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Are people with no empathy. If you want to study serial killers Get up close to a bully,an abuser,a wife beater or person who mistreats animals.They are IMHO not mentally ill. I say that because they cannot feel empathy.They cannot imagine what another person feels as the other person is not really real to a sociopath.To them other people are tools to exploit,dolls for their amusement,and to be used.
Sociopaths are what makes living in a society of people miserable. Bullies,con men,abusers,narcissists,they are lesser versions of full blown sociopaths,and they too are responsible for alot of human misery in relationships.
If sociopaths are dishonest andwon't let themselves be studied and if no one can help them develop empathy enough to live among others once they are past certain ages, than what do you do?
Sociopaths apparently see other people as thier toys.Sometimes a person makes bad choices and reformers desire to overide a sociopaths choices,and thier compassion does not make them change.And innocent people get hurt by this misguided sense of empathy for those with no empathy.And it is the victims who need empathy. Not the killers who decided to have no empathy.
Pedophiles have very high recidivism rates.What they do to kids for 'fun' can hurt a kid for the rest of their life. So how many "chances" are you willing to risk an innocent kids mental health for life because you want to reform a pedophile who does not want to reform himself,who sees nothing wrong with his fetish that scars kids for life and does not care really who he hurts? Why risjk it,for what,hasen't the pedophile given up his freedom because he chooses to not police himself? Sometimes you have to cut your losses even with human beings.. Because some human beings have chosen to be inhuman and can't live among people anymore.It's treagic but how much are you willing to risk innocent people who do not deserve to be subjected to a sociopath who has chosen to not control himself when he isn't cocerced,babysat and supervised by a cop with a gun?
If the sociopath refuses to change and control himself ..And refuses to be honest about it,and is only lying about changing than what can you do with someone unwilling to change himself and who to do what he wants will lie about it..onvincingly? You can stop believing he will change after a certain point.An abused person will never be able to love or tolerate an abuser into deciding to stop abusing them.Change comes from within a person alone,not from other people's pressure,reward or punishment games, or coercion or misplaced trust from others.They appear to change when they think they won't get away with doing what they want to do.. If you think about it sometimes sociopaths are in effect saying they want to die because they simply will not choose to live at peace with others and respect them. Maybe the time to convince them to make another choice about their own character is long past. So you cut your losses.
An abuser of trust,is incompatible existing within the confines of the real social cohesion factors that make human beings able to cooperate and exist together,Cohesion factors like reciprocal trust,empathy,peace,and equality.
I don't like the state doing the death penalty because states are as a structure nearly sociopath itself. I think the state is bigoted racially.I think the state is unfit to decide life or death. I think convicted criminal sociopaths should be sentenced by the victims they hurt.In a manner that disallows cruelty.
I don't think sociopaths,abusers,bullies or narcissists are mentally ill at all. Thier behaviors serve them in thier social contexts well.If it was unprofitable to be an abuser and nobody tolerated it,the bully wouldn't do it,they'd do something else.I think sociopaths are basically sick in their character.And they like being the way they are. Society rewards them. So they are unwilling to be any other way.They have no reason to change that is good enough in thier own heart because they can't feel why they are wrong.. They are sick in their heart in a way where they can lie to the point they have shut down their own conscience and empathy maybe at first it was not conscious,but as they got older it may have become a conscious choice.Abusers know right from wrong.And they don';t care as long as they can get away with it.Bullies bully because they can and believe no one around them will restrain them or stop them..And this makes the abusive person incompatible with any group of people.Sociopaths are incompatible psychologically and ethically with any people in any culture that survives through encouraging honesty,equality,anti abuse, integrity,peace,cooperation,negotiations, and good relationships that are mutually satisfying . And if a sociopath person refuses to live and let live,and abuses people,and kills them,they have decided to exile themselves from the rest of us who choose to get along,and not beat,maim,abuse and kill,by their chosen actions.
We kill dogs that bite people.They are dangerous. We don't bother rehabbing them for a reason,usually..because they bite. So when does a human being decide to become as a rabid dog why do we let them go on to abuse and abuse again?? Is it because they are humans in body only that we spare them and let them abuse? When is enough enough? Society gives perks to abusive competitive power seekers who lie the best.Look at the shallow,two faced,dominant, glib, popular, sarcastic players in a group they are "on top" because they hurt others and get away with it because of charisma and the way our societry relates to certain narissitic people in a way that identifies with them in a unhealthy way aklmost like an enchantment. It's a game narcissists like exploiting just fine.. Society on some level has a form of Stockholm syndrome .That is why we elect the same criminals we do to lead the country,and support dishonest politicians that time and again lie,produce scandals, and abuse our trust. Too many americans are like battered spouses politically. When people are honest enough to admit abusers are abusing them and that is not OK , there is no excuses or reasons for it at all AND CALL IT WRONG,things will change,and some sociopaths will find a reason to give up thier bad behaviors,it won't be profitable for them anymore. .For a society to have empathy and integrity we ourselves have to have it and stand up for it even if it means risking our comfort and not being a bystander.
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