Reply #130: calling you names [View All]

would accomplish what? Would it make anything better?? would it encourage you to consider a point of view other than yours? Would it let me vent some anger on you- ..maybe... but to what real gain? and at what cost?

You can call this man names, you can desire and fantasize about all kinds of terrible things happening to him- you can blind yourself to the reality that the family of this man are victims too- but consider that your inability or refusal to care what happens to them only makes you more like what you claim to hate. The decision is yours. Don't think you are the only person who ever feels the rage- the anger and that unspeakable emotion that rises up when witnessing suffering and atrocities, when we are hurt, frightened, grieving. Our first instinct when hurt is to hurt back. We do CHOOSE to stay stuck in that cycle? or to respond differently.

Life doesn't give us what we 'deserve'- :shrug: If you live your life treating people the way you believe they "deserve" to be treated, you will have condemned yourself to a life of unhappiness and misery. You can't control ANYONE other than yourself. Even controlling ourselves can be more than we are able to do sometimes.

Forget the name calling- forget the tit-for-tat, re-acting to others and letting their actions dictate yours. Listen to YOU- "Shell Beau" and live the way you know to be right.

i will call you friend- and encourage you to think for yourself. And if we don't agree, that's ok. i still call you friend.

peace