Reply #31: I'll bet you spent lots of years making up for your guilt at being a [View All]

single parent. I'll bet you have given your daughter this terrible sense of entitlement and I will also bet she could have gone either way but chose this way. So don't feel guilty and don't feel ashamed.

The only thing you can do is love her love her and love her. Let her know how much you love her by being really honest with her about it. Don't hold your approval and love back because a big part of her is a disapointment to you. You are not her and she is her own person.

But that doesn't mean you have to let her abuse you. Cut off her money sorce and let her pay for her own bad behavior. Cut off the conversations when they are irrational and abusive. Just don't cut off the love. Don't reward the bad, but please recognise and reward the good in her. And those rewards should be verbal not material.

PS...don't worry about being a anti-religious paranoic like some of the responses suggest. I too know a few people who have gone the fundamentalist church route and as annoying as their religion can sometimes be, it is certainly preferable to what they were doing before. At least the are working, paying bills, not getting arrested and not hanging out in bars and screwing strangers on a weekly basis. If someone wants to go the religious route that is their choice and their journey.