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Do that and you can't go wrong. In previous generations, the "three rituals" were pretty much accepted without question. Some areas of the country are overwhelmingly Catholic, and these sacraments are looked at as rites of passage against the backdrop of the religion.
I was raised Catholic. Since I was baptized as an infant, I obviously don't remember it. But I had godparents, an aunt and uncle, that gave me extra gifts for Christmas and birthdays-- yay! As I grew older, I came to appreciate the gifts they gave me- not the presents I mentioned, but the spiritual gifts. My godmother passed away last year at 87, and the example she set for me helped form my spritual course, even though I did not remain Catholic.
First Communion was a way to more fully participate in the Church. Along with Communion, though, comes Confession. While there may be negative repercussions associated with this, learning to account for one's behavior is, in my opinion, a generally good thing; Confession helps with that.
Confirmation was a big thing I really looked forward to. I hadn't really hit a questioning age yet, as my environment was still pretty universally Catholic. Confirmation, though, signalled the end of having to go to religious education classes. That is the way many Catholic youth look at the sacrament, which is a pity.
I'm a Presbyterian now, and we are far more understated in our views of these events. Baptism is done before the church, and may or may not include some sort of reception afterwards. Gifts are pretty much optional, and it in a practical sense, it is kind of an adoption of the child by the congregation (the congregation even takes a vow to help raise the child). Communion is strictly a personal thing, usually handled by the individual family, with little or no fanfare when the child takes Communion for the first time. Confirmation is something that classes are offered for, but there is not a set age when a youth is "supposed to" attend them. Confirmation for a Presbyterian means joining the church. And it is not a given that the young man or woman will join the church at the end of the class. My oldest son, nearly 18, has not joined the church; my youngest who's nearly 15 joined a while ago. My wife, who was raised a Presbyterian, did not join a church until after we were married. That's one of the things I prefer about my new denomination is the flexibility that recognizes variations in the individual spiritual journey.
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