My freeper husband just slammed me because

I slammed Bush for cutting the funding for the levees and that I am always looking to blame him for everything that goes wrong.

Said I always go after people in authority and cut them all down and that they do a better job than I could in their position.

*steam releasing from my ears*

Hell, I could, and I'm none too bright.

way here. It is an oasis in the insanity.

So could most of us here because we'd be doing SOMETHING! Not just looking for photo-ops with aircraft carriers! This is a national emergency, for God's sake, and Bush* only took time out from his vacation to make a speech about WWII! Too little, too late, Mr. Bush*! The situation in NO has gotten out of control while you did nothing!:grr:

Welcome to DU, LordBinkyTheBuffoon! It's great to have you with us! And you sound plenty bright to me, LOL!:hi:

I would have to leave him. Sorry, but life is too damn short to live with such people.

If not call him a poser and make fun of him. :) Does he like wearing costumes? Maybe if he wore a pirate hat he'd feel more manly. ARRRRR PIRATES ARE COOL SWABBY!

He's wearing a secret service cap...was never part of the secret service...and didn't even go there on a tour?

Sorry...What a tool.

Must...not...laugh...*bites lip*

Quit yer lip quiverin' and bring me some more rum! ARRRRR!!!

I'd tell him he's a big wimp and chciekn to go there...

My hubs can be a real asshat but if he were a freeper, boy howdy, i'd get him to a neurologist quick..

sucks not being able to talk with him about the deeper issues in life... makes for a very superficial relationship.. but that's the way it is. I like him just fine when I can forget he's a freeper. *lol*

Print it out and then give him something to read.

even if they had rebuilt the levess if they had come down I would have blamed bush for wasting all that money.

(Hubby is REAL good at putting words in my mouth)

:evilgrin:

sorry to hear bout your hubby!

That would probably do it!!!!

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:hug:

hopefully he'll apologize to you later :hug:

attitude and an olive branch like, "let's hang out and play a game".

But at least I get that much. Some guys wouldn't even do that.

I think you deserve an apology even if it comes
tomorrow .

Do you apologize if you are a jerk to him at times?

:hug:

can hear me. Modelling, dontchaknow. And it works, too, because the kids know how to apologize.. at least some of the time.

Flood his bathroom.
Empty the fridge.
Turn off the A/C.

Tell hi mto walk to safety asap.

he would not vote for me.

If he EVER says anything like the above to you again, calmly restate what you heard, then say: "I don't like what you said. Was it meant to hurt?"

If he does not respond, or responds with more of the same: "I don't like what you said. Was it meant to hurt?"

If it keeps up, I would seriously consider whether or not remaining in the marriage was a good idea.

Julie

not to escalate the mess. But I will give it a try. :^)

No sex.

It's CLEAR that the money was cut to prevent this, after months/years of entreaties to fix the levees.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=104x4552583

I'd tell him that people have known this could be a problem for years and both Democrats and Republicans are at fault for it. Right now though it was Bush who slashed the budget for the New Orleans engineers by 44%. It was Bush who sent our National Guard over to Iraq so that the Louisiana Guard and their high water vehicles weren't in place to help. It was Bush who did nothing for the 2 days that it appeared the worst would happen, and then did nothing for 2 days after it while people were dying. There are many people to blame, but just ask him what he'd be saying if this had happened on Clinton's watch and he had just cut the funding of the New Orleans Engineers by 44% prior to the hurricane.

Show him the photo of Bush eating cake with McCain and strumming a guitar and then show people dying while he's doing that. Ask him how presidential that is. And Bush had the nerve the other day to compare himself to FDR! Bastard.

And he has rhetoric.

saying I wanted to make this political when I talked about the levees.

I feel your frustration!

Molly Ivins said it best. This is a perfect example of how voting affects peoples lives. Yes the hurricane would have happened no matter what happened or who was in power. The point is that policies helped create this disaster. Policies keeping money from the people who were trying to protect New Orleans. Policies to not effectively evacuate the city.

Policies put in place by politicians...that were voted for.

A disaster isn't political. If the ramifcations of the disaster kill people because of bad public policy...that IS political. It MATTERS who you vote for. For some people in New Orleans it was a matter of life and death.

Death won.

saying I wanted to make this political when I talked about the levees.

I feel your frustration!

It feels like the battle lines are being drawn more than ever. I have relatives who avoid me now, and that's just going to have to be ok. There came a time to choose one path or another, and my path is diametrically opposed to theirs, and they, in my judgement, are a part of the problem.

But good luck to you and remember there's a new perspective on a different day.

home, and I broke it my complaining about ** dragging his feet and the levees. I think his comments were to punish me for that.

I seriously don't mean this in a snide way or anything, but do you feel your values are in synch with your husband's???

in terms of gay marriage, choice, funding welfare, cradle-to-grave public education and healthcare etc... we aren't even close to being on the same page.

Ditto for religion. He's a conservative fundagelical (but at least not a Bible thumper.) I am a theological liberal..

