Does first-sight love really exist?

I spent most of my life believing that no, it doesn't.

I now question that belief, because I have met someone that causes me to think and react differently.

I'm in love, but she'll never know!

Infatuation at first sight does exist but not love. Love needs time.

But both both love & infatuation have similar first-stages.

If you are just infatuated rather than in love with them. The two are easily mixed up. Love is not infatuation and infatuation is not love.

I think that you can be seriously attracted to someone and have great chemistry, but love is more than an attraction. It's a great theory, but I don't think it's an actuality. If you feel it though, go for it!

One must know a person well to truly have love.

But that does not mean the relationship won't turn to shit years down the road. :o

but enduring love is hard work :hi:

only because there's so many superficial stimuli involved...I DO know that it's entirely possible to fall in love with someone upon first *encounter*. I think especially with the way that meeting people and/or dating is changing due to the internet this is going to become far more common as well. :)

My wife and I were completely smitten with each other before we even saw each other in photos, let alone in person. We truly are that million-to-one couple that was just destined to be together, I think. In three more months I'll have known her for two years and we haven't even come close to an argument yet. I shudder to think where I would be now if I hadn't met her, because I barely had the will to live. Now, the other less-than-perfect areas of my life don't bother me one-tenth as much as they used to and I'm making all kinds of positive changes to myself and my environment that I didn't even contemplate before.

As for you, I hope that somehow you will be granted the opportunity to explain to this lady how you feel, and that she will surprise you by giving you a fair shake. In the meantime don't give up. It took me until I was 33 so anything can happen!

I can't say it enough. That is so great!!!!! I hope all goes well for all your future days.

I explained to her how I felt by email (she no longer lives here), and am now waiting for a reply. I don't think I went overboard. Here is the text, you decide?

I was crazy about you from the moment I met you. You woke pieces of me that hadn't been exposed to life for a decade. I know, I must sound like a loony schmuck, but I knew immediately - now I'm getting somewhat fearful.

I spent ten years in a mental dream, and you immediately woke me up. I thought I was too old to experience that, but there it is.


Please don't say or not say good bye due to this message?

I am a good person, and I can't help feeling what I feel.

I will, without a doubt, regret sending this until you say it's okay?

uuuuuggggghhhhh.

----I don't expect to hear from her after that!

The first time I heard my husbands voice I knew he was something special. The first time I actually saw him, I knew he would be the love of my life. Fortunately for me, the feeling was mutual. Been together over 20 years now.

Like some others have said, maybe it's possible to love someone after your first interaction with them (I would doubt that, but I'll at least consider that it's possible) but you don't know shit about someone by just seeing them. I think a lot of people are misled into believing in love at first sight because they fall in lust with someone at first sight, then get to know the person, and _do_ fall in love with the person -- but that's not what the concept of love at first sight refers to. Personally, I think the concept is also a way to bully people into looking good all the time, because really, not many people are going to say they fell in love at first sight with someone who's "ugly" by whatever their society's beauty standards are. Therefore, love at first sight is sold to us by the media, who clearly have an interest in keeping beauty/bodybuilding magazines, beauty products, clothing designers, and the like in business. Not to mention that studios can make horribly tacky, simplistic, appealing movies and music around that concept. I know that might sound overanalytical, but it makes sense when you really think about it.

Love at first sight is a MUTUAL THING. If you are feeling it, so is she!

may have scared her off with my email (see earlier post).

In 99% of my life, I am in control, both mentally and emotionally. This 1% shouldn't have been made public probably, but it is worth more to me than the rest.

We laughed, talked and made a date for dinner the next night. The next day I told my two best friends that I'd found my other half.

Six months later I moved in. 15 years later we still are awed by our luck in finding each other.

Common? No. Can it happen? Who knows....