What would you or have you sacrificed in the name of love?

Turn down a promotion? Get disowned by family members? Postpone a dream? Just how far would you be willing to go for someone you love?

And if you did, did you later regret it?

So long as I was sure that the other person would be willing to do it for me as well.

Just kiddin -good ol John Cusak

never done such a thing myself

or sacrificed something to obtain or maintain it?

But it was reciprocal. Never told her either.

And yes, I regretted it.

No, to be honest, I sacrificed a scholarship. And yes, I regretted it. Immensely.

:cry: :cry: :cry:

to stay closer to my girlfriend at the time (now my wife). I ended up paying to attend a school closer to home, and they didn't have my first choice for a major. It was an incredibly dumb decision that led to other dumb decisions in my life.

If I had it to do over again, I would have taken the scholarship. I think our relationship would have survived, and I would have been in a much better position career-wise. I've regretted that decision for a long time.

Despite the fact that I have made some profound sacrifices and made some dramatic decisions in order to try and find it -it has proved very elusive

Sigh. Too bad they're a package.

Care to elaborate?

No way!

I hope you find a way to find peace with your compromises. I admire your commitment to your children.

Or the attempt at it, anyway.

I hated every minute of it...I regretted it then, and I still hate even thinking about it.

It took me way too long to figure out NOT to make decisions based on someone that you are not 99.99999% positive you want to spend the rest of your life with, and seal the deal with a wedding ceremony.

I realize how that sounds, and I didn't get married until I was almost 40--but, I am so glad I waited---no regrets there. I never screwed up anything permanently-

everything worked out for you in the end. And some things are definitely worth the wait. :-)

Thinking about it briefly, I'm not sure I've sacrificed much, at least in a large sense like you are referring to. I did quit a job to follow my partner to a new city and a new job for her, but I was planning to leave the field I was in anyway. So her moving was just a convenient excuse for me to do something I was planning on doing anyway.

Prior to that, we lived on opposite sides of the continent for six years, and never even considered moving to the same city until the circumstances allowed for both of us to pursue our own dreams at the same time in the same place.

Life moves full circle, and now we are in another position where a move may be necessary (I hope not, though), but we wouldn't do so unless and until we knew that one of us wouldn't have to sacrifice major personal goals. Regrets come too easily, and can spoil a relationship faster than anything (at least in my limited experience).

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Peter

I almost sacrificed my sanity for one woman years and years ago. God she was bewitching! I still think of her from time to time.

and no, I don't regret it.

I have made choices based on love but I would not consider it sacrifice. I gained much more then I could have possibly lost.:pals:

Your SO is very lucky

And I've crossed continents and oceans a few too many times on that quest, too. Considering packing it in, but I'm not sure that Don Quixote streaks give in so easily.

I'm still willing to. No, I've never regreted it.

Stay in an incredibly stressful situation so we both can be there for them on a daily basis until I'm able to makes things better.

I have sacrificed many, many things in the name of romantic love- postponing dreams and changing the essence of who I am it has often felt. Especially the latter part. Over time, I realized that isn't love, but codependency. Someone somehow is out there I can mesh with. There aren't many really. I don't have a problem with people thinking I'm "cute", but someone I can really feel at ease with or fit with on ALL levels (socially, emotionally, physically, spiritually, intellectually) has proved to be very difficult in life.

I never regret what I do for my children. I have many other regrets from years back that haunt the Hell out me wondering how I could have been so stupid.