Touch Football and Television

| Ernest Partridge |

I belong to the last generation to experience childhood without television. And I have often wondered what was lost when the children of that generation deserted the playgrounds and moved inside to watch the tube.

It is widely reported that many children today spend more time watching television than they spend in a classroom. Thus as a child sits alone, hours on end in his own private world, he fails to learn the fundamental rules of social interaction - the necessity of compromise, accommodation, and empathy, which is to say, the ability to see the world (oneself included) from another's perspective. Instead, his world is the world.

A library of books and articles has been devoted to the topic of the impact of television on the developing brain, and upon society a large: the consequences of watching, alone, millions of advertising messages and thousands of simulated acts of murder and mayhem. I will not elaborate on that subject here. Nor will I discuss here social-psychological-cultural consequences of the dawning computer/internet revolution, which might well prove to be even more profound than the impact of television, a half century ago. Then, that new medium held great promise of social benefit, a promise which, as we all know too well, was overwhelmed by commercialism. The internet today now offers similar benefits and faces similar threats.

However, instead of examining the impact of television then, or the computer today, I suggest that we ponder the psychological, social and moral advantages of spontaneous play - advantages that may have largely been lost to us with the advent of television.

When children rush on to a playground at the close of school or on weekends, something wonderful happens, much more than is apparent to the casual eye. If the children begin to play an informal game (a game without referees) - touch football, soccer, or one-base baseball (we called it "one o'cat") - they immediately embark upon a competition in a context of cooperation.

Inevitably, disputes break out, disputes about which rules are to apply and whether or not they are violated. Was the forward pass thrown behind scrimmage, and was the runner tagged ("touched")? Was the hit fair or foul? Was the soccer ball intercepted in or out of bounds? Remember, there is no referee to impose a ruling; it is up to the players themselves to settle the disputes.

If the dispute is severe and unresolved, the game ends and the children quit and go home. Usually, the children tacitly agree that continuing the game is more important than winning an argument. So the dispute is resolved, often with a coin toss or by "taking turns" on yielding. Children who doggedly refuse ever to yield soon find that they are not invited to play.

Out of such activity, a sense of compromise and fair-play emerges, sentiments essential both to democratic politics and to social morality.

Sadly, and inadvertently, some of these moral lessons may have been lost with the advent of Little League football, as umpires and adult coaches impose decisions and directions that might better be worked out spontaneously by the children in their unsupervised play.

Indoor activities have also changed dramatically with the advent of television. Card games and board games, like playground games, have given way to The Tube. And pity it is, for such activities develop a capacity for empathy - the ability to view the world from the perspective of another person.

Military strategists since (and doubtlessly before) Sun Tzu, twenty-six centuries ago, have insisted that the first rule of military engagement is to know the mind of one's opponent. Legend has it that the game of chess was invented as a device to train military officers to do just that: think like the other guy. "Getting into the head" of one's opponent is also, paradoxically, essential to diplomacy and peacemaking.

But more fundamentally still, many moral philosophers including Adam Smith and David Hume contend that moral behavior is founded in the "moral sentiments" of empathy and benevolence. This insight, which I endorse, is reflected in The Golden Rule - a precept found in all the world religions.

However, this is not the approach of Bush and the neo-conservatives. Their approach is never to talk with the "enemy," but instead to crush the opponent with overwhelming force. Knowledge of the mind of the "enemy" is regarded by the Busheviks and neo-cons as irrelevant, or else it is dogmatically assumed, with no attempt to examine and confirm that assumption.

As the leaders of my pre-TV generation retire, the TV generation - "the baby-boomers" - take their place in Congress, and in top management positions in the corporations. To the boomers, "winning" is more important than the maintenance of what the framers of the constitution called "domestic tranquility." The symbiotic relationship between workers, entrepreneur and investors is being been supplanted by parasitism, as the wealthy impoverish the middle class which is, ultimately, the source of their wealth. Uncompromising competition is eroding the context of cooperation which allows the "games" of politics and commerce to continue and flourish.

