How do you communicate your boundaries to others? [View All]

In a way that is compassionate and friendly and doesn't put the blame on any one person in particular?

I have a very hard time with this. I'm still figuring it out. This is especially true of my relationship to groups. I'm having a hard time with my church. I'm not as social as they want or , possibly need, me to be.

I am not always at worship, because sometimes quite frankly I'm not up to seeing anyone most mornings. You know how that is. But I am on two different committees/activities that meet monthly and I am always there and I always volunteer for activities I think I can realistically do.

But I get funny looks if I'm not warming a seat at worship every week. What's up with that? I'm trying to find a way to explain myself better, but I fear somehow I'll always sound selfish in this extremely social, extroverted group.

Anyone got any ideas? :shrug: