Reply #46: Now I recall you and your recent breakup. I think you are being way to hard on yourself. [View All]

You are on the rebound right now, and that is an awful and godforsaken place to be. I've been there myself, and it really hurts! Dammit! For me, it was a time when the most innocent and innocuous gestures from other "potential" mates or dates seemed magnified a hundred times over.

I don't think anyone truly had any intention to try to mislead me or take advantage of my vulnerability at the time. I think they were just being friendly and compassionate with someone, me, who they knew was feeling a world of hurt at the time. No doubt they'd been through it themselves at some point in their lives.

Honestly, I don't think women get together to plot the demise of "nice guys". I've never once ever heard or been asked to participate in something like that. On the contrary, I know a lot of "nice guys", and the greatest majority of my female friends and family are married to nice guys that they absolutely adore.

And you need some time to heal before you can seriously contemplate moving on to another relationship. Me too. It is not fair to get involved with someone new when you are still wearing another heart on your sleeve.

I wish the best for you.

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