Meanwhile, consumerism is replacing citizenship, as we define ourselves less by the ideals that we share and more by what we individually own or aspire to own. As Robert Putnam points out in his book, Bowling Alone, "civil society" - voluntary participation in sporting teams, lodges, community service organizations - is declining, as more and more individuals withdraw from their communities and migrate to the couch and the tube.

Such an aggregate of alienated and narcissistic individuals is, as we are discovering, more easy for the wealthy and powerful, in control of the mass media, to manipulate. And this disconnected aggregate is less inclined to solidify into mass movements of dissent and reform.

Is all this happening, at least in some small part, because playgrounds and board games have been supplanted by television?

Quite frankly, I just don't know. But I have my suspicions.

What do you think? Really! I'd like to read your take on this.

Let's continue the discussion at this site or at crisispapers@hotmail.com

-- EP

I know I did. The heck with touch. The Tv may have been on for 20 mins a week up til 16.

I hear that. I agree with a lot of what Partridge writes in this piece. I grew up when cable TV became the norm, but we never had cable until I was a senior in high school. For most of my childhood we had no watchable TV or just one station (Armed Forces Radio and Television Service, which had the extra advantage of showing no commercials), so my brothers and I didn't really get into watching TV or playing video games the way our peers did.

I also agree with his notion that self-organized sports are better for you. Even now as I approach my 40s, I still prefer pickup games of football, basketball and Ultimate Frisbee to anything in a league format.

It wasn't because there was anything really bad on. It was just a nice day or even a crummy one was too good to be spent inside the house. Disputes were mostly settled by "forget about it, we'll get it back", which we did mostly.

I agree pickup games are much better. Minimal politics involved.

the almost daily sandlot game in an open field a block away from our house. In fall and winter it was football (tackle football in a foot or more of snow was always a hoot!). Fishing, biking, heck, there were soooo many games and diversions.

We had a TV (black and white) until just after the moon landing in '69. It died shortly thereafter and my father didn't replace it until my senior year in high school. I didn't miss it.

more physical activity of the less-organized type. And that and the arts are the first things cut. Nowadays, even the 3 R's are cut. Schools do not get the funding they need to do the kind of job they used to do, and the fear of lawsuits (justified or not) have taken the props out from under such efforts.

Parents, trying to provide safety and enough cash to live on, find they must restrict their children's freedom to the outdoors. There aren't any mothers home, any more. Not enough to make a difference. And those that are home are regarded with suspicion, usually rightly so.

But with parents so little supported in any phase of life: economic, social, safety, health; we are lucky that so many kids do make it to 20 alive.

This is not the '50's, and TV didn't make this world. Corporate greed and political miserliness did.

I watch my fair share of tv, my favorite program The Walton's and The Lucy Show, tv can also teach what playing outside once did, but it also can teach things we wouldn't think of learning in our own neighborhood.

We have to move with the times, maybe video games and tv are teaching kids other lessons in life, maybe just not exactly the same ones we got. Education, truth, and moderation, are the keys to a happy life!!

Just look at the commercials to see that. They glorify anti-social behavior. And alot of video games with the exception of The Sims is not about the art of compromise.

Those abilities are gained when one is very young. If you never have a stable environment - like if you move around the country, as my family did because of my dad's military reassignment - you never gain those skills.

I know I haven't. My parents never had those skills. My sibling didn't. They didn't encourage play with the neighborhood children, or dating, or anything. And the times I tried, and failed, they calmly said "I told you so."

In that environment, television was the only friend I could have. And despite its many failures (Desperate Housewives, anyone?) it has been a very good friend.

I realize this is probably going to call for cries like "See a shrink" (they're frauds and con men) or "meditate" (only to go to sleep) or other crap. It doesn't work that way. There are some people who are meant to be alone. There are also some people who are meant to go into classrooms and kill a bunch of people. Nothing in the world can change that.

But at least with TV, I never found the need to kill other people. I call that a success.