Reply #63: I hear you there! [View All]

I have one male friend who seems to have a pathological mania for dating what he calls "psycho hose-beasts from Hell." He dates these pathetic wastes of skin, gets horribly burned, then goes on a self-imposed period of celibacy until he meets another suitable hose-beast. Lather, rinse, repeat. The most frustrating part about it is that he's veritably *drowning* in nice, stable, well-adjusted, intelligent, attractive, etc. ad nauseam women who *desperately want to get next to him* (did I mention he's a rapidly-rising screenplay writer, well on his way to becoming rich and famous, and he's good-looking to boot?) -- but he's never interested in THEM. No, he only wants to date hose-beasts.

Personally, I think (in his case) it's his lack of self-esteem. He doesn't think he's worth any of the wonderful women, so he ignores them, or spurns them. So I think you're not alone in noticing this phenomenon.


Personally, if I were you, LH, I would be putting in major energy towards finding a new and better job. (Then again, that's what I'm dong as myself anyway.) $25K/a is NOT enough for you and a son to live on; I was making just a shade under $25K myself (deduct more for higher taxes, but add the cost of health insurance I don't have to pay for), and barely scraping by anyway.

Do you have an agency called Cartel in Cleveland? I'm not much of an expert on the US job market (more on Canada), but on the main jobsite I visit (a major one with ~10 000 jobs/day), they have tons of openings advertised for paralegals etc, usually at *very* good salaries. If they exist in your area, look them up. The job market has probably changed in the last few years; sometimes it changes overnight. (Also, a tip: If you see something that looks promising but seems to require more experience than you've had, apply anyway. The worst they can say is "No.")

Take care, and good luck.


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