Reply #15: SAHM??? [View All]

I find that I like to talk one on one (but NEVER on the phone) about real stuff (as opposed to small talk). But it takes me sometimes weeks to get back to a fairly normal level of conversational skill. And even then I have to slow down and think.

People who talk a lot don't generally do a lot of thinking while they're talking (I think), rather they rely on ideas and phrases that they've "practiced" by using them so often. Occasionally, if I have to talk for an extended length of time, I catch myself saying things I don't actually believe because the words just come out of my mouth easily - more easily than thinking.

People forget that thinking is a slow deliberation. Talking is a mostly a social thing. People who think out loud drive us all crazy. Their speech is always full of blind alleys and false starts, all manner of flotsam, that wouldn't be such an agony to listen to if they were to slow down and edit themselves a bit.