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Edited on Sun Mar-07-04 02:59 PM by SoCalDem
The stunned acceptance that a young man or woman feels when they are first injured is act one..
You see, no one ever goes into combat expecting to be "the one" who "gets it".. In their minds , there is a little movie playing , where THEY are the one who races to the aid of a wounded comrade, scoops them up , and carries them to safety..flash forward to the medal ceremony, their Mom & Dad, beaming with pride.. That's the mental image that young , and not so young soldiers carry into battle.. In their "movie" , they are NEVER the one writhing in agony in the mud, as they reach for the source of the pain, only to find that their limb is just not there anymore..
The immediate aftermath is critical to survival, and modern techniques have saved many lives, that in the past would have been lost. The injuries are so devastating, that it takes months of rehab to even recover enough to leave the hospital. While in the hospital, the soldiers are catered to and cared for well. They are often depressed and lonely for their families, and are eager to return home..
A permanently maimed soldier is of no use to the active military, so they are released from the military and into the open arms of their families. The happy ending should start with that release, but it's just the second act. Now they have no more solicitous nurses, no attentive doctors, no V.I.P. visitors to bolster their spirits.. Lots of these young people were poor when they went into the military, and they are now poor AND handicapped, and OUT of the service.
If he/she happens to live a great distance from the nearest VA facility, the hassles are just starting too.. It's hard to re-start their lives, when they are caught up in an endless saga of long drives, long waits, and piles of paperwork.. The thing that they don't tell the soldiers , is that services are often denied at first, as a test to see how determined they are to actually make the military provide those services.. For a healthy person this is a daunting task, but if you are seriously injured, depressed, and lacking reliable transportation, it's just that much more difficult..
The medical disability pay is a bit of comfort, but it does not EVER make up for the fact that where there was once a young basketball player, or a young mother, there is now an amputee, who is probably going to have a much harder time finding meaningful work, IF they can EVER return to work.. Artificial limbs are state-of-the-art these days, but they are very expensive, and take some getting used to.
Once the "rah-rah" fever subsides, and life goes back to normal, there is the reality, that evryone else may be able to find that "normal", but for the injured soldier, there will never be "normal". There will only be "a bit better", "not quite as depressed","having a bad/good day" , or "doing as well as can be expected". For the family members, there is a constant reminder that they almost lost that person, so the temptation is there , to always go easy on them. For young wives who may have not had much "pre-injury" time, there is the frustration of not getting what they bargained for, and the guilt for even thinking it. For the parents, it's got to bother them, that they did not have more money, so they could have sent him/her to college, instead of the military..
War wounds last forever..and they affect more than the injured
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