Reply #171: Thank you for your wise words... [View All]

My son had issues with me for years. Granted, he had reason to, but that's beside the point. I've never met a Perfect Parent except for the ones who proclaim that they are, but anyway...

My son had issues with me.

then he had kids of his own.

Now he understands. He understands that no parent consciously sets forth to hurt his or her child, but does the best s/he can using whatever knowledge is in the "toolbox", so to speak. Whatever we learned from our own parents.


My daughter has never had issues with me, but I'm not sure if it's because she just hasn't acknowledged a lot of justified anger, or maybe she just got a different Mom than my son did...whatever...she has a child also. She now understands that being a parent is one of the hardest jobs anyone could ever do.

Their life with me wasn't as horrible as mine with my own parents. I had lots of anger toward my parents for a long time until I got into a 12 Step group, and I was able to work through it. I now see them more kindly.

Each time I was tempted to hate my parents for what they did, I imagined them being helpless little children living lives I could not even imagine. It does help in the healing process...

:)