Dysfunctional Nation

I have come to the conclusion that this nation is now officially in my books “One Big Dysfunctional Family” and I will tell you why.

I came from probably one of the most dysfunctional misfit families to hit the planet. They had every dysfunction known to man arise in it. And here is how a dysfunctional family works. You tell me whether or not this nation isn’t extremely dysfunctional.

1. First and foremost what you learn in a dysfunctional family is NOT to trust. It is everyman for himself.

2. You are taught to not ask questions. You are shunned and belittled if you ask any questions in a dysfunctional family, do as I say not as I do is the talking point within such a place.

3. You are fed misinformation. Like number 2 you learn early on, don’t ask don’t tell is the way to be. If you don’t adhere to this insane logic you are labeled a troublemaker.

4. You expect the worst. You are always ready for something bad to happen, because it always does, so you start to expect it as being the norm.

5. You are labeled and belittled because of who they decided you were. You learn that you have a role in the family and no matter how hard you try; you can never remove that label or role of who they labeled you as in their eyes.

6. They squash any enthusiasm for anything that makes you feel good about yourself or the world and they beat you down for having such silly beliefs. (That will never happen, what are you crazy?)

7. Your creativity is abolished. You live amongst a code of law that you are either with us or against us mentality. Any difference or unusual behavior is beaten out of you.

8. You live in fear. Tying in number 4 and 8 you live in a world of complete fear, fear of speaking, of processing or thinking and caring. It is the number ONE thing that makes a dysfunctional family work so well.

9. You are the reason for everything that goes wrong in the world. You hear a lot if it wasn’t for you their lives would be better place.

10. And last but not least you learn denial. You learn that your family couldn’t possibly be as bad as it appears because nobody could be that bad right?

I spent the last 20 years of my life removing the debris that my dysfunctional family put upon me. I have succeeded at removing myself from these people and their ways of life and have brought two other lives into a world without dysfunction. Now I find myself trapped in another dysfunctional world, where the leaders of our nation are the parents, and I have no choice but to accept this once again.

Well people, I am not going to accept it anymore. If people can’t wake up and see that what they are doing amongst their own family (our nation as one) and realize that by living this way you are staying in a cesspool of dysfunction, then I say the same as I said to my real family, see ya later.

Part of me has always wished that I could be stupid and nascent like my family was, drinking the kool-aide dysfunctional drink they all drank (not to mention the tons of beer also) and simply believe that I was always right and everyone else is wrong. I encouraged myself to be completely different then the rest of them in every way shape or form any way that I could. I prided myself on achieving this without having a family and alone in the world with my own children away from dysfunction.

Now I wake up everyday and I feel the world around me swimming in dysfunction, anger, fear and denial. No one thinks that they can do anything about it and everyone is feeling frustrated; yet anyone that makes any suggestions on the contrary is hammered down from all sides as being unrealistic, insane or any other name people come up with. Well you know what folks, I’m tired.

Just as I had for most of my childhood I have truly given up hope. It seems like we are all fighting amongst ourselves instead of joining hands and forces like a functional family should act. No matter how much logic or passion or creativity you come up with you get beaten down. Well I succeeded at walking away from what some have stated was an “Extreme Major Dysfunctional” family and survived to talk about it and I am now feeling the need to walk away from this family that I have here, my birth country, my family of a nation, that I was once proud of but now would rather forget I was ever an American. I honestly feel like any other country has to be better then this one, because this is one hell of a dysfunctional place, take it from someone who’s been there.

Yeah freepers have at it. But let me tell you this. I got to see my family 20 years later, and their way is killing them and making them look like crap. I on the other hand look 30 years younger and better then any of them combined. You tell me, does dysfunctional living making you all feel better about yourself, because if it does, bet you look real good yourselves. Thanks for listening.

front of the family - abusive, neglectful, etc. I think it's a good analogy.

Thank you. :hi: Great analogy!

family, and it's taken years to achieve my groundedness. It's ironic to be "recovered" from the stinkin' thinkin' of one's family, only to see the country run by dysfunctionals, and so many Americans practising denial in a huge way.

enlarged version.

Crazymaking it is, the lies, the scapegoating, the denial of reality, it's all there.

where a woman said that democratic societies that have a large faction of religious zealots also have high rates of suicide, abortion, and other social tragedies.

:kick:

It needs help....like the rest of the world does too!

you had me on this one:

5. You are labeled and belittled because of who they decided you were. You learn that you have a role in the family and no matter how hard you try; you can never remove that label or role of who they labeled you as in their eyes.

and maybe (just a little) this one:

6. They squash any enthusiasm for anything that makes you feel good about yourself or the world and they beat you down for having such silly beliefs. (That will never happen, what are you crazy?)