First of all, I must disclaim that all of the following may seem somewhat arrogant to you, coming from a person who has been on this forum for so little time, and may even be seen as ixy asking for a ban... but hear me out.
Yesterday, one of our forum members posted a link to a post on the techievampire.com blog, which was a point-by-point answer to the "A special letter from a New Yorker" posted here on DU a while ago. The person giving the link promised that the post would make us "spit fire," and by god, it didn't disappoint. It was vile and foul, and simply made me shudder in its inhumanity.
But then, what happened?
Dozens of DU'ers, including yours truly, flooded in like sheep, read the post,
flew off the fucking handle (understandably enough) and FREEPED that post for all it was worth. Of course, the real FReepers came in afterwards, with kudos and "you go girl's" for having riled those stupid "DUmmies." And you have no idea how painful it was to read those
anti-humanists (I'm not calling them conservatives out of respect to my good and intelligent friends Z., C.S., A.J. and others) gloat all over the page with comments like "All the personal attacks that have been waged against her by the DUers doesn't prove their point. In fact it proves that she was right about them." If you want to, then go back to the page, read them and weep.
http://www.techievampire.net/wppol/?p=725 Don't know about you, but to me, it was just one notch below hearing Osama Bin Laden give a FUCKING ELECTION ADDRESS to Americans 3 years after 9/11.
One of the FReeper posts congratulated the author with a "smashing success," which evidently means "having managed to trigger a fountaining barrage of bullshit from everyone involved," as if there wasn't enough of that particular compound in our lives.
You might ask, "Well, ixat, if you're so damn smart, what did YOU do when you read that post?" Excellent question.
I followed the link, read a few paragraphs (all I could stomach), and I flamed. I flamed!! My posts were some of the most sedate on the page, but that's not saying much, and the fact remains that I was no better than anyone else in the end.
Come on people! We're not just FReepers who happen to support gay rights! We're Progressives, ferfucksake, with a capital P! We are willing to pay extra and risk our good for the sake of others... How about we, myself included, make the small extra sacrifice of not indulging our immediate urges and swallowing flamebait hook, line and sinker? How about each one of us thinks, "What do I really hope to accomplish with this kneejerk rant? Do I really think this will help my cause, or will it help the people I'm up against, by reassuring them that they're not the only ones who spew vomit and sewage on forum boards?"
I can hear your objections, that they're too far gone, they'll hate us anyway, that they live on a different wavelength from us. But you know what? Right after 9/11, I went around doing the unpopular thing - urging caution, telling people that we cannot lash out blindly, that we have to do this the smart way, that we have to eliminate those who are too far gone, yes, but also make sure that we're not hated so much by those who aren't. The response I invariably got is, "Well, they're going to hate us anyway." Not true! It's obvious to anyone who takes the time to think about it that jerks are hated more than non-jerks. Come on, is our case not strong enough as it is? And isn't that why we are here, because we were drawn not by empty rhetoric, but by cold hard facts?
I don't care how you rein yourself in - finger your lucky charm, bite your tongue, think of the passage in the Bible where Abraham warns Samson not to fall to the wiles of Canaanite women, or make up your own fake Bible reference - but we would do very well to behave with restraint, and that includes every one of us, because a community is only as civil as its most foul-mouthed member. Sure, the DU forums are defined upfront as a no-holds-barred stomping ground for Progressives, and I'm not advocating a change in forum rules here. After all, there should be a place where a Democrat can unwind and preach to the choir, right? However, when it comes to responding to external posts, especially hostile ones, our creed should be "Honor, logic, common sense, and restraint." Can you imagine if, instead of the 100-odd entries of screaming rage, that blog got just one, that read something like this:
"Having read your post, we find it offensive to our very sense of humanity. While we entertained the idea of debating you on the issues that you raised, we feel that any debate is pointless in light of the inflammatory rhetoric you chose to employ. We hope that in the future you may find the will to resist such juvenile urges. Signed: DemocraticUnderground." Nice, concise, and mature. Let'em try and gloat about that.
Hardcore FReepers will perhaps remain unmoved, but hardcore FReepers are a rather small segment of the Internet population. Let's face it, we can laugh all we want at our own zingers, but doesn't it smack just a little bit of a circle-jerk? When we post on external sites, we're not a self-contained community anymore, and what are we hoping to prove by giving 100 comments that sound exactly like the thing we deplore, only from the opposite side of the political spectrum? Let's try and not give "them" the chance to say about us, "well, see, they're just as bad! We flamed, and then they flamed!"
I would feel unfulfilled if I didn't make another concrete suggestion. Since DU is all about organizing efforts, how about we create our very own "crack response team," comprised of people who can state the case as clearly and civilly as possible? Mind you that I'm not nominating myself for the group, not having that much confidence in my ability to refrein from cheap shots.
I hope all of this made sense, and I hope that this is the start of a good thing.
Ixat out.