Why does it take death to open people's eyes?

I just found out a friend from my high school died in a car wreck today. And all I can sit here and think is, it could've happened to me. Details of the wreck aren't being released yet, but it happened on one of the busiest roads in the city. I don't get it. We're all told that we should live every day to it's fullest, but yet the majority of us don't. He died one month before graduation, one week from prom. He'll never have a future.

Can someone tell me WHY we continue to send our troops over to a place that only God knows if they'll make it out of?? Obviously our so-called leader really hasn't experienced loss in his life. It makes me so unbelievably sick to know what this man is doing to our families, friends, and loved ones. Anyone got any hugs to spare? *steps off soapbox*

My husband died two and a half years ago and it made me realize that if you want to do something then you should do it.


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Thank you for the hugs! How did you move on? I'm in no way in your situation, but I imagine it must've been hard for you to move on.

But I'm working on it. Things that help are working, going out with friends, drinking a lot (I joke). At some point maybe I'll meet someone else - but I am not looking. Just like to know that I have lots of support.

Will there be a service for your friend? Will you attend if there is?

It's really great to hear that that's how you got through it. And it's a good thing that you're not looking. Everything that's supposed to happen, will.

There will be a service, but I'm not sure of details as of yet. I will definitely be there. This is the second time I've had to go to a funeral for a friend, but the last one was when I was 11 so it's different now. It's going to be hard because a lot of his friends are on Spring Break and won't even know.

Even from those who you haven't met yet. Keep working on it and I hope I've been of some help. :hug: :pals:

Thank you again.

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we all think we're going to live forever until we have our own brushes with it. Sorry to hear of your loss. Here's some more. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

I've seen it up close twice (once was my aunt another was my classmate. Both when I was just a tyke.) and I've had so many brushes with it myself that I sometimes wonder why I'm still among the living. I also had a close friend who committed suicide in my early 20's and that one was the hardest to take. I'd really rather die myself than see someone else go again.

Something tells me that Bush and the ones who support him have either never seen death, are mentally ill, or quite frankly just don't care for themselves or others. Which in the last instance irks me to no end.

Or they might just be aliens from other planets?

You're exactly right about us thinking we'll live forever. It's not like we run around saying "Hey, I could die today." It's kind of the black cloud that no one wants to face. We're human and it's understandable.

I'm sorry to hear about your friends and aunt. I can't imagine a friend committing suicide. I really honestly don't know how I would be able to deal with that. What do you think got you through it the most? Thanks for the hugs. :)

and realizing the fact that it was the fact that it may have been chemically induced. He was taking Ritalin and drinking at the same time which I didn't know at the time. I found that out later. I knew about the Ritalin because he was hyperactive but I didn't know about the fact that he was drinking.

After his death, a group of us who were kind of drifting apart because of life got very tight and we still keep in touch. If we don't have each other, what do we have really when you stop and think about it?

it was more of an accidental thing? (You don't have to talk about it if you don't want to, I understand).

Your last sentence makes so much sense. It really makes me want to pick up the phone and call everyone I've lost touch with. It's very ironic I suppose.

You mix that with the thing that he was having an affair with a married woman, beer, his medicine, and the fact that he had a gun all mixed together to create the tragedy. Which is why my home will more than likely never have a gun in it.

You should because friends are a big help when something like that happens even if it's just catching up on old times.

It just sucks that things had to end up happening that way.

You've inspired me now, think I'm going to run up my phone bill tomorrow. Thanks for sharing your story with me.

Uh, something like that?

One of the students died in a car wreck December of our junior year..he was only 17..a star athlete in cross country/track and a great artist. He would have had a great future, probably could have gotten a scholarship to any University and gone on from there..

:hug: Time does help heal things a bit, I can't even imagine what things must be like for the parents.

And I understand what you mean about the war in Iraq..accidental death is tragic enough without throwing men and women in harm's way senselessly. Bush came off really callous today in his press conference...ugh..

Well, I hope you can feel a bit better even though I know that's not much of a consolation. :grouphug:

That's really sad about the guy. It sucks to think about how much they could've made a difference in the future. I guess we're both really lucky.

Time is our best friend and worst enemy. I know the pain will go away, but at least we won't ever forget their impact on our lives when they were here.

Couldn't have said your third paragraph any better. Though I couldn't bring myself to watch the press conference today. My poor stomach couldn't have taken it! Thanks for the hugs!!

The randomness of death and the sorrow of never being able to fill the void left by loved ones taken from us... more than we can bear at times.

My best thoughts go out to you.

I'm not the only one who's lost someone, but it does feel nice knowing that I have support on here. Thank you again!