Reply #5: I think he does loathe himself [View All]

and even IF "being gay" has anything to do with that, I think it's a minor footnote.

Though think about it this way - if a person is raised to "hate gays" - and then discover the tendency in themselves, don't you think there is some degree of "self hatred" generated because of that? Or hating "that part" of themselves - and then they go on to disassociate and compartmentalize themselves - *that* part isn't REALLY ME - it's just Satan (or something) - no they don't view it as part of themselves because they CAN'T - because they were raised to hate that part.

Someone who is closeted may not view their "gayness" as an internalized component - but it is most assuredly "internalized", is it not? Just not an integrated component.

I postulated some time ago (in DU? maybe, or some other forum) that for these types (the Lathams) - part of the turn on for them MIGHT be the "dirty forbidden bad" nature of the illicit behavior.



I hope you don't think I'm trying to be disagreeable and argumentative, I'm really trying to have a good conversation about this topic.