Reply #8: I don't have to imagine, being pregnant and a mother of two young ones... [View All]

My third pregnancy, unplanned and unwanted, but oh well. I was married, we were financially well off (he still is, I didn't fight the divorce as I should have, 'nother story, back on topic...) so I wasn't in the mind of having an abortion. At about 12 weeks, I was doing some pretty hefty yard work and started bleeding. Called and went to the doctor, choices for the area were either a catholic hospital or a 7th day adventist hospital, my doctor was part of the 7th day adventists hospital.

After an ultrasound he told me the fetus has slipped and wasn't properly embedded in the placenta. I saw it and in fact it was nearly out of the uterus altogether. He tried to insist that I stay at hospital and basically spend the time till delivery on my back. Now my hubby at the time traveled extensively, so I couldn't possibly see this as an option. No one to care for the two I already had, and (lucky for me) no one to bring me anything for the hospital stay.

I left to go get my things and never went back. Miscarried in the bathroom a day later. Then I went back in for a D&C and the doc was really pissed off. One because I didn't return, but also because I didn't fish the fetus out of the toilet to bring to him. It was just surreal all the way around.

Within a year a had a full hysterectomy. It was quite unnerving and angering to have to be exposed to the decisions and judgments (personal primarily) of this doctor and his religious affiliation. Had I not had some mildly similar issues with my first born post birth at the catholic hospital, I wouldn't have thought to lie and not come back, I would've refused and perhaps been in the same position as this woman.