in a forum that wants me to deny my very existence as a condition of posting.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)in my first email. SO people know what was said to you and the fact that I tried to work things out with you.
Stop referring to atheists as militant. Perhaps where you live it isn't a big deal. It is used as a weapon here in the US. And you are new to DU, so just believe me when I say that theists in Religion use it as a weapon. It is a very sore spot for atheist. We don't want to see it put forth as something positive and OK in our safe haven.
Stop digging up old threads. I have no idea why you are responding to 2-year-old threads from members that are now banned for what they have done (You might want to look at the group info and check out who is banned to catch up). Perhaps you are just going through and trying to catch up on the group which is noble. But responding like you have is sending off bells that you might be up to no good and are deliberately bringing up past hurts in the group.
I will copy and past this message and send it to the other hosts so they know what I have said to you. Feel free to discuss things with them, too, if you wish. I'm trying to have a conversation and not just drop the ban hammer on you. But it has not been a good day in the A/A host world. Please let me know you are willing to work on fitting in to group norms. We are a good group, but we have been shit on a lot on this site and that makes people edgy and we, as hosts, get pretty protective.
Then when you went into your discussion of the word militant and how you are, I replied with
Do you understand the example of using "hysterical" in a feminism group here?
Which, I think, is trying to let you know the history of things that have gone on here and how the members of A/A feel.
Rather than deal with how the word is received, you wanted to move the discussion to that of MLK and Berigans and if that was OK in the A/A group.
You completely ignored my ongoing question about hysterical. You do realize that I'm just trying to inform you of the social norms for the group you seem to want to be a part of.
The rest of the discussion devolved from there.
Rather than try to understand why people might be upset with your use of that word and digging up old posts, you instead ran over here to Religion to bring the fight here. Then the banhammer slammed down.
stone space
(6,498 posts)I've already explained this to you many times.
You can try to deny my existence, if my very existence disturbs you that much, but you won't get any help from me in doing so.
The closet of your little A&A forum is simply too confining for this militant atheist.
I'm sorry if the existence of militant atheists disturbs you, but it is what it is.
I will not be pushed into the closet by you or anybody else.
We exist.
Deal with it.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)the reality that that term has been used as a weapon against atheists in society and here specifically? You don't and didn't want to even engage in a discussion about why that might offend people.
Nope. You just want to be able to say whatever you want and history be damned. Apparently DU has only existed for the amount of time you have been here.
Have you gone to one of the feminist groups and told them they are hysterical yet? And then when the clear result of using that term happens, please do tell them that they are overreacting and that you won't be pushed into the closet. I know you had a really hard time understanding that analogy in our message exchange, but hopefully you have had enough time to figure it out.
stone space
(6,498 posts)...militant atheists.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)I am talking about the process of reclamation and how the word "nigger" has been reclaimed by portions of the black community. Why do you have such a problem with that simple statement of reality. And why didn't you talk about my "gratuitous" usage of the word "queer"?
stone space
(6,498 posts)Please stop using the N-Word in posts addressed to me.
That's once in email, and twice right here in this thread.
Please stop. This is totally unacceptable behavior.
If you do it again, I will alert on your post.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)I used it in a very academic manner in a discussion about the process of reclaiming words--something which I did significant research and study of during my Master's program. When people write academic papers about it, do you think they type "N-word"? No. They don't. If I had used it as a racial epithet, I could understand your concern. I did nothing of the sort.
And, additionally, why do you not have the same outrage to the academic usage of the word "queer"? Why is that something you are not as upset about. Especially in a subthread of an OP about rights of the group that reclaimed that word?
stone space
(6,498 posts)That's why I asked you to stop.
Three strikes.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)explicitly show me how I used it as a racial epithet. That's a bullshit claim by you. I did nothing of the sort. Either show where I did or apologize.
stone space
(6,498 posts)Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)Don't post the word if it insults your sensibilities. Use n***** if you wish. But either explain how I used it as a racial epithet or apologize. You can't just toss around claims of me being a racist without some level of proof. Because that's just bullshit.
"I just want the harassment to stop." Well too fucking bad. You called me a racist, and I'm not going to just let that slide, slick.
stone space
(6,498 posts)Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)Don't run to another thread to make it sound like there are racists here on DU. I didn't do that and you don't get to claim I did. That's bullshit.
stone space
(6,498 posts)Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)and just want to run away with your tail between your legs rather than act like a grown up and admit you made a claim that I was a racist that isn't true. Cool. Nice tactic.
stone space
(6,498 posts)trotsky
(49,533 posts)Seriously, WTF is up?
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)I'd love to see the jury results.
stone space
(6,498 posts)...unfortunate that juries here at DU allow the N-Word to thrown at people even after they request it to stop multiple times.
And I think that it is unfortunate that some in the A&A group use this lax enforcement to their advantage.
Just because this kind is racist harassment is allowed by some DU juries is not an excuse for posters here to support and defend it.
Anyway, you asked for the jury results so that you can gloat.
Here they are. I sure you'll be pleased with the results.
Mail Message
On Wed Jun 4, 2014, 12:44 PM you sent an alert on the following post:
So you were clearly wrong
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1218&pid=133761
REASON FOR ALERT
This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.
YOUR COMMENTS
I asked this user to stop using the N-word in posts directed to me. This continued behavior needs to stop.
JURY RESULTS
A randomly-selected Jury of DU members completed their review of this alert at Wed Jun 4, 2014, 01:13 PM, and voted 3-4 to LEAVE IT ALONE.
Juror #1 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: This two way dialogue is a hissy-fit from both sides and the entire agonizing argument drifts immediately from any relevance to the OP. It's personal, a distraction and in the wrong place (again, both sides). The final post with the photo is over-the-top haranguing at the point it was inserted. I'd vote to hide the entire off topic argument.
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Both parties are acting childish here. But I cannot support a hide on one without a hide on both of them. This is precisely the type of interaction which makes DU suck sometimes. Both of these DUers need to take a break. Both are at fault.
