Reply #58: What I see in those studies... [View All]

...is vague talk about "correlations" and comparisons between the two extremes of no spanking at all and regular spanking. Nothing there addresses how occasional spanking might or might not work for different children.


Which "gotcha games" would those be?


I had the experience during my teens of living with my very young nephew when my sister, his mother, moved back home with him for a couple of years because of financial problems. While I may not have had parental responsibility, I witnessed plenty over the charming span between around six months old and the terrible twos. (It wasn't always pleasant, but it wasn't all bad either, and I spent enough time playing with my nephew that his first clear word after "mama" was my name). I saw more of his early years visiting my sister after she moved back out again.

Raising one's voice was not that terribly effective with this kid. My sister would sit and yell, and he would ignore her (and no, just in case you're wondering, his hearing was fine).


Children aren't any one thing. A few of them are "little devious creatures", or least have that element in them to a lesser or greater degree.


A bullshit cheap shot. That you might disagree with something doesn't make something "gibberish" or "not coherent". Please point out clearly anything you could understand and I'll try to explain it really slowly for you.