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seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
Tue Mar 26, 2013, 09:21 AM Mar 2013

grabbed ass.

Last edited Tue Mar 26, 2013, 07:42 PM - Edit history (1)

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022567780

this is a thread in GD. i thought it interesting the direction it was going. a man states he does not want his ass grabbed. a couple men suggest, what man would complain about that. it is pretty well known that men will grab a womens ass, and women do not like it, yet men do it anyway.

so, men with privilege and entitlement feel they have the right to grab a womans ass, even though he knows it is wrong.

men are project to be all that in sexuality; so, grabbing a mans ass is welcome. why wouldnt a woman learn that men "like it" when they listen to men say how nifty it is.

this is one of my issues. this societal conditioning we give to men when it is not a reality. if a man is honest, without thinking they have to cheer their ass being grabbed by a woman, are they really going to be all for it or irritated and insulted?

i would say most men would be pissed. but, really, that is just a guess.

my 5 yr old son was kissed by a girl. he was totally outraged. and ya, i took his outrage seriously. he had every right. no, i did not play the game that he had to "pretend" like it was something he inherently wanted. he didnt. he was pissed.... to this day, at 15, i will still say something, or he will. he was so offended.

i am not seeing gender difference here. yet, as a society, we certainly created a gender difference.
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grabbed ass. (Original Post) seabeyond Mar 2013 OP
unknown invasion of personal space is unwanted, especially by strangers. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2013 #1
reading that thread, it was just more of men reinforcing that always "up" for sex thing seabeyond Mar 2013 #2
I would think that, generally speaking, most humans would not care for a Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2013 #3
hey... seabeyond Mar 2013 #4
good to hear. lurk and learn. say Hi, now and again. will be good to hear your thoughts as you feel Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2013 #6
I would imagine if these men were asked geek tragedy Mar 2013 #5
Interesting observation... no doubt you are correct. n/t MadrasT Mar 2013 #7
+1 Tien1985 Mar 2013 #8
+1000 ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #9
Yep. redqueen Mar 2013 #13
Sexual Assault period One_Life_To_Give Mar 2013 #10
This message was self-deleted by its author Orrex Mar 2013 #11
The predictable responses.... Helen Reddy Mar 2013 #12

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
1. unknown invasion of personal space is unwanted, especially by strangers.
Tue Mar 26, 2013, 09:56 AM
Mar 2013

how hard is that to understand. blindsided is blindsided no matter physically or psychologically. actually to be physically blindsided is to also be psychologically blindsided and thus, a two-pronged attack.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
2. reading that thread, it was just more of men reinforcing that always "up" for sex thing
Tue Mar 26, 2013, 09:59 AM
Mar 2013

they have going on. but, listening to the first man say no thank you. and the conversation going forward, it had me think about every man i know. and no... i do not think they would be all into a woman grabbing on their body parts.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
3. I would think that, generally speaking, most humans would not care for a
Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:02 AM
Mar 2013

surprise attack ... I am sure there are those individuals out there that ... are, outside the norm. I am sure people would handle this attack differently according to the individual and who it is that is the attacker...

don't like using the word attack ... perhaps affront ...meh. not arguing semantics.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
4. hey...
Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:04 AM
Mar 2013

i am in philosophy getting my feet wet. interesting. gonna take time. i move slowly into groups. need the feel. but, enjoying. i like

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
6. good to hear. lurk and learn. say Hi, now and again. will be good to hear your thoughts as you feel
Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:09 AM
Mar 2013

comfortable to share

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
5. I would imagine if these men were asked
Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:05 AM
Mar 2013

if another man grabbed their ass, some reactions would include violence.

Because THAT is unwanted.

One_Life_To_Give

(6,036 posts)
10. Sexual Assault period
Tue Mar 26, 2013, 03:51 PM
Mar 2013

Registering as a sex offender for life. Prosecution seems to be rare, but the consequences are steep.
Maybe I just live in a bubble. I can't imagine normal men with careers etc. doing something like that. Talk about killing job prospects etc.

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Helen Reddy

(998 posts)
12. The predictable responses....
Wed Mar 27, 2013, 11:52 AM
Mar 2013

from some regarding sexual assault on women is that...predictable. Not alarming, not maddening, just predictable.

Just call me Claire.

The wheels on the bus go 'round and 'round.

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