suddenly my 16 year old daughter [View All]

decided she will do what she wants when she wants and has basically said FU to me. i am in shock, and would appreciate any advice from you all.

yesterday she and her 14 year old sister set off to the "spot" - a place for kids to gather, well staffed with a good reputation for many years. they have been going there since they were 12 and all in all it's been good for them. camp in the summer, after school programs etc........so i had a "funny feeling" yesterday and decided to drop into the center to ease that. they were not there and the woman that runs the place told me they left a long while ago stating they were going to this place further in town where to me the kids look like "emos", play pool ping pong etc. it is located on a street filled with bars and restaurants. i found them there and brought them home. silence in the car for about 15 minutes, both of them glaring at me.

when we arrived home, the 16 year old started in on me with the foulest of language, declaring she was "outta here". she tantrumed, threw things at me and declared her independence from any rules. out the door, down the road. this was 3:00 in the afternoon.

i tracked her down at 10:00 last night, she refused to get into my car, swore at me calling me all kinds of horrid names, threw popcorn all over the interior of the car. the mom at this house told her she could not stay with her and to get into my car.

when we got home her mouth got even worse, she threw stuff at me. i tried calming her, pleaded with her to just talk to me, at one point holding her wrists. she threatened to "deck" me, then kicked me in the crotch. i walked away, trembling.

this behavior has me baffled. she states she is 16 and wants emancipation, and believes she can just stay with friends and no longer wants to be my daughter. she is on the honor roll, she is beautiful and has tons of friends, always on the go, but i always know where she is and up to now has always obeyed the parameters etc.

i have never felt so weak. last night she informed me she has had sex with 9 different guys. in my heart i know she is hurting and confused, but the violence really freaks me out. she is still sleeping.

hopefully she will accept counseling. if she leaves again, i will need to get the police involved me thinks, which would mean juvenile detention. i do not want to do that.

anyone been through this?