Juror #3 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #4 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
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Juror #6 voted to HIDE IT
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Juror #7 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
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Thank you.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)Nobody else need apply. Any atheist who declares their tolerance of religion is quickly shown the door. Your experience there was not unique. I and others received very similar treatment. And Dawkins forbid you should mention any spiritual beliefs you may harbor, like the possible existence of a soul. They don't welcome impure atheists.
This group is a far more welcoming place for atheists and believers alike.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Rob H.
(5,351 posts)That's an interesting way to look at being blocked.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)I would not put him and you in the same category in anything other than disbelief in god.
Keep fighting the fight, man!
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)I've resolved to listen to what Stoned Space has to say, going forward, rather than salting it with my initial perceptions.
Been a wild couple weeks in here, that's for sure. (And thank you, and you as well.)
stone space
(6,498 posts)...and openly identifying as a militant atheist.
There are those who don't wish to be confronted by the mere fact of our very existence.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)It gets wild, quick.
Apparently I use too much 'violent' language.
Like people are walking into political debates with actual shields and swords or something.
rug
(82,333 posts)stone space
(6,498 posts)No. If you need to pray away something, pray away homophobia. Homosexuality doesn't need healing. Homophobia does.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Also 2 is technically incorrect. Jesus didn't say anything at all about gay people. Not one word.
Matthew 19:4-6, jesus refers to Genesis 1:27 and 2:24, and in doing so, omits or is silent on the issue of same-sex or LGBT pair bonds in general, and that is construed by many Christians to be a positive, exclusionary statement, but in actuality, the biblical character of jesus utters a sum total of 0 words about this issue.
So there is literally nothing he said to separate LGBT people from the superset of "all people", which I would find a satisfactory position, if indeed I believed the biblical character of jesus existed, and had divine authority. But you will not find anything resembling universal acceptance of that position in American Christians.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)It's incredibly clear, supportive, embracing and positive from start to finish.
Glad you were able to find a flaw in it, though. I'm sure there are others, including fundies, who could find flaws all through it.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)I have self-professed Christians throw that fucking book in my face over this specific issue day in and day out. I point out number 2's flaw, because that is my primary defense mechanism against their assault. It's a flaw/weakness I can exploit that blows a hole in their ideology.
These same people would laugh at the assertions made in that 'Q&A'. I call it 'sentiments', even though I agree with the concept, because it only resonates with people of a certain mindset. If I provided that list to Cardinal Jorge Mario Bergoglio, in 2012, he would reject it.
That it is "clear, supportive, embracing and positive from start to finish" doesn't make it resonate with it's target audience. I don't need it myself, because I already embrace and defend the civil rights and humanity of the LGBT community on a daily basis.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)because your experience is rather unusual, especially considering where you live.
This is a thoughtful and very useful piece that directly confronts the premises laid out in some fundamentalist ideology about GLBT people. It resonates with lots of people and provides a great tool. Why you would try to find fault in it escapes me.
The target audience is those that are confronted with religious arguments against GLBT civil rights, not the religious right. Glad you are able to do this without any assistance and that you already knew everything that is there.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Why do I stay? Well, I like money. And, I have been effective at changing some people's positions on these issues, so that's gratifying.
I disagree that my position is 'unusual'. I can see people in my position in national, and worldwide news, all the time. The climate here is better, I am more free to take a stand than some people, but the fight is everywhere. I wonder about you, sometimes, since you don't seem to see it.
"Why you would try to find fault in it escapes me."
This is a philosophical difference between us, I think. When someone proposes an idea, good or bad, offensive or pleasant, the first thing I do is hold it in my mind, and attack it from a contrarian standpoint to seek, identify, and exploit its weaknesses. Until I know how durable the idea is, I do not adopt it as my own, because I do not adopt ideas I am not fully prepared and willing to defend.
If I threw that list down in an argument as my defense, in support of full, equal, humane respect for LGBT people, and offered nothing further to support my position, I would be shredded. It is a juvenile defense, wholly inadequate to the task at hand.
I take these debates quite seriously, you see. I don't advance weak arguments against bigots and homophobes. I go for the jugular, with my teeth. I bring the sharpest sword. The strongest shield. I mean to win.
And little by little, I am.
That list was of no use to me, in that regard. I can do better. I can make #2 hold water. It does not, as is.
It is almost offensively simplistic.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)There are people on this site who refuse to speak to you as well, and they are not fundamentalists. I may be one of them very soon.
What exactly do you wonder about me, AC? What exactly are you implying?
You are not winning anything when you talk about going for the jugular with your teeth, bringing the sharpest sword and the strongest shield. Nothing.
Your use of violent imagery and language is making me increasingly uncomfortable.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)You've use that word, accused a DUer of advocating it, yet you brushed off criticism of your use of it as "hyperbole."
And here you leap to judgment on a fellow DUer using hyperbole of "going for the jugular."
Unreal. Just fucking unreal. No wonder you struggle to be taken seriously.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)"What exactly do you wonder about me, AC? What exactly are you implying?"
I wonder exactly what I said. I insinuate nothing. I wonder where you are, and what people you interact with, that you do not see the things I see, because I live in a politically liberal corner of the US, and still, I am beset with this shit.
I suppose it might be partially because I seek confrontation with bigots and homophobes, because It's a worthwhile. It's a just cause. There are flesh and blood people that I love, and care about, that are under attack on this issue.
We've legalized same sex marriage in my state, and all the rights and benefits that comes along with that. But at the federal level they are still discriminated against.
I MUST correct that. It's an infringement of the constitution. Yes, I fight. I am willing to fight. I use intentionally provocative language in so doing. I'm an anvil, or a hammer or both, whatever it takes to break loose this issue, and gain full civil rights for all americans. (And I have a human interest in the rights of people worldwide, but I can only do so much at the moment when my own house is not in order)
There are people that make lovely, and eloquent, and with some people, very moving and gentle cases that work to change ideology. That's not me. I'm a pugilist. I fight. I think it takes broad approaches, and very different varieties of people to effectively work through these issues. I'm happy to be the confrontational element. I am well suited to it. I can take lumps. I don't even feel them.
Let the eloquent, beautifully worded folks do their piece.
Let me do the dirty work. I like it. I feel a calling to do it. The constitution demands it. Humanity demands it.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I think your approach is highly counter-productive, but I don't think there is any chance at all that you will change it. Whatever it is you feel you need to fight I think has a lot more to do with you personally than the cause, to be frank.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)I don't understand your apparent reluctance to speak with me all the sudden. But whatever. I've made my case.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)You'll note that at no time did she actually address the points you raised, because she couldn't.
But you gave her no opportunity to turn it around and play the victim, which is generally part of her SOP.
So instead she insinuated that you're violent and unstable, and are making her afraid.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)I put a lot of my core nature on the table there, naked for the world to see. I got very unpleasant commentary in response.
It seems like the more honest I try to be, the more certain people back away.
Is this issue not worth fighting for? Is it not worth a fight? Truly? Does this issue not offend people? Are people wrong for getting incensed at such basic, blindingly obvious injustice?
Must we be gentle? Soft? Move slow? Make no demands? Express no outrage? Be meek?
No. I shall not.
In the racial dimension of the Civil Rights movement, I believe there was a place at the table for the soft, but firm eloquence and methodology of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, AND the righteous indignation of Malcom X. They were BOTH powerful and needed voices in that struggle. My tactics resemble more Malcom than Martin. I am confrontational. I do not blunt my words. I am provocative. I make some people necessarily uncomfortable.
I'm ok with that. Malcom X was inarguably a great man, and I am disappointed in myself that I do not invest as MUCH passion in this current civil rights fight, as he did in his. There is injustice to be un-done here. Civil rights being denied. People being harmed.
You bet I fight.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)As I pointed out, cbayer herself has used over-the-top rhetoric when it was an issue she felt strongly about.
I see the value in your approach, and I am much the same way. I have directly confronted homophobes and bigots on here, and always will. I also confront the behavior that gives cover to the homophobes and bigots, and that has earned me a spot on many shit lists. I wear that badge with honor.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)I don't tend to think much about the motives of someone I am talking directly to, but now that you raise it, I can recall several such threads, and that clarifies the double standard at play, and I have witnessed it. Most definitely.
My thanks.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)And engages in personally attacking cbayer and her family at every opportunity, in an effort to discredit her. If you noticed, he responds to virtually all her threads, knowing full well that he has been on her ignore list for a long time. He is a master of smear, distortion and manipulation. I think you have the ability to think for yourself, and to fight your fight, which I think is a good one, without swallowing the bs. You've been here long enough to know how he rolls.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Have a look at the first response to my post here.
One breath, me and fundies looking for flaws. All she did through this thread was belittle me and my motives. Not once did she address the technical nature of my point. Not once did she acknowledge any of my reasons for doing so.
Did I respond by attacking her? No.
"clear, supportive, embracing and positive from start to finish"
None of that has anything to do with my point. My point was, it is fundamentally and technically flawed. Incomplete. Not useful.
The objection was basically just associating me with fundamentalists. There is no meat there.
I found that highly offensive but continued to engage in good faith, without attacking.
Got me nowhere. Except possibly on an ignore list.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)I think it devolved rather quickly, which can happen quite easily on an internet message board. I don't think she inferred you were a fundie, but you probably both overreacted and misinterpreted as your debate continued. I've seen you both have very civil debates in the past and you have both shown mutual respect. None of us agree on everything, but we are all pretty damn close.
So, maybe some deep breaths are in order.
These conversations may not seem as though we "get somewhere", but those of us who actually engage do get somewhere.
That's why we exchange ideas, so we can rethink, especially rethink about the things we feel the most certain about. That's how we grow.
Peace.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)Hence my statement of not wanting to get in the middle. But thanks for your concern Warren.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Playing tag team while feigning neutrality is dishonest.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)Are you married to someone in this group by any chance?
I feign no neutrality, btw. How about you?
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)But as a card carrying atheist you know about the group marriage requirements.
And yes, you interceded with a pretense of a disinterested observer, when in fact you aren't.
rug
(82,333 posts)AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)he is talking about himself. They are married. Thought that tidbit should be disclosed.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Former question withdrawn.
Heddi
(18,312 posts)this exchange between AC and other posters just seems so familiar. I guess it's a pattern many DU'ers have exhibited in the past. At any rate, I thought this old PM was good at describing some patterns of some DU'ers. No DU'er in particular, just people who like to fuck around and play mind games.
>She does this passive aggressive bullshit. She pushes buttons...she knows how. She walks that fine line between doing things right, and doing wrong things she can get away with, and when she's called on her bullshit she:
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> 1) throws up her hands and does a "who, little ole innocent me??" routine
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> 2) then becomes the world's largest victim, never able to get a fair fight, never given the benefit of the doubt
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> 3) then she gets what she wants--or, she'll get what she wants out of you---you'll be banned from the forum, or not be a host, or made into the Emanuel Goldstein of the xxxx Forum...whatever. As long as she comes out on top and you're at the bottom, she's gotten what she wants. She'll deflect the topic of discussion to whatever she wants it to be. If she doesn't like the topic of conversation, she'll make it about you, or how you're making it about her. She'll pretend that it's all about her just so you can spend 20 posts convincing her it was NEVER about her.
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> 4) then, she'll make very passive-aggressive, veiled call-outs about you. Then she'll alert when you respond. She'll say she's being attacked. She'll pout and say that she's being bullied, harassed, or stalked. She'll get her posse of minions to attack the thread and call you a bully, and how unfair you're being, and how she's one of the most even-handed, unbiased posters DU has *EVER * seen (Look at anytime anyone criticizes her. The same group show up. They say the same things. It's not just coincidence)
trotsky
(49,533 posts)It's too bad that at the same time they play those stupid games, they often claim they desperately want civil discussion.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)That's why things sometimes seem so familiar.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)That every successful group that has pressed for change has had at least two competing elements: Firebrands and Peacemakers. MLK Jr. and Malcolm X's if you will.
