Reply #123: Women must ignore lousy men. Good men must defend. women. [View All]

That is the double standard I see.

Actually what I was attempting to say was: "Shut up and stop complaining about things that only time will cure and focus on the issues where improvement CAN be effected."

Things are better and they continue to improve over time. I say this and I get blasted. I say that the journey is not over and there is a ways to go. I get blasted for that too. I say that we are headed down the right path. And I get blasted because it's not fast enough to suit you. You insist that compliance with your demands be instantaneous and that until compliance happens all males will collectively be held responsible for the behaviour of a few. Maybe you should check out the term misandry.

I did NOT say I was coming to your rescue. I said that we males have been roundly blasted apparently for not coming to your rescue. "Do what I mean, not what I say." ranks right up there with "If you don't know. I won't tell you."

And now you want me to document my not responding to idiots by directing you to my responses? Excuse me?

Just how do you propose I effect wholesale change? Should I reform fundamentalist Islam, Christianity and Judaism all at once or may I tackle them one religion at a time?

I'll presume you mean UN-willing to effect retail change.

Well this isn't DU. However, many moons ago I had a good friend who had a boyfriend with a vile temper. Once upon a time he saved her life, so to her he could do no wrong. Talking to the bloke would not have had any appreciable effect, except possibly to get my head kicked in. What I did do, was not go home, if he was in one of his "moods" until he calmed down. He even seemed to appreciate my passive intervention somewhat. Once calm, he'd tell me: "O.K. you can fuck off now."

Perfect? By no means. But there wasn't much else I could do, since Sandy would do nothing to help herself.

And I do try to pull the emotionally immature up when their language goes entirely beyond the pale. To date my best result was about thirty seconds to the next MILF comment or obscenity. That's in person. I know I'm wasting my breath, but I speak up anyway. On a fourum such as DU where I have to do more than just open my mouth, I don't usually bother. I just plain isn't worth expending any effort for what I know will be zero result.

I do what I can, where it might or can make a difference. But I won't run my head into a brick wall just because you (or anyone else) would like to see me do it.