Reply #13: Hi cc--I'm not going... [View All]

My husband and I were having a discussion yesterday. In the throes of honesty (lol) I told him I was uncomfortable with it and didn't want to go. He was cool with it. He said he was also uncomfortable as he was only going to know the guy he works with, and wasn't looking forward to it, either. So, he seemed relieved I don't want to go. He'll get a gift to send.

They've invited us to stuff before. When we go, I've tried to get to know the woman better and it just didn't work out. English isn't her first language which isn't a problem for me. But when I try to talk with her she tends to abruptly cut me off mid-sentence, by just agreeing with me--no matter what I'm saying. :shrug: I've had esl friends and acquaintances before. Based on those relationships, I get the sense that she doesn't understand some of what I say--but doesn't want to seem like it. Maybe it's an issue for her, maybe not--I'm just guessing.

The big difference for me is that my prior esl friends were open to saying, "I don't understand you" or "what does this mean" --and we worked on communicating with each other. To the extent that they even taught me words and phrases of their language--which I enjoyed and appreciated. (I love language!) Pretending to understand someone by being rude and cutting them off doesn't do much to develop a relationship... Just makes me wonder why the hell you want me there to begin with? :banghead:

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