The firebrands are the ones who shine a light upon the injustices and inequities, the failures of society to the people who are forced to support it. They sake people out of their lofty perches and force them to the ground. Thus making people uneasy and force them to re-examine their views.
The peace makers then take those people who find their faith shaken, and their position uncertain and ease them into understanding and accepting the unpleasant truth. Thus building the coalitions needed for change.
I do not think change can come without both of these people. Madalyn O'Hair said many things I do not agree with, but I don't think we would be where we are without her. She was a firebrand who blazed the trail that many of us are now following.
As someone who is probably more of a peacemaker I want to salute people like you and all the other firebrands for clearing the way and doing the dirty work!
Tip of the Hat, my good sir. Tip of the hat.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)become liabilities as the movement progresses. Good example is ACT UP during the AIDS crisis.
You have to get people's attention, but once you have it you have to stopped screaming at them.
It's time to stop screaming at some people, imo, let along going for their jugulars with your teeth.
People are refusing to speak to him. That's not productive. That's not winning. That''s just alienating.
How would you respond to someone who approached you in this way about an issue on which you felt strongly and they felt very strong as well? Would you be likely to listen or just try to get away from them as quickly as possible.
When you look at was is causing change specifically in terms of GLBT civil rights, it is thoughtful and directed action, not in your face attacks.
I do not applaud this at all.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)"When you look at was is causing change specifically in terms of GLBT civil rights, it is thoughtful and directed action, not in your face attacks."
Perhaps you could state that 'in your experience', not 'you' as an absolute fact.
Because I would love to see you prove that statement objectively true.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)ns. Right now. As you take a breath reading this. Civil rights denied. Infringed.
Humans, suffering. At the hands of my government, which purportedly represents *me*.
Two months ago, same sex married couples JUST got federal bankruptcy joint filing protection.
Inches. Bit by bit.
There's a LOT left to do.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Or perhaps accusing them of advocating genocide?
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)Both peacemakers and firebrands are needed. How much and where they are needed varies with the context, but the need for one or the other never vanishes.
When slavery was abolished, the firebrands were still needed to point out the jim crow laws, inequity, discrimination and persecution. MLK's presense did not keep Malcolm X from being a critical figure in the civil rights struggle. Even today, we still need people like Al Sharpton to point to shine a light on things like the injustices surrounding the Treyvon Martin case.
When people stop listening to him they open their ears more to the peacemakers. He makes our job easier and people more open to our words. It is a concerted effort on both parties to make these things possible.
As for how I would respond, I would defend myself in my less confrontational way and argue my position with all the facts and information I have available to me.
I disagree with your statement on LGBTQ rights. The victories have been a mix of detante and confrontation. Some states peacemakers have passed laws legalizing marriage equality, while in others the firebrands have had to bang it out in the courts. Without both groups the progress would not what it is today.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I think you were the one who asked that people not be called militants, but here you are applauding someone whose position and behavior are clearly militant.
It's ok for someone to behave as a militant, but not to label them as such?
Which do you want?
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)As was discussed before, it means a supporter of religion.
Why do you object to that word even though its dictionary meaning is perfectly okay and possibly even desirable?
Same things applies here.
Its because that term is used as a slur to insult non-believers. Not just "firebrands" but anyone who takes any type of stand. It context is almost always used negatively when describing us. Its similar to describing non-believers in religious terms or believers as mentally ill.
This is something that the most recently blocked poster from AA refused to understand even though it was explained to him many many times. Of course, that poster is still trying to play as if he can't figure that out.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)as a way of attacking others and not in any other sense. In the end, I felt that it was best declawed by adopting it's true meaning and not taking offense to it in the future.
The word militant has been used at times as a slur, but it's also been used as an accurate descriptor, which it certainly seems to be in this case. I don't think I've ever used it as a slur, but have encountered pushback when I have used it to describe specific behavior.
Your response to AC here is full of contradictions to your post about what atheists want. It addresses a movement, leaders and other things. I don't know what it was all about really, but it makes me truly curious as to what it is you really want.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)"I don't think I've ever used it as a slur, but have encountered pushback when I have used it to describe specific behavior."
And yet there you've been in the past (and continuing) leading the charge against people using words like "delusion," even when it's an accurate descriptor, because YOU think someone's instead using it to connote mental illness.
But Koresh forbid someone turn the tables on you.
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)How is that any different? The word militant atheist, or fundamentalist atheist are used the same exact ways both here and in real life.
Well, I am going to continue NOT using the word. Other people have voiced concerns that its offensive, and in acknowledgement of their feelings I am going to accept their request.
If you want to use it, feel free. I just ask that you at least acknowledge that many people object to its use.
I never used r**********a as a slur (or ever) but I have encountered push back from it's use as well.
Here is a website using it as a slur:
http://ffaf.weebly.com/
And, I am sure that the people who do use the term r**********a, also feel it is an accurate descriptor.
I never said movements don't exist in that thread. I said to quit calling atheism a movement. I never called anyone a Leader of atheism here. I don't think I used leader at all.
My post here was a response to AC saying that he was not the type of person to make elegant speeches, but the type to be provocative. Further, his comments were in regard to LGBTQ issues (not atheism) specifically and his outlook in general. My comments were in the same vein though I also brought up a person (O'Hair) who fought for the rights of unbelievers as well as MLK and Malcolm X.
My position is the same as all the other times we have disagreed (respectfully) on this issue. Atheism in and of itself is not a movement. It is a disbelief/lack of belief in the existence of god and nothing more. Atheists can be part of a movement. Movements can be started by an atheists or composed of atheists.
But Atheism is not a movement and does not have leaders.
Does this clear up my statements and resolve any perceived contradictions? Or am I misunderstanding what you are saying.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)And missed in the other thread here as well: http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1218&pid=133680
I'm willing to let the religion aspect of these political issues go. Go in peace, and believe, so long as you (not you, people who go to court to block same sex marriage, or put Prop-8 on the ballot in CA, and pass the damn thing) stop politically savaging the civil rights of my fellow humans. That's all.
