Reply #29: My stepGrandad will be out of hospital tomorrow or Saturday, my Gram is full of anxiety [View All]

and in full control freak/anxiety mode. They offered to get a live in nurse - no she doesn't want anyone in the house but her and her husband. They want to send someone to do more rehab at home - no, it will cost too much and someone who did years ago when he had a stroke didn't do a good job. They want her to apply for mainecare to see if it will cover what medicare and their supplement won't cover and she keeps delaying doing anything like it is just going to all go away if she ignores it. Poor Gram. I know how easy it is to get all wound up like this and how hard it is to unwind myself. I know she was stressed out for some time now worrying and dreading that something like this would happen him falling and having a heart attack and now it has and it is all coming out in control freak behavior when my MOm and I go and do some chores for her since her foot is hurt and needs to stay elevated. Nothing we do is the correct way and she has to stand there and supervise instead of sitting and resting.

Her husband is doing pretty good in the rehab center. His color and alertness is much better than most of the folks there that we saw. He is so looking forward to coming home so I hope he really is doing as good as he appears and all of Grams worries are proven wrong. If he truly has difficulties they will take him back to the rehab center and work with him some more. Before the heart attack he had to use a wheeled walker but could dress and shower himself, go to the bathroom and feed himself on his own. He couldn't cook unless it was something quick like a fried egg and get himself drinks and cereal. I think that is wonderful for a man with multiple spinal fractures that have fused, Parkinson's, and arthritis over 90!

Thank you all so much for all the good vibes already sent! I know it has helped so very much!

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