Okay, I should have done this a LONG time ago, and it's about time I did. Anyone remember back in June, I posted a thread about how I was having girl troubles? Well, for those that forgot or never seen it, (it's in the old DU) here it is...
http://www.democraticunderground.com/cgi-bin/duforum/duboard.cgi?az=show_thread&om=10239&forum=DCForumID69&archive=yesAnyways, 2 days after I posted that, I went up to her house and asked her out. At first, I was a little afraid. But, after some quick regrouping, I went to her door, and she was there. We talked for a little while, then I asked her out. She said exactly "I would, but I just broke up with someone else, so I need a little time. But, I'll consider it." I thought it seemed kinda good...but she also told me the next, and last day before she went on a three week vacation, was the day before she left. So, I went over to her house that day, and she wasn't there. I tried again twice more, and she still wasn't there. To be honest, I got a little suspicious. Where could one be before a three week vacation out of state? Surely not gone the WHOLE day...
So, I never saw her before she left. So, I waited for three weeks, living like I normally did, until she came back. I was incredibly hopeful, i'm naturally optimistic like that. I even had plans for that weekend (stupid me...). So, she came back, and the day after she did I tried again, and she wasn't there. I tried again, 2 days later...I eventually had to call everything off.
Kinda see where this is going? Well, it was like that for pretty much all of July. It was incredibly emotionally and spiritually-draining. It hurt so much, and it felt worse every day. It wasn't just her, either...all of the sudden, all but 2 of my friends had girlfriends. It made me even more jealous, then lonely, then sad. Then, to make it worse, the friend I already described in the other thread started to "taunt" me about it, almost...ever since then, him and his girlfriend started to hang around me more, of course together and kissing and groping and whatnot...every time I saw them, I wanted to barf. And, it almost seemed like they were doing it deliberately in front of me. I know it prolly wasn't, but it really seemed like it at the time. Of course, making me only more jealous. I also felt like I had no one to turn to...not even DU. I felt like a total failure, and I really didn't want to come off as a kid that was way too emotional. (Don't worry, I don't see it that way anymore)
It started to get really bad towards the beginning of August...I would snap at any of my friends for the tiniest little thing, especially if they asked if I was ok. I honestly grew to hate that question so much at that point, I kept hearing it all the time. My parents and I basically never spoke by then. I would just ignore them, and they'd ignore me. I felt like it was only my faith in god and a few of my DU friends that got me through this. I knew this couldn't go on for much longer, so I decided to give her one last chance. If she doesn't show up at her door this time, I'll be done with her. So, I went to her house....and no one came. So, obviously, I decided I had enough, and I haven't gone back since. I stayed away from my friend's houses for a while, and it eventually got a lot better. I thought it was gonna be smooth sailing for the rest of my summer, and I could enjoy it, for once...
For the most part, it was good, but every so often, I have a night where all I can think about is how stupid i've been or how lonely I feel or how jealous of my friend's happy relationship, like tonight. Except, it's been happening a lot more in the last week. Every time I think about it, I feel more stupid. And no matter what I do, I always seem to think about it. Usually, it's some event that triggers it, however, but it can be anything. And, I just can't stand it anymore.
Which brings me to tonight. I went to the Minnesota State Fair tonight, and I went to the DFL exhibit. I went to the Kucinich table to meet a fellow DUer, and while I was listening to a guy talk about Kucinich, I saw this girl with her dad...she was really cute, and she had a Che Guevera shirt on (and DFL exhibit + Che shirt = LIBERAL!). On the surface, she seemed to fit the bill of my dream girl. I think I normally would have played that off, but something struck me about her...dunno what exactly. Then, of course, I couldn't help but think about the situation i'm in. It had me down for a few hours. Then, when I came home, I saw my neighbors were having a bonfire. Now, I had written a note I was gonna give to the girl I asked out, but I never had the chance to deliver it. I went over there and started a conversation. So, when I did throw in in, one of my neighbors asked what I was doing...and I told them a little about it. Then they just got on me...saying stuff like "oh, don't worry about her, there's other fish out there" or "you should date around and have sex with every girl in the school" and stuff like that. I guess they were trying to help, but they seemed kinda drunk too. It really didn't help at all becuase their theme was "you're 15, it's impossible for you to have feelings for someone else".
Sorry if I bored you already. I really do hate bitching about this too, I hate making people feel bad for me or just boring them with my story. I thank you if you made it this far. Now, what i'm asking is...how do I get over this? Is there anything I can that would help me get over this? It bugs me to no end that I have trouble dealing with this, and it all seems like my fault. It makes me feel so stupid. Any advice is appreciated greatly....