Reply #5: That is so sad [View All]

It's really true that you can't solve other people's problems - until they decide for themselves that they need to change, nothing is going to change for them. I know - I've been there though certainly not to the point these two obviously are.

Though it's hard to give up on family members, sometimes it's the best thing you can do. Only when they find themselves at the very bottom with no one to bail them out will they realize that they have to either change or die. Some do die - but it's not the fault of the people who care about them.

I'm very sorry for you and your SO - it must be hard for her to see her sister like that but the safety of you and she and especially that poor child depends on keeping away from these lunatics. :hug: