Reply #74: It depends on the woman and it's more complicated than that [View All]

I'd be pretty sure its the hysterectomy and the changes in her hormones. I'm in my 30's, but I have 4 children, all breastfed for at least a year (not cycling during those times). For me, what this did at the time was it dropped my hormone levels from Va-Va-Voom to responsive, but didn't really think about it outside the bedroom. Once I read that the hormonal changes with menopause and when the hormones are kept down because of pregnancy and lactation tend to make women feel on a similar level sexually. I guess I can say is a couple of things. First, be kind and gentle and patient. Let her know this is still very important to you and you will do whatever it takes to make her feel happy and satified, then make sure you do that. Secondly, she may need her hormones adjusted. Like Amazona said, a small dose of testosterone may help. Also, women can get, well, rather dry, so things aren't as comfortable. Her doctor could prescribe an estrogen cream that would take care of that problem.
Anyway, I hope things work out because this is such an important part of life and we all deserve enjoyment. Right now, I'm having a similar (though not exactly the same) problem with my hubby as you are with your wife, but I won't get into that. Trying to work on it though, but it is hard.