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Since we're being told we all hate sex, maybe this is something we should talk about here in a safer place.

I'll start.

I enjoy thoughtful, consensual, intimate sexual activity. I consider myself lucky to experience this in my marriage.

I've been in relationships in the past where this was not the situation, though not nearly so bad as many stories I have heard here and elsewhere. In fact, what I have experienced seems to be the norm for the vast majority of women.

Sometimes living the way we do, as part of the sex class in the patriarchy, can be overwhelming and make it difficult to "let go" to the extent necessary to fully enjoy sex. That's just how it is, imo. Those are the days I don't seek it out or accept invitations to it.

Other days, I can separate myself from the world for awhile and those are wonderful times.

I don't see that as any different from any other part of my politics. I find it hard to go out to eat in restaurants sometimes because I sit there and think about the exploitation of workers in the agricultural industry, the horrible practices of factory farming, and the fact that there are people in the world with nothing to eat.

Some days, I can't even read the news because it is painful, and because I must distance myself from that pain in order to have a decent life.

So do I hate sex? No. I don't. Sometimes I can't accept it. And I'm lucky enough to have that right in my marriage - thanks to feminists.