I am not in this fight because I am an atheist. That's incidental. Atheism is silent on this issue. Other philosophies like Humanism speak to it, but it's a different magisterium from atheism. Hell, there's secular homophobes out there. They exist. But this is a numbers game. This is votes on ballots. And in this case, the objection to destroying DOMA, to overturning prop-8 and other hateful legislation, is that the opposition is using a religious basis for their political belief. That's the deal.
To win, in my view, I either need to disabuse them of the religion/their interpretation of it, OR, get them to drop the practice of building political positions upon their religious doctrine.
That's all. The religion/atheism dimensions of this are otherwise uninteresting to the debate.
To get them to drop the religion, or drop religious political influence, requires good arguments. Iron-clad, badass, deep philosophical arguments. The Q&A sheet in the OP is not useful in this regard. It's full of holes. I could suggest some repairs to it, to make it better, but then it's not 'from' a religious leader, and carries no weight, right?
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)I get exactly what you are saying. Especially about how being an atheist is incidental. That is why I gave you a tip of the hat.
I feel especially strong when it comes to LGBTQ rights and I wanted to let you know that your style is appreciated.
Sometimes the best argument needs to be polite and said softly. But all too often, especially when it comes to the anti-gay bigots, we have to take off the kid gloves. I don't like offending people, so I am not the best person for that job. I wanted to express that I do appreciate posters like you who are willing to do that.
I also get what you mean by the flaws in the article. I often try and debate on facebook for LGBTQ rights and I will use whatever argument I think works best. Sometimes, I will try and use the bigot's own religion against them (the golden rule is golden for that) and other times I will just attack Christianity/Islam/whatever as a whole.
So I am aware of what you mean. These arguments would be good for rallying the religious troops that already support us to the cause, but they fall flat to the ears of conservative fundamentalist. Say that the bible does not REALLY condemn homosexuality and you will get quote after quote after quote saying the opposite.
Being aware of how and where the arguments fall flat is useful information if you really want to fight it out.
Either way keep on fighting the good fight for the civil rights of others and end of life decision making. I think you make great points on those issues and appreciate that you are able to make a lot of points I would be unable to make.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)to applaud anything you want.
I think some approaches create hostility, divisiveness and alienation. This is one of those cases, but I could be wrong and not reflective of others by any means. One of the reasons I am having this reaction, I think, is because this particular member speaks and behaves the same way when it comes to issues of religion as well. Plus, and this may have more to do with me, I really recoil at the use of highly aggressive and violent language and find it very difficult to continue a conversation.
Just so I am clear, you do not object to people talking about movements and leaders that promote atheism, are primarily composed of atheists or work for causes that are specifically important for the improved acceptance of atheists and 1st amendment issues, right?
You just don't want that to be an umbrella that is applied to atheism in general as I read it.
So is how would one describe these various groups and what terminology could be used when referring to them in the aggregate?
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)If there is no struggle, there is no progress. Those who profess to favor freedom and yet deprecate agitation, are men who want crops without plowing up the ground, they want rain without thunder and lightning. They want the ocean without the awful roar of its many waters.
It is not light that we need, but fire; it is not the gentle shower, but thunder. We need the storm, the whirlwind, and the earthquake.
Where justice is denied, where poverty is enforced, where ignorance prevails, and where any one class is made to feel that society is an organized conspiracy to oppress, rob and degrade them, neither persons nor property will be safe.
Incidentally, Frederick Douglass was a man of faith. Do you feel he 'create hostility, divisiveness and alienation'?
It sounds pretty aggressive, doesn't it?
Good or bad?
The shield/sword reference I made was actually from a piece of pop culture (a video game) aping some actual religious texts.
"I have defied Gods and demons. I am your shield; I am your sword." (God tells Abram "I am your shield", etc.)
I don't know why, but it's imagery that resonates with me, because I do utterly defy 'gods' and 'demons', in the strongest possible terms, and on this issue, I make myself a servant, like a tool. Which implements like shields and swords are, by nature. Built for rhetorical battle. Which this issue is. This is not over. Court challenges are going well nationwide. But victory eludes us so far.
I'll be happy to go back to my business about stupid, mundane, personal and uninteresting shit, when issues like this are won.
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)You could call American Atheists...American Atheists or an atheist civil rights group. Call the FFRF an seperation of church and state group or the Freedom from Religion Foundation.
What I object to is making Atheism seem like its more than what it is....a lack of or disbelief in god(s).
cbayer
(146,218 posts)While it is appropriate to refer to individual organizations by their names, it is more difficult when one is referring to things in the aggregate. Even within the atheism community, terms like "New atheism" and "Atheism +" are used to describe something more than just individual groups.
When I refer to the atheism movement or atheist leaders, I am referring to something that is real. It is not meant to make atheism more than what it is strictly defined as, just to talk about things actually happening within the atheist community.
It's very hard to discuss that if you can't talk about an atheist movement or atheist leaders or use the language used by some of those groups that is similar to the language used when discussion religion.
Some of the broadest brushes used in this group are Christian, Muslim, Xtian, Jew, even though the argument could be technically made that they strictly mean something very narrow
. such as you want to keep for the word atheism.
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)Was listening to what the other person is ACTUALLY saying before getting offended*. I think that would do a lot of good both ways on this issue.
Lets say you use the term Atheist movement, I can try and understand that you mean, lets say a group promoting atheism, before replying. That said, I will probably still reply that "atheism is not a movement..." followed by my usual "blah blah blah athiesm mean blah blah blah" and you can realize I am just clarifying and not trying to attack.
But I do agree that some new nomenclature is needed. A lot of the discussions (or rather arguments) on this forum are caused by people using different definitions for the same thing. I would love for the word contra-theism or something of the sort to come into our language to describe strong atheism for example. But I don't get to dictate language....and even then I am mixing greek and latin. Maybe Contra-Deism? Whichever.
Sorry got side tracked
Anyway I agree there is a lot of broadbrushing going on. I will try and be conscious of it and avoid it myself, and if you feel that I am doing that feel free to ask if I mean it that broadly. I wont take it personally and we can avoid a lot of arguments just by asking people to clarify.
PS:
*Because this came up in the other forum, note that I said "before" getting offended. I did not say you could not get offended at all. If someone says something truly objectionable then you (general you) have a right to get offended. I am just saying to make absolutely sure that is an insult was intended BEFORE getting mad.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I am also trying to listen more carefully and get better at stepping back when I feel my buttons are being pushed. There is really no point in escalating a discussion when everyone is just screaming.
As to the other groups, if I could have one wish it would be this - that members of both would stop referencing individual members of the other completely. Actually, I would like it even more if they didn't discuss the other groups at all, but I don't think that is going to happen. But the call outs and personalization in both groups of people that either can not or do not participate there are particularly destructive.
I know that was off-topic, but I thought it apropos as we were discussing things one might wish for in trying to improve the situation overall.
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)But I think that would be a great Idea.
Both groups just respect each others existence. I think that would solve a lot of issues.
As for the aside, I do a lot of them myself, so no problem there.
Anyways I think we have come to an understanding on this (an example of peacemakers at work maybe?). Always a good thing. Until our next discussion.
Lordquinton
(7,886 posts)is that it imply something new. Atheists have been around the whole time so referring to The atheist movement kinda frames it as something new, while saying an atheist movement is different in that it could be referring to a new thing within the existing stuff. Saying "The christian movement" is kinda awkward because of that, it's not a movement, it's well established (although it's newer on the scene than atheism is )
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Hadn't thought about that angle before.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)degree we now see? That does seem relatively new to me.
Lordquinton
(7,886 posts)Atheists have realized that in some parts of the world they can speak their mind without the risk of being burned at the stake. There is no government subsidized club houses for atheists so they make do with what they can, and what is familiar to them, like gathering on Sunday mornings when everyone else is in church so they have free time to do so without it standing out. Or gather online, where time is less important, and you can connect with people all across the world in case you live in a town with little support, or the locals are right wingers.
To call atheism in general a movement is reducing it to a fad, people aren't doing it because it's cool now, people are speaking up about it because it's safe(er) now.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I think it's the next civil rights movement and the things that most of these organizations make their causes are good things. Decreasing discrimination, increasing understanding and acceptance, challenging 1st amendment violations and trying to move discriminatory laws that remain on the books are all good things.
You may not be a part of it, but there are a growing number of organizations, meetings, websites and literature among non-believers.
And I agree that that is happening because it's more acceptable to do so.
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)To make atheism look like a religion.
Some people do that because they want to say that atheism is no different than Catholicism, or Protestantism, or Sunni Muslims, or etc... To say we have a goal and a purpose. To say we have leaders and are followers of those leaders just like catholics follow the pope. To say we have doctrines and dogma.
Obviously, the people on the right who engage in this tactic do it with a political agenda. The most common of which is to project secularism as the "Atheist" Religion and put their beliefs back into our schools and government.
However, some people on the left do it as well. I don't think the left does it for the same reasons though. I think some of them are doing it because they have such a strong conviction in the egalitarian ideal and that we are all at our cores the same. I THINK they see it as "Despite our differences we all have the same needs and wants and should all get along perfectly acknowledging that fact." They then try and apply this to religion and atheism as well...which doesn't work as atheism is simply a lack of belief.
I am sure there are many more reasons people do this on both sides, but these are some of the ones which bother me the most.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)What do you think about the lawsuits brought by atheist groups that essentially say their organizations should be entitled to the same advantages offered to religious organizations? And of the groups that have sunday services and use all kinds of religious terminology?
And, lastly, why do you find this so offensive?
There are lot of unaffiliated believers, a growing number in fact. They are just believers or SBNR's. And there are a growing number of "affiliated" atheists who are attaching themselves to specific groups or organizations.
I don't see where the threat is in that.
Frankly, I don't see it coming from the left or the right. I see it coming primarily from inside organized atheist groups.
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)It can be organized, but it is not necessarily so.
I both agree and disagree with the lawsuits. I agree in that I think they should have the exact same advantages as religious organizations, and disagree in that I don't think religious organizations should have any advantages at all just for being religious in the first place.
As for the groups that have Sunday services, those people can do whatever makes them happy. It does not mean they represent me, or a great many other non-believers.
I find it offensive in that its not true. Beyond that I find it offensive in that it is trying to link me to something I explicitly rejected and all that it entails. To dogma, to doctrine, to rituals, and to beliefs all that I have rejected. It's like telling a liberal that there is no difference between them and conservatives when in fact the differences are VAST.
And yes, there are a lot of unaffiliated believers. I never said that theism is in and of itself a religion. I don't think believing in or not believing in the existence of god(s) either way is enough on its own to makes a religion. There are many Buddhist who don't believe in any god(s) and they are still religion. There are forms of Deism which while having a belief in god, do not imho fit the definition of religion. Just because someone believes in something does not make it a religion. I believe that Gorillas exist, that does not mean I am going to build a religion around the existence of Gorillas.
Not that there is much agreement on what does or does not constitute a religion. I looked it up on 5 different sites and got 5 different definitions.
The threat lies in many areas. It lies in that it supports those who want to destroy the wall of separation. It is being used to argue that secularism is an "Atheist Religion" and to argue for prayer in school and creationism in the class room and attempts to link patriotism and religion and deny us as citizens. While I get that when it comes from the left, that it is meant in a well meaning way, it still gives the other side ammunition and is no less offensive.
No, it does not come just from the right or left. It comes from all over. It comes from within and without. Even other atheists do it. I find it just as wrong and offensive either way.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)And it's ok to say so.
No one has said that these groups represent you, but you can't deny their existence just because they exist. Christians around here are often accused of all sorts of terrible things because there are organized groups that do bad things that don't represent them. This isn't about you, it's about organized groups of non-believers and those that have leadership positions within those organizations.
I'll have to take your word for it or ask for a link, because I've not seen the argument that secularism is an atheist "religion" used go argue against separation issues. I have seen the patriotism/religion comparison, but IIRC courts have ruled against this link.
It seems the best way to voice your objection is to say you are not a member of any of these groups and to challenge those who include you without cause. But you can't deny their existence.
LostOne4Ever
(9,288 posts)My laptop is on its deathbed so I'm replying from my phone.
I don't deny these groups existence, I deny that atheism is a movement or has leaders or is equivalent to religion.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)They aren't religious and they are composed primarily of atheists.
And just like in this room called "Religion", atheism is generally discussed when religion is being discussed.
okasha
(11,573 posts)The last thing the LGBT civil rights movement needs is a straight drama queen.
Please find another hobby.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)trotsky
(49,533 posts)for not acknowledging other people's experiences are just as valid as theirs, cbayer doesn't seem to think that such advice applies to her.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Like it's a surprise that I'm an argumentative person. Big shocker there, folks.
Is there no place for me in this world, no place in this debate? Do I have no justification for my outrage when I see institutionalized bigotry and homophobia? Who is she to marginalize *me*?
trotsky
(49,533 posts)You critiqued the piece, showing its flaws, without a single negative comment about anyone, and what you got was not a rational discussion of why she thought your critique was incorrect, but a roundabout personal attack.
I guess as a progressive liberal, I want our strongest arguments and strongest cases to be presented. To that end, I think we should be free to critique items like the article in the OP, and not be compared to "fundies" simply because we don't stand and applaud.
rug
(82,333 posts)You do that a lot.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)Last edited Fri Jun 6, 2014, 09:40 AM - Edit history (1)
We don't get marginalized by others here. We do it to ourselves.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)There are a few members here who have marginalized themselves. By that, I mean they are ignored by virtually everyone here, except each other. They are all hardcore anti-theists. In essence, they have created a sub group, which they are now trying to bring you into. They know that several posters have them all on ignore and that the rest of us just ignore their back and forth with each other.
One or two exhibit trollish behavior, as their only purpose seems to be disruption. Right now, they are doing all they can to get me banned from DU. No doubt they will alert on this post and I may be gone for a while.
Their last alert was close. Juror #6 nails it though.
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Explanation: gratuitous personal attack
You and I have disagreed on many things, but I've always found your posts constructive and thoughtful. I don't post here much, but I read a lot of the threads and have enjoyed many of the discussions you've had with my wife. We rarely discuss DU, believe it or not, and have had no conversation about this thread. But I do know that she has found you engaging and respectful in the past. Personally, I hope you both keep your heads above the fray and that you will continue to both entertain and enlighten us.
Peace.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)You are claiming that those you don't like have marginalized themselves.
And those you don't like are marginalizing you by alerting on your posts. The fact that you have apparently had 4 hidden posts in 90 days has nothing to do with you. But what others do has to do with them.
The bubble you have created for yourself is fantastic.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)It's amazing what some people get away with here.
Tacking on context after specifying something that is either true or false, is a unhelpful practice. It leads to things like me objecting to your grasp of a definition (in the context of that post, it was, in fact, broken, and needed repair).
It doesn't help the conversation along, and causes needless 'clarification' posts, and on and on.
Here's what I would like to see, rather than the trainwreck of useless sentiments in the OP. (The content, not cbayer, I shouldn't have to specify that, but umbrage was taken on my VERY FIRST post in this thread, so I feel I have to.)
I'd like to see the top-tier leader of a Christian sect in the US that does not define homosexuality as a sin take on his or her counter-part in one of the major sects that does hold it to be a sin. Let's see this go down. No more of these soft, fluffy 'q&a' lists that are really just assertions, and so badly written that even a non-hostile observer like myself can drive a truck through it.
I ask, because I haven't seen it yet. I've seen three major religious leaders from very different traditions sit down to debate anti-theists on the merits of religion, but I see very little effort to reconcile differences in doctrine between faiths that are, fairly similar in nature.
I see no value in the list in the OP. Totally toothless. Like I told cbayer earlier, I can't use it. What we could really use, is a point by point takedown, not of one religion by another, but one religious doctrine, by experts from a similar field.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)I understand that you "can't use" the list, because it doesn't fit your style. As you say, you are a fighter and don't mince words with the fundies.
However, we are all on the same side here and we all have our own way of fighting. I fall somewhere between your respective styles. I'm more critical of anti-theists than liberal Christian leaders.
If I were a Christian, then I would probably be the opposite. How Christians clean house is up to them. It would be great to see those like the writer in the OP stand up to the RW fundies, but this piece in HuffPost is positive and not just fluff IMO..
rug
(82,333 posts)okasha
(11,573 posts)and newbies who desperately want to be accepted at the Secret Clubhouse.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)I think the newbies catch on pretty quickly, when they realize all they want to do is fight. Not much activity going on down there besides rants about ignoring those who dare to espouse religious tolerance. Lots of about how wonderful they all are and how we are.
okasha
(11,573 posts)Which is nice, I suppose.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)to this group. Just for a starter. You can start an OP here about how they have marginalized themselves and how others have not done it to them. I can't wait to read that thread. We can move on to other oppressed minorities after that is done.
Sometimes, dude, it's hard to take you seriously. Do you even think through the things you say?
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)You are a prime example of self-marginalization. You side with individuals who see tolerance as heresy, yet you still expect them to engage you in discussions. Only one poster engaged you and trotsky in this thread, but I think he just needed to vent. We've all been through that process and I'm sure he'll soon get to the point where he'll realize that leaving you guys alone makes this place a lot better. Bye now!
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)Please explain the context of this:
Realize that is the entirety of your post. And the post you are responding to doesn't help you out much. But hey, please explain the context that I'm not getting.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)Hopefully, it will help you understand the context.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)An observation which is borne out by examining a number of threads in this group. The rabid anti-theists who don't come here to have a conversation, but to bait and smear, have successfully marginalized themselves to the extent that very few regulars bother to engage them.
Maybe you would prefer it if I used the term "alienated themselves". As I said before, juror #6 nailed it.
I do not include you in this group, btw. You stay, from what I've seen, within the bounds of civility. You don't make personal attacks on individuals and their families. You behave as an adult. An abrasive adult, at times, but I'm OK with that. I can be pretty abrasive myself.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)suggesting that I don't have a place in that debate *outside* DU. I was not speaking toward her use or non-use, or other's use or non-use of the ignore feature *here*. Post 18 was the only place where ignore lists here in DU was mentioned at all.
I just wanted to point that out really quick, because that is the origin of this thread fork. Posts 15-24 we were going back and forth about my activities outside DU.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)I'm not getting into that one. I was using it in the context of this group.
I'm glad to see the conversations continue.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)First reaction to their mistakes in writing is that it's my fault.
You talk below about acting like an adult, but when I point out that the statement you made, as you wrote it, is ridiculous, you just double down on it being my fault. That's really adult of you. My point was (and still is) valid. You initially said, very clearly, that people can't be marginalized by others. Which is bullshit. And you have never said "hey, sorry I wrote something so stupid." Instead, you snark at me about being a teacher. Again, really adult. You have now said that if atheists here, specifically, are marginalized, then it is our own fault. Which is, again, not true. Do I need to give you the comments that you, your wife, and your father-in-law have made over the years again? Do I need to go beyond your family unit to talk about the marginalizing comments that are made by other believers in here.
You wax on so much in so many threads about being this wonderful progressive liberal that everyone loves yet you show not even the most basic of understanding about what it means to marginalize someone or to be marginalized by others. Like you've never experienced it. Like you live in a bubble. But that's a discussion we have had before that you reacted to quite childishly.
But, hey, fine. I'm just some asshole pedantic teacher that was out to criticize your writing. It had nothing to do with you saying something pretty clearly that was ignorant.
pinto
(106,886 posts)Everyone responds differently to different approaches. If we are going to embrace diversity, we should walk the walk. Everyone has a place at the table. I think we agree on that point.
AIDS activism has run a parallel course. GMHC, ACT UP, Harvey, Ryan White, and the federal AIDS Drug Assistance Program (ADAP) all have played a role in getting a handle on it all. Among others. And it continues.
I encourage folks to not discount a symphony of voices.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I just find this kind of aggressiveness to be counter productive most of the time. I agree that it takes forceful action to sometimes kick the doors down, but it can become counter-productive at some point in the campaign.
When it comes to fundamentalists, I don't see it working very well, but perhaps I am missing it.
pinto
(106,886 posts)I guess there will always be extreme fundamentalists. OK, so be it. Increasingly a minority, though, even among people of faith.
I'll make the analogy to the racial equality changes in the US. Some religious leaders stood up. Along with many supporters from the general public. Change eventually happened and that change continues.
They all had a part in it.
fwiw, I don't always wear my gay badge when I advocate for equality measures. Usually, I don't wear any badge except me. Some may feel that's a cop out. I don't. I realize there's a time and place for any number of approaches.
So I pick and choose.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I was very militant about certain issues when I was younger. Now I am much more conciliatory and try to build bridges instead of setting them on fire. Perhaps that is the crux of the issue.
And there are two different issues being discussed here. One is the fight against fundamentalists that want to deny basic civil rights to GLBT people and the other is the fight by some against religious people in general.
They seem to have gotten mixed up in this thread, which is confusing. Upon reflection, I am much more understanding of a rather militant approach towards the first fight, but adamantly opposed to the second fight in general.
pinto
(106,886 posts)Every Day People (audio only) -
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Donald Ian Rankin
(13,598 posts)"3. Does the Bible really condemn homosexuality?
The short answer is no, it does not. The handful of passages in the Old and New Testaments that talk about God condemning specific sexual acts have nothing whatsoever to do with sexual orientation and everything to do with contexts such as cultic prostitution or gang rape. "
is dishonest nonsense. What the bible says, repeatedly and clealy, in both testaments, is that being gay is "hateful to God" (although not that gay people are).
Trying to pretend that those passages mean something completely different to what they say is just dishonest.
The obvious conclusion from this is that the bible is wrong.
It is entirely possible to square liberalism with the belief that Jesus was the messiah. It is *not* possible to square liberalism with the belief that the bible is the word of God.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)about the validity of a belief system.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I think it's more about interpretation than dishonesty. The episcopalians do not tend to be literalists or believe that the bible is infallible.
Donald Ian Rankin
(13,598 posts)She's saying that it says something right (or at least, less wrong) that it doesn't say.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)It's commonly brought up by the fundies and probably the hardest point to argue, so I think she is giving at least a semblance of a response and a reasonable interpretation.
Dorian Gray
(13,488 posts)have pointed out through the years posting here, most of us Christians pick and choose what to follow in the Bible.
I've picked and chosen what Jesus says is the most important commandment: "To love one another as you love yourself." The rest is superfluous.
Treat human beings with respect and dignity, no matter who they are and how they differ from you, is what I strive toward. I think I would even if I weren't Christian/Catholic. Sure, I fail. But it's who I want to be, and I'm going to keep on trying.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)I don't think anyone could follow everything in the bible!
What seems to be the case, instead of picking and choosing what to "follow," is more like picking and choosing what resonates with the moral system a religious believer has already crafted for themselves. If they are authoritarian and judgmental, they hone in on the parts that emphasize conformity, rules, and punishment. If instead they are tolerant and accepting, they embrace passages like you do.
But there's plenty for both to pick from in the bible.
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)... when asked if his textual studies offered any insight into the current social issues with which Christians often concern themselves.
He said no, because the authors of the Bible weren't concerned with the social issues of the 21st century United States.
The only honest answer to whether or not the Bible permits or forbids gay marriage is, therefore, "neither". It doesn't discuss the issue at all.