Reply #42: You DID the right thing [View All]

You pointed out the problem and she refused to compromised.

I could "sorta" understand if you went straight to the 100% and did it rudely. I say sorta, because she might be a "freak" about such things. We all have a "freak" point. But you at least allowed a compromise. She had no reason to even COMPLAIN. But since she refused 100%, you had no choice. That person isn't a team player. That is for sure.

I'm a smoker. I've had the flip problem of yours. I'm one of those smokers who can not stand to have people down wind of my smoke. I watch it like a hawk. If it gets "away".. I get pissed. I refuse to smoke in homes or cars if they owners are not smokers. And YES I've been told many times that I could. But I refuse to STINK up the place.

I said all that, because in my case when I'm out side, of course I try to be as down wind as possible. After standing in line for a couple of hours and NOT smoking because of the crowd (a few broke down and lite up) for an out doors event.. I lite up once were were broke free of the line. As usual, I scouted my area. Up-wind of me was a mother and child. Down wind, the nearest person was a smoker and didn't count.. but the next group was pretty far away. The Mother UP WIND of me kept giving me the "evil eye." Finaly she walked over and reamed me out for smoking in "public" and that I was harming her baby. Which because she walked up to me and chose the route were the baby was "sorta" down wind... Her baby was NOW in the line of possible smoke. When I seen her coming and were she was blindly placing the stroller, I automatcily held my cig shoulder high so the wind could catch it.

Some people are just looking for a reason to bitch. If it wasn't for the baby, I can honestly say I would have made it a point to stay upwind from her when I smoked for the rest of the day. But the childs Mother's stupid wasn't the child's fault. So after pointing out what she refused to notice before. And pointed out HOW she treated that "respect" that I showed HER and HER BABY, I advised her to move her child back up wind of the smoke.

True story. Happened when I went to see Gore in 2000 at an outside event. The Mother had to have kept that child in it's stroller, in LINE for a long time if she was one of the "early birds" like I was. And that LINE was next to a street corner with a traffic light. Which means, the child had been breathing exaust from cars all morning long. Much more dangerous then being up-wind from a smoker.

Some times you do all that you can do.