Reply #42: thank you for the insight.. this women probably doesn't remember either, [View All]

for a different reason, she has a history of '''alcoholic blackouts''', she has been arrested for sleeping in someones car, she left a party she blacked out in and just got into someplace warm to sleep, on the way she was wandering. one report said she has lied to police before.. but maybe her mind just automatically filled in the 'Blanks' rather than face the alcoholic shame. and alcoholic shame burns hotter and deeper than F'n Acid. that isn't uncommon, a normal persons does that all the time, to just deal with perspective.

she needs help and a 'serious recovery program.. '

from what i heard of her history she doesn't have any sort of valid case on her own. she would never stand up to questioning, thats not a condemnation, it is reality -right or wrong.. i doubt a judge would even allow her on a stand or even try this case. unless there are other people to testify about what went on. i used to do Juvenile Justice reports and represented juveniles in court for the government. it is tough in there, an alcoholic with a history of blackouts is toast, not a witness. her partner left the place because she felt threatened..prehaps the victim would have seen that too if she were not also the victim of substance addiction, and mentally impaired .. i am not blaming or protecting anyone.. this is a complex situation... it looks to me like she was doing the only job she could find to do and still drink, and a dangerous job involving sex and alcohol and young athletes. it sounds like the women were freelancing, a business would have had a make escort because things get out of hand quickly.. i was a security guard at an apartment complex that required these events to be in the activity building in a lounge and a guard present.. it was a luxury apartment complex.. and they still got way over the top for me..

as for the racial aspect of this story.. how come the only black male there didn't give a DNA sample when all the whites did.. not that he is required to..

this is a wait and see situation.. there are just a lot of variables, just info, some real. some not, some misunderstood.

but the underlying situation is that this woman seems to have a serious alcohol and maybe a drug problem.. this could just be her 'ROCK BOTTOM'. mine saved me, i hope hers saves her.

Demgurl, i was sexually assaulted as a small child.. i guess that is the source of a lot of my cynicism and general anger at injustice and republicans.

please consider a little counseling along the way, i found my ladder out of darkness when i ran across a tape set by Pemma Chodron called, 'When Things Fall Apart'.. it explained a lot for me, meditation has really changed my life..i am not so concerned about enlightenment as for the clarity and stability it gives my life, i quit drinking and got married. my childhood assault really messed up my whole life.. and i was an autistic child, vulnerable and helpless.
it made me a person you didn't want to mess with.. i developed some serious verbal skills and was always on guard after that, i still sleep with weapons and i am 57. not a pleasant way to live..

for those of you who don't know what a blackout is... here is a story

a friend of mine was going to go down the street about 6 blocks and score a couple grams of coke.. he stops by 7/11 and gets a 16 oz beer to drink waiting for the 'man'.. he sits back out of sight in the entrance of an old church and about the time he finishes the beer.. 10 cop cars with lights and sirens blaring and 20 cops jump out and point shotguns at him and start yelling 'throw the gun out'!!
he is yelling i got no gun.. they rush him and cuff him and pull out his gun.. and the $1400 he robbed from the 7/11... he is seriously confused and then the one Wise cop asks, 'What day is it?', he says Saturday.. the cop says Wrong..Wendesday.

as a 30 year alcoholic, sober 6 years i can validate that alcoholic shit gets real deep real quick. it is a roller coaster ride till it kills you. the movie 'Groundhog Day' is about alcoholism, everyday is the same.. till you change it.

this womans story is tragic... but it is just one stop along her journey through the hell of addiction.

this post is essentially about the underlying causes of events and not about guilt or innocence