So what we have in common is:

we love our kids,
we enjoy some of the same past times
Did I mention we love our kids?

...and I don't even have a dog.

sorry but he's Freeper and thus totally Worthless!

Boy, I bet that is an interesting marriage. :)

talk religion and politics and just look like two people raising their kids. :^)

Redstone

sharp as a wasp sting.

Weirdly enough, we really do love each other in a Carville/Matalin kinda way.

:hug:

Are you my sister in Huntington Beach? Similar marriage.

:hug:

website about re-election **? The owner of that site's wife is a dem. And she IS sorry.

Love makes us do weird things sometimes. *g*

and all those in like situations

communication and respect are key
if you can see that through and be that example whenever you can it can make a real difference

im not saying you dont do that but just a thought in all this that i know has made a positive impact in whatever relationships i have (family and love etc)
it takes time - oh does it take time and patience - but it really matters

best and warmest wishes friend
youre right - love can make us do "weird" things

him. Now she's an atheist. :shrug:

:hi:

They blame him for everything already.

freepers only don't blame Clinton, maybe once in a blue moon.

It's like Clinton is superman.

now that's a kinda funny way to look at it. :)

make a call to James Carville.I'm sure he has a few answers!

for something!

that shows a survivor calling for Bush's impeachment. Show him that.

Hard to believe they are already thinking like that, when the poor souls just went thru hell.

I have been ranting for days about the National Guard being mostly in Iraq...My husband, although not a freeper, seems to be an apologist for the current military policy (he was a military brat growing up). It is fucking frustrating.

"You only want to cut him down" I came back with "Well, tell me what he is doing RIGHT?!"

He didn't say a thing.

week for us financially and gas prices are going up, he is going to be grumpy because he is worried. Turns into a real bear when he gets panicky over not being able to buy groceries and gas

You have my empathy.

said we should make it through the weekend.

if he were still in office, even if Clinton and his Congress had fully funded the Corps of Engineers and FEMA (which they did).

I don't know how you do it, my husband's a liberal, I'd freak if he were a bushie.

At least I am not the only one shocked by that. :)

few years. I was very late to the parade. :^(

Live and learn. I married a real dandi, myself. :)

my husband can be a heartless bastard too. He isn't freeper, but, still we can't all agree on everything.

no telling what draws opposites together. Fate will just hookem up. :)

I was busy looking at other things, and totally missed the welcome. I am SO glad to be here. You all seem like a bunch of sweet folks..I hope to stay a long time, if you'll have me. :)

I'll trade you a fundie husband for a fundie sister?
Peace i know it's not easy living in a red blue family.

but a FRINGE *eye roll* one.

*hugs*

(huggles) hang in there Im giving you lots of positive vibe today.

vibes, things are doing better here now. So go ahead and turn the vibes back to NOLA. :hugs:

contribution. he has gone to his republican friends for them to jump in with him. he is disgusted with bush. tell your husband, my husband is a midland texas nra card carrying republican that sees his party is in disgrace. and we have taken all safety nets away. that we the people must now do the job the govt was menat to do

a Tx lib? They exist??

I hope things calm down for you. That's a rough spot to be in. Best of luck. :)

that it would be something else.

I will say this for him:

he's a hard worker and a good provider for the family,
has a great sense of humor,
never goes out with the boys but stays with me instead,
and helps people when he sees them in trouble.

Sadly, that last one only applies to people in front of him.. that's what makes him a freeper.. he can't extrapolate to people who are just numbers.... Cons just do not get it that way.

Because your situation reminds me so much of a woman I met while canvassing for Kerry. She was a Green who was married to a wingnut. We knocked on the door and chatted with her for several minutes about the election. Very nice woman. Then her husband arrived and engaged us in a shouting match over how we should "get behind the President in a time of war". :eyes:

I guess mixed marriages are tough, huh? Hope you are feeling better :hug:

Make certain the kids are liberals and vocal about it with him. Your frustration will sink and his will skyrocket. Evens things out, dontchaknow?! ;)

:hug:

Aaaarrrrgggghhhhhhhh!!!!!! What could be worse? Please tell us he isn't a fundie nutjob.

evangelism comes hard to him, so he keeps his views to himself. And he is cool about playing D&D and listening to secular rock and so forth. I think that if it weren't for the fact that he is a pastor's kid he would be a bit different.

Then again, one of the plusses of him being a PK has been that he would rather stay home with the kids and me than go out on boys' nights. :)

I mean, just from a sanity perspective....If my wife and I were diametrically opposed I would have left her YEARS ago...

No-one needs that sort of aggro in their personal lives...

to fit into FundyWorld at the time.

But I kept him and ditched the fundy mentality, hence the odd relationship. :)

besides, had we not married, we would not have made these guys: http://www.curvynovels.info/vacation2005/vacation2005.htm

one of those "redneck" types that chew Skoal, and watch NASCAR? The old stereotype of southern conservative?

JESUS..


tell him I said to go fuck himself. (sorry, I tried not to be mean)