Reply #13: No but I can understand why you do [View All]

I was my "daddy's girl"....he worked and let my mom control the house and the finances... so in his spare time he basically played, drew with and made my brother and I laugh... He took us to bars with him (this was the 70's) to catch up with his old buddies and he always was up for an adventure. He died when I was ten.

My mom was always the caretaker..not a big one for hugs or loads of kisses. She wasn't perfect but she has always been there when we needed her.

Right now she is feuding with my brother...and it breaks my heart. Basically my mother was mad at her sister about something goofy. My brother decided to side with my aunt, even though we siblings told him to stay out of it... and now he won't speak to my mother.

My brother did this I think to finally "get back" at my mom for not fully acknowledging to him that she knows he is gay. He is mad that she had conversations with me about it and didn't come to him about it... the funny part is that she only recently discussed this openly with me (mom is old fashioned and it took some time for all of this to sink in)...she only talked to me because I am closer to her and I let her set the pace of the conversation.

I was helping her to come to the realization that it didn't matter that he was gay and that he was happy with his partner. My mom had had him and his partner over for dinner many times and really likes the guy but because she has been a bit uneasy about bringing up sexual preferences to him...he is mad.

So in my family's case, my mother loves my brother no matter what but he won't talk to her....so now Christmas is going to be a mess. All because my 72 year old mother is a bit uneasy about the topic.... keep in mind that my dad couldn't even say the word pregnant without blushing and you get the idea....