Reply #66: It's because "nice guys" are boring as shit. [View All]

It's not about being an asshole, it's about being interesting. At least assholes are entertaining, not like boring old nice guys. The key to being able to attract a women, and not be a complete douche, is to treat her well (which is NOT the same thing as being a rug she walks all over or a kiss ass), but keep an edge. Some mystery. Some independence. Some interest.

If you are telling her how much you like her on the first date, you are doing it wrong.

If you are not making your intentions clear, and not showing her that you want her for sex or love, and instead just try to "friend her until she likes you", you are doing it wrong,

If you do everything she asks, not matter what it is (including compromising your principles or integrity), you are doing it wrong.

These things may work if your really fucking lucky, or have the looks of a god, but it's not a good, consistent way of attracting people.

Of course, none of this makes being an asshole necessary. It isn't. I'll never understand why most guys take one extreme or the other. A woman should never be treated as a goddess or a meaningless ho. She should be treated as a person. Crazy, ain't it.