How do you relate to a friend who has had a family member murdered? [View All]

I have been doing my best to bend over back wards and be patient, understanding, and accommodating.

But I am beginning to feel like she wants to draw me in with one hand, and slap me with the other. My feeling is that it is displaced anger, and I refuse to play the emotional "whip me, beat me" game.

She wants to meet me tomorrow night to return something I left at her place, but I kinda feel like I am being set up. First she can't talk to or be around anyone for a couple weeks, then she wants to meet me the next day.

I've experienced losses in my life too, but never anything this tragic. I'm not sure I am emotionally equipped to deal with this.

I just refuse to be a pig if that is what she is inviting, and will just listen and keep my mouth shut if it gets to sound like a plea for emotional abuse. It just seems like that is what she wants right now, and I'm not going to do it.

Gawd, this is really hard.