*sigh*

I think some of you remember when I posted two weeks ago, that I had been completely dropped by somebody that I was close to. The way she dropped me was so sudden that it feels like there's no closure. I still miss talking to her, and I still want to talk to her. She won't talk to me, and hasn't answered the last e-mail I sent.

Any help on how to get rid of this stupid desire to talk to her? :-(

she likes that you're on your knees, begging...

and I hate feeling like I want to talk to her. Sometimes I just can't help my feelings. :-/

i broke it off with my last bf in november. we were living together for 2 years. he called me at least once every week for a couple of months after he moved out, despite me telling him that we could ONLY be friends and NOT to call so often to give me time to totally get over him. this was not out of the blue either. it was after many many months of his disrespect towards me and my subsequent angst.

after about 5 months, he only called every 2-4 weeks, which was better. he left for jamaica (he's jamaican) at the end of april. i don't even know if he's back and haven't heard a peep since.

i miss him a little sometimes, but we broke off for a reason and to continue the pain would be masochistic, imo. he kept begging me to call him but i never did this whole time, sometimes it was hard not to, but if you're determined not to repeat your mistakes, you must steel yourself not to contact him/her. it gets better over time, really.

they say it takes half the time to get over someone as the relationship lasted. that could be for the dumpee tho...

I'd agree. Don't give her the satisfaction. Cry your eyes out and start to move forward. That's all you can do sometimes. If someone can't see a person for both her inner and outer beauty, cherish her love, or even merely give her the respect and civility she deserves, it's obviously not your problem or fault, it's the the other person's.

You need to distract yourself until you no longer have such a strong feeling; leave the usual haunts, (and if that is the computer, leave it) and do something else to take your mind off it.
Ask yourself why you would allow yourself to be treated like this.
Then you will be stronger for it.
One who has been there, done that.....

that I have to myself, I keep thinking about her. Fucking silly, isn't it?

but here it goes

"if you love someone set them free , if they love
you , they will come back."

:hug:

"if you love something, set it free, and if it doesn't come back to you, hunt it down and kill it". Seriously, one of my best friends from high school (I'm 61) and I have not had any contact for over a year now over Bush/Clinton. It finally got to the point that I was allowing myself to be bullied by this person, and one day I had just had enough and decided to let it go. Sometimes it bothers me, but for the most part it's a better world now. You will get over it, trust me.

The sooner the better. I'm not the type that really desires companionship, but I know most people aren't like me. I think you'll get over it if you have somebody new in your life. I know it's got to be hard to let go of her, especially the way she just dropped everything. But she's not worth your trouble if she treated you like that.

Works for me.

but at least you get a buzz out of it.

need and deserve. Then when she crawls back, and she will, then drop her back.

You can do it. Just go do it.

The best cure for heartache is getting back in the game, IMO. There's nothing like an exciting new possibility to get your heart racing again.

You are a beautiful and intelligent woman, I am sure you will have women knocking on your door, if you demonstrate that you're open to the idea. :-)

DTH

:-)

And I call 'em like I see 'em. :-)

DTH

I wish I had some words of wisdom for you; but my only experience has been with an ex boyfriend who got married. Once I found out that his wife was uncomfortable with me anywhere in the picture, I never tried to contact him again.

It was the right thing to do.

Sometimes the best thing to do is the hardest. Sucks, eh?

that they'd be a lot easier to do.

I can commiserate with you on that note-

I read what that other poster wrote about you being beautiful; I was so busy concentrating on the misery index, that I didn't mention that. It's true.

Stephanie

"Whatever you're not looking for will come a-knockin'."

Try not looking for someone like this. Things appear when you least expect them. :)

Don't say that! Everyone has told me that & I'm sure at this point it's not true ... don't look, don't look and STILL don't find... ugghhh! I guess single life has made me a bit cynical :nopity: :)

or something to that effect ;-)

& it still doesn't boil? ugh!

that has worked for me numerous times:

"when it rains, it pours"! money, relationships, etc., i have examples of all!

there must be someone else out there for you.you are to good to put up with her, so just forget her and get on with it! i know it`s sounds easy but guess what?it really is... good luck...

I'd rather let my pain heal itself before I go out and find someone else. If I do that right now, I'd be ignoring what's hurting inside me by using someone as a quick fix.

Personally, I've never looked at it that way, however. The key, IMO, is just keeping an open mind and acknowledging your pain and how that might affect you, and at the right time acknowledging those things to your new partner.

I've never had a problem with "rebound" relationships, when I've done that. And I feel like I otherwise would have missed out on some great people, if I'd not let myself date again as soon as I did.

DTH

Not exactly original, but it helped. Eventually, the desire to call went away.

For some reason, a bottle of wine and a good friend always worked.

don't waste too much time on someone who is not interested in you, for whatever reason...its not worth it. maybe you can connect later, but maybe not. i know it's tough, but you have to accept **what is** now and give her some space. she may not be able to communicate with you for reasons that have nothing at all to do with you. that's probably what it is, in fact.
((((((((((((slinkerwink)))))))))))))))))) been there...

it still sucks though. :-(

if you are intent on connecting with her. some people just require a lot of work, and if she's worth it, you may have to swallow your pride and go for it. sometimes you have to be the bigger person to get what you want, if she's worth it to YOU. is she worth it? if so, then go for what you want...just be true to yourself in the process. best wishes :hi:

It'll take a while, but go out and do stuff, or do your usual hobbies. Update your personals advert. Eat some yummy scrummy smurfy ice cream!

Don't send her a barrage of e-mails, or she'll block your account and you'll get e-mails from her ISP.

:silly:

At some point, you have to come to terms with the fact that even if her not wanting to be with you was spurred on by you..she treated you poorly and you are mourning someone who would treat you poorly...

as strange as that sounds.

you have to confront why you would miss someone who has treated you poorly

the chance to work it through. Now that you made every attempt, and then move on. It's rough, but do able.

Hugs,Laura

No playing any music that reminds you of her, either.

Time heals all wounds (and wounds all heels, like people who mistreat you).

The only other advice I can offer is to create your own marinade recipe for chicken, and then share it on here when you've tried it!

Actually it's hard but just try your best to not wallow in it too much

:hugs: :pals:

Stay strong :(

Why that need is so powerful, and how you might get that need met by someone who is available to you.

It may seem right now that no one else will do, but with time and some work it does get easier to face the loss that comes with the territory of wanting something from someone who won't or can't give it to you.

Good luck!

:hi: