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rug

(82,333 posts)
Tue Jun 24, 2014, 10:30 AM Jun 2014

Why these Christian, Muslim and Jewish women despair at religious dating sites

Helen Coffey wants to meet a fellow Christian to share her life with, so signs up to a religious dating site. She, like other young religious women, finds the experience isn't quite what she hoped for.

By Helen Coffey
11:00AM BST 24 Jun 2014

“Do you mind if I pray real quick?”

This is the question posed by the man opposite me, the man with whom I am on a date. A first date, I might add. In a trendy, Soho cafe, surrounded by people. Lots of people. With ears.

Pray? Here? Really? I look around nervously. Before I've had a chance to utter the words: “Don't, please, just…don't,” he has already placed a firm hand on my arm, bowed his head and proceeded to launch into saying grace, audibly enough that several other tables in the joint have turned to stare in bemusement.

I want to die. I want the ground to swallow me up. It is as cringeworthy to me as an episode of Fawlty Towers, with Basil running around beating Manuel senseless with a frying pan.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/10920241/Why-these-Christian-Muslim-and-Jewish-women-despair-at-religious-dating-sites.html

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Why these Christian, Muslim and Jewish women despair at religious dating sites (Original Post) rug Jun 2014 OP
It's shocking, isn't it, Goblinmonger Jun 2014 #1
She was surprised but not unaware. rug Jun 2014 #3
I was a little surprised about that Dorian Gray Jun 2014 #7
Better yet AtheistCrusader Jun 2014 #2
You get any dates out of it? rug Jun 2014 #4
Yes, I stole my own CC. AtheistCrusader Jun 2014 #5
Hilarious! cbayer Jun 2014 #6
 

Goblinmonger

(22,340 posts)
1. It's shocking, isn't it,
Tue Jun 24, 2014, 10:34 AM
Jun 2014

that one goes on a Christian dating site and finds someone that is seriously Christian. That's a classic example of irony, right there.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
3. She was surprised but not unaware.
Tue Jun 24, 2014, 10:41 AM
Jun 2014
I suppose I brought this on myself – after all, I met the Public Praying Man (as he shall henceforth be known) on a Christian dating site. I succumbed for several reasons. Firstly, because my Christian faith is important to me, and I would ideally like to share that with the guy I end up with. Secondly, where else do you meet Christians these days? What with more female churchgoers than men, the odds are already stacked against women and sometimes you have no choice but to look outside your immediate pool. And thirdly, because I'd become really tired of trying to explain my faith to the atheists I was dating, who at best looked on it as a quaint eccentricity, and at worst just thought I was an idiot.


But she had good reasons, demographic among them, to sign up. I'm glad she shared her experience.

Dorian Gray

(13,463 posts)
7. I was a little surprised about that
Tue Jun 24, 2014, 01:39 PM
Jun 2014

I've had friends who have used a Catholic dating site and JDate. Varying levels of success. But, match.com seems to have been the most popular amongst my friends and family who have successfully met a partner online.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
2. Better yet
Tue Jun 24, 2014, 10:38 AM
Jun 2014

Whoever stole my Credit Card info used it to open accounts on Christian Mingle and Catholic Match.

So uh. Yeah.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
6. Hilarious!
Tue Jun 24, 2014, 10:49 AM
Jun 2014

I think the "generic" sites are better than the ones that really limit themselves to a certain category. You can always indicate that your jewish religion is important to you or that you are an atheist or whatever.

But if your religious identity is a critical part of your identity and it's going to be a show stopper in terms of who you date, then I guess you are going to run into these kinds of problems where some people on there are even more highly identified than you are.

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