Reply #5: Unfortunately, the elderly sometimes insist on their own discomfort, [View All]

not realizing the danger it can put them in. Case in point, my grandmother came to visit a few months after my first child was born. My ex-hubby didn't like the heat on past 62 at the time. But as she was visiting and older, he said if she was cold, turn the heat up. So I kept asking and asking, "are you sure you're warm enough, we'll be happy to raise the heat." "No, she was fine," she kept saying. Then six months later I hear through the grapevine that she's been complaining to everyone that we made her sick because we wouldn't raise the heat.

I admire your efforts here, but older women particularly, tend to insist on being left uncomfortably, perhaps so they can have something to talk about later, or whatever. I've many friends who have similar stories when it comes to elderly grandmothers or mothers, though I've never heard the same about grandfathers or fathers. Maybe it's a generational thing, I sure hope so, I hope it dwindles as newer generations of women become elderly.