Reply #108: Those wishing to stamp out abortion can start promoting vasectomy. [View All]

I know this solution to the epidemic of unintended pregnancy isn't going to appeal to the Indiana misogynists, but--SERIOUSLY. It's got to start happening among the pro-choice lobby on the left, and in the medical community. The best way to prevent pregnancy is by keeping sperm out of the vagina. Smart, non-misogynist doctors and sexually active adults know this, even if they won't admit it. If the medical "professionals" of America started putting the same pressure on men to prevent pregnancy and abortion through this most reliable strategy, instead of unreasonably and illogically putting that pressure on women, offering those women risk-laden, health-damaging and intolerable "options" for doing so, while flat-out lying to them about their affiliated risks and side-effects and charging them THREE TIMES what men pay for reproductive health services, the abortion rate in this country would plummet.

Fellas? Figure it out. Stop being so unjustifiably selfish. Stop being so inexcusably and willfully ignorant. Stop expecting your female partners to do all the meaningful work to prevent pregnancy, including enduring the excruciating and traumatizing brutalization that the health "care" system subjects women to in order to get the most basic kinds of screening required to obtain any form of effective birth control. Stop thinking that your expectation that she use hormones to prevent pregnancy is "no big deal," even if it exposes her to intolerable side-effects, cancer, depression and other unacceptable pain. Just because the misogynist doctors and non-self-respecting female citizens of the world have taught you that it's okay to treat a woman like a veritable masturbation bucket doesn't mean that it is. DO YOUR PART. Stop being lazy, callous and hateful. There are better sterilization options for you than her. They carry less risk. They're not as invasive. They hurt less. They're cheaper. They don't impact your ability to have or enjoy sex, they don't damage your sexual health in a way that damages your overall health and they're reversible.

And ladies? Stop tolerating misogynist indifference regarding this issue from your male partners. Just because he doesn't know anything about what you go through doesn't mean his behavior is acceptable. It simply isn't right that you have to basically be tortured in your GYN's office, use carcinogenic hormones that can impair your day-to-day functionality, kill your capacity to achieve sexual satisfaction and be told by society and the "men" you share your bodies with under these inhumane conditions in order to enjoy the pleasures of sex without pregnancy are justified in dismissing, ignoring or marginalizing your agony. If you're worried about ever finding a man who will make the not-so-significant sacrifice that is taking control of his biology to prevent pregnancy the way most men in our sorry excuse for a civilization demand that you do, don't be. I meet real men each day who consider taking personal responsibility in this area of mature, equal relationships par for the course. And besides, any man who expects you to compromise your health and well-being for whatever sex may happen between you even when he is unwilling to take any remotely equivalent action--is not worth your time. Or anyone's time. He's not an adult, and he doesn't respect--or actually give a rat's ass--about the women in his life. You and your reproductive health deserve better. Expect it. Demand it.