DU-I need help, advice, support about anger management and cutting! [View All]

Hi. I have posted things about my teenager and am running up against a problem that I need some input and support about, from parents and young people. My teen has been active in school and our local teen peace group and art stuff. He is a good, kind, caring person who has emotional and anger management problems.

He also has a history of cutting when emotionally upset. This has not happened for a yr that we are aware of. We got into an argument last night over whether or not I had the right to ask if he and his girlfriend were still together. His input was I had no right to ask him anything about his life, shut the fuck up and leave him the hell alone. He reacts with extreme anger at the first couple words of a sentence and won't let me even finish asking what I'm asking but jumps to the conclusion I'm trying to control him and scream, flips me off, etc. Bit of an over reaction.

Anyway, I think he's cutting again. He did this in the past to deal with anger about a different living situation with an emotionally manipulative parent. We thought he was over this and was dealing with his anger in more constructive ways. We were wrong, I belive. We also strongly believe he is not suicidal, just hurting himself.

So, have any of you had dealings with this sort of stuff? My concerns are that he is dealing with emotional stuff in a very negative way, that he will hurt himself physically and emotionally more, that I need to walk the line between advocate and authority figure, that there need to be consequences for his behavior.

Input please? Thank you very much.

Edited to add-I have a call in to our health care provider and a counselor who saw him over a yr ago. He is very reluctant to deal with any of this, but I